Question 1A: You often say parents should go to therapy instead of the children—why?

Point 1B: Progress matters more than perfection.

Point 1C: You can’t force someone into therapy, but your own change can shift the environment.

Question 1D: My 9-year-old son is very sensitive. His therapist validates him a lot, but when he gets hurt, he can lose control and hit others. He feels he can hurt others, but no one can hurt him. How should I handle this?

Question 2: I have a 14-year-old chavrusa that I support, but I don’t see results. How do I work with him more effectively?

Feedback 3: After listening to the first radio program on blushing, it became much easier for me to manage.

Feedback 4: Last week’s program was difficult, yet you stayed calm and responded clearly and thoughtfully.

Feedback 5: My husband has a friend who stopped therapy and medication. We set a boundary—remaining his friend but not supporting his mental-health struggles. Shortly after, he returned to therapy, resumed medication, and went back to work.

Comment 1: I used to use the word “perfect” all the time. I’ve since replaced it with different language because it triggers my struggle with perfectionism.

Question 2: For older single bochurim, how can they stay strong and grounded when they feel stuck and unable to move forward in life?

Question 3: My sister is very down and spending most of her time in bed. We’ve tried to help her, but nothing seems to work. What can I do that’s actually helpful?

Feedback 4: Attachment to my therapist. I called into the 12/22/25 program (Program 2, #1281) about my shame in needing my therapist so badly. Since then I was able to have the session by phone. It felt easier to open up, and I shared everything. My therapist was accepting and inviting, and I felt so much relief afterward. It’s powerful to allow yourself to hear from another person that you are “okay.”

Question 5: Through therapy, I’ve become more aware of my past pain, but I don’t see how that has helped me. Why do therapists focus on the past if it only brings up pain—and the past can’t be changed?

Feedback 1: I called a few weeks ago about a friend who was constantly complaining and presenting as a victim, possibly within a BPD dynamic. After I set a clear boundary, she turned to a mentor who is now helping her more appropriately, which felt like a healthy shift.

Question 2: I have a child with ADHD who is currently doing well. Does a child who is functioning well still need therapy, or is therapy only necessary when there are clear struggles?

Question 3: I have a coworker whose behavior really disturbs me, and I find myself carrying it home with me. How can I learn to mentally “shut down” work stress when I get home?

Feedback 4: Regarding the previous caller about a difficult coworker, they shared that in sales they learned people are more likely to change when they understand why a change benefits them and what they gain from it. Perhaