• Bedtime Scrolling Is Out, Emotional Regulation Is In (Week 1 of no screens after 9PM)
    Nov 9 2025

    So… I’ve been going screen-free after 9PM for seven days, and... it might be changing my life?? In this episode, I’m sharing the very real, very unexpected impact of putting my phone down at night. From cleaning my bedroom for the first time in actual months, to finally finishing a sexy fairy book (that I also hated), to waking up early with POSITIVE VIBES!? I’m hooked already.

    I also talk about the one night I broke the rule, how gross I felt after, and why that slip actually proved how powerful this habit is. Oh, and yes, I had a little car scroll moment. Don’t judge me. I guess I'm fragile.

    I get into how this no-screens thing has affected my sleep, parenting, workouts, mood, and how I process emotions (because turns out, when you stop scrolling, your feelings show up and want to be dealt with). Plus, I share a really sweet letter my son wrote me that totally broke and healed my heart at the same time.

    If you’re thinking about cutting off screens at night, or just need a gentle nudge to do something good for your mental health, this one’s for you.

    In this episode:

    • The wild productivity boost that came out of nowhere
    • What happened when I did scroll - and how I felt after
    • My search for sexy books that don’t involve blood or fairies
    • Journaling at night (and why I’m kind of into it now??)
    • A parenting win that reminded me I might be doing okay at this

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    Show theme music by: @4thstringaudio

    Thank you to our sponsor - Mercury Salon! Head to Mercury at 43 Allen Street to see Felicia and have all of your hairy needs met. Call her to book an appointment: (716) 883-8800

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    32 mins
  • The Habit You Voted For (and Why I’m Ignoring It)
    Nov 2 2025

    The people voted. The people wanted me to work out every day.
    And I… kindly said, “No thank you.”

    This week, we’re kicking off a brand-new month and a brand-new habit: no screens after 9PM. Why? Because I want to actually succeed at this whole becoming-my-best-self thing. And if that means I have to ditch late-night Instagram doomscrolling in favor of sleep and sanity, so be it.

    In this episode, I’m talking about:

    • The habit I am committing to this month, and why.
    • Why working out daily isn’t the first step (at least not for me).
    • A beautiful breakdown from my friend Victoria about how nervous system health, rest, and screen time are all connected.
    • The realest talk on the most important habit of all: keeping promises to yourself.

    Also: shout out to my ADHD brain, mini crosswords, my love-hate relationship with January, and the power of making just one change at a time.

    If you’re ready to make one small shift that could unlock bigger ones, come do this with me. And if you need a little cheerleader in your ear while you figure it out? That’s what I’m here for.

    Links & Mentions:

    • Create a multi-habit tracker with my Canva template
    • Download my free No Screens after 9PM November Calendar
    • Yoga with Adriene on YouTube
    • DM me or drop a comment if you’re joining the challenge!

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    What to do now?

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    Show theme music by: @4thstringaudio

    Thank you to our sponsor - Mercury Salon! Head to Mercury at 43 Allen Street to see Felicia and have all of your hairy needs met. Call her to book an appointment: (716) 883-8800

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    22 mins
  • The Hairy Godmother Returns: Lessons in Hair, Healing, and Hustling
    Oct 29 2025

    Felicia is back, baby! And this time, we’ve got better mics and zero foils crinkling in your ear. In Part 2 of my conversation with my “hairy godmother,” Felicia Cardinale - owner of Mercury Salon and one of the most deeply intuitive humans I know - we go way beyond hair.

    We talk about what it means to create safe, affirming spaces for all folx to feel seen, supported, and stylin'. Felicia shares the real (and raw) story of how she opened her salon - spoiler alert: it involves coffee-fueled late nights, screaming landlords, and a serious survival mode hustle.

    She opens up about building community, being your authentic self (even when it’s messy), and what it really takes to come back from rock bottom. We also touch on the power of mentorship, asking for help, and how falling on your face is basically a prereq for success.

    This episode is hilarious, healing, and honest - just like a great salon session should be.

    In this episode:

    • The real story behind Mercury Salon's creation
    • Why the salon chair often becomes a therapist’s couch
    • Felicia’s wisdom on surviving hard seasons and coming out stronger
    • The surprising connection between hair care and personal growth

    👑 Felicia is currently accepting new clients! Call Mercury Salon at 716-883-8800 or DM @mercurysalon43allenstreet on Instagram to book with her 6-12 weeks in advance, baby.

    Support the show

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    What to do now?

    • Subscribe to the channel! Episodes drop Thursdays. Usually.
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    • Please rate and review the podcast! It really helps to get it in front of more people. And we love you for it.

    Show theme music by: @4thstringaudio

    Thank you to our sponsor - Mercury Salon! Head to Mercury at 43 Allen Street to see Felicia and have all of your hairy needs met. Call her to book an appointment: (716) 883-8800

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    1 hr and 3 mins
  • The Critical Three-Month Dating Rule (I'm single again)
    Oct 20 2025

    So… I went through a breakup last week. Which means, we need to talk about The Three-Month Rule - aka that moment in every relationship when the dopamine wears off and you may start to see the person you've been swooning over a lil differently.

    In this episode, I’m breaking down the arc of my post-divorce dating, the absolutely feral things your brain does when you think you’re catching feelings, and why my therapist Deborah (we love her) is absolutely correct about the three-month mark being a turning point. I’m walking you through how I got back into the dating world and the patterns I keep seeing in myself - and maybe in you, too.

    I also read you my list of qualities for my ideal man, directly from my Notes app. It’s giving “manifestation with a side of delusion,” but why bother living any other way, honestly. Plus, we’re talking about the honeymoon phase and how to tell if someone’s actually worth the emotional labor of a hard conversation.

    Whether you’re dating, healing, avoiding Hinge like the plague, or just here for the chaos - you are so welcome. Love you, babes. I’m glad you’re listening. Let’s keep figuring this shit out together.

    ✨ In this episode:

    • I cry. Just kidding lmao
    • I explain why three months is the magic number (and not in a cute way)
    • I roast my dating history and read you my "ideal man" list
    • We talk boundaries, patterns, and how not to ignore red flags (again)
    • And I give you permission to get a rebound. A hot one.

    🖇️ Check out the full article I reference in the episode: https://amiethedatingcoach.com/why-relationships-end-at-3-months-and-what-to-do/

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    What to do now?

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    Show theme music by: @4thstringaudio

    Thank you to our sponsor - Mercury Salon! Head to Mercury at 43 Allen Street to see Felicia and have all of your hairy needs met. Call her to book an appointment: (716) 883-8800

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    35 mins
  • Don't Make the Chili (aka Learn to Say 'No')
    Oct 9 2025

    This week, we’re getting real about something I know you’re doing too: living for everyone else. Whether it’s making chili on your birthday or saying yes to a project when your calendar is already screaming no, this episode is for the good girls, the independent women, and anyone who’s been caught in the exhausting cycle of people-pleasing.

    In this solo episode, I’m talking:

    • Where people-pleasing shows up in my daily life (spoiler: everywhere)
    • Why doing less might actually be the key to feeling better
    • A surprisingly emotional chili-related meltdown
    • My favorite concept from the book Unbound by Kasia Urbaniak

    I’m also challenging you (and myself) to pick just three things a day that actually matter—and say no to the rest. Yes, even to the chili.

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    27 mins
  • Let’s Get (Mostly) All Figured Out... Again
    Oct 2 2025

    We’re back!!! Season 4 is officially here, and I am so freaking happy to be back behind the mic. I missed this space. I missed you. And honestly, I’m coming into this season with a whole new energy - and a whole new game plan.

    In this kickoff episode, I’m reintroducing myself (hi, I’m Emily Rose 👋), and sharing the deeply personal, mostly chaotic path that got me here - from growing up the oldest of nine in a big Polish Catholic family to giving an epically bad chastity speech to a group of fourth graders (don’t worry, I explain), to becoming a single mom, small biz owner, and woman who is finally figuring out what she wants… not just what everyone else expects from her.

    I’ve never been a perfectionist - but I am a lifelong people pleaser. I’ve spent so much of my life trying to be what everyone else needed, expected, or wanted me to be. And that led me into some very real moments of crisis, transformation, and (thankfully) growth.

    This season, the podcast is evolving. I’m doing something new: every month, I’m taking on a different habit or goal (like waking up early, working out, tracking my spending) and using this space to hold myself accountable in real time. The goal? Progress, not perfection. Just messy, human, hilarious, healing growth.

    In this episode:

    • Why I’m switching things up this season (again)
    • That time I weaponized a chastity talk (sorry to literally all my friends)
    • How pregnancy, miscarriage, and divorce forced me to rethink everything
    • Learning to stop living for other people’s approval
    • How ADHD and radical acceptance have shaped me lately
    • The monthly challenges I’m taking on (and dragging you into with me)

    Whether you’re brand new here or you’ve been around since day one, thank you for being part of this. We don’t have to have it all figured out. We just have to show up.

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    What to do now?

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    Show theme music by: @4thstringaudio

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    39 mins
  • 73. Tarot, Spirit Guides & a Broken Down Elevator Moment That Gave Me Chills! (With Beth Metal)
    Aug 8 2025

    This week’s episode is a real treat—not just because my guest is an actual magical human, but also because it happened to be her birthday when we recorded it. 🎉 The universe has impeccable timing, and so does my friend Lauren, who introduced me to the one and only Beth Metal.

    Beth is a tarot reader, animist, channeler, and all-around spiritual badass. In this episode, we dive into:

    • Her journey from flower-whispering child to full-on mystic
    • What animism is (and why she once had to flee a Savers mid-sensing)
    • How she got into tarot, what it was like being told “you’re a witch,” and why her first deck cracked something open
    • Channeling spirits (yes, including one in an elevator!)
    • Differentiating intuition from anxiety (this part blew my mind)
    • Why everything—yes, everything—can be a sign
    • And how honoring your inner child can change everything

    Beth also shares what it’s like doing readings for others, what questions people ask her the most (spoiler: love & career never die), and what happens when you ask the universe for a breadcrumb and it hands you a pterodactyl.

    This episode is cozy, witchy, healing, and full of giggles and goosebumps. If you’ve ever wondered if that weird feeling means something—this one's for you.

    ✨ Book a reading with Beth or follow her work at @nearbethexperience or at nearbethexperience.com.

    🦕 And yes, we talk about the time a drink cup with a dinosaur on it ushered me into a new era.

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    1 hr and 18 mins
  • #72. Dating after divorce with Lindsay Robson
    Apr 18 2025

    This week’s episode is such a fun one, and honestly, I wish we could've kept it going because I have SO many follow-up questions. I sat down with Lindsay Robson, who you might know from Nickel City Pretty, Copper & Steel, When’s Food? podcast, the Buffalo Blogger Network… and basically every cool creative corner of Buffalo.

    We talked about all of her amazing projects and how she’s managed to keep showing up creatively through all the highs and lows — including her divorce. Which brings us to the real juice of this episode: dating post-divorce.

    Lindsay has been on over 60 first dates in the last couple of years (yes, you read that right), and she came ready to share the wild, the weird, and the occasionally heartwarming tales from the dating trenches. We talked about the apps, the red flags, the lessons, and how she stays grounded through all of it.

    But the real takeaway? Be true to yourself. Go to that event. Start the thing you’ve been dreaming about. Wear the outfit. Go on the date. Whatever it is — do it for you.

    Also… men are something else right now. So, maybe just protect your peace at the moment if you are a single straight woman.

    So whether you’re dating, divorced, deep into your creative journey, or just trying to figure things out — this one’s for you.

    Thanks for listening, and as always — we’re all mostly all figured out, and that’s more than enough. 💛

    Follow Lindsay on IG for links to allllll the things: @nicklecitypretty

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    58 mins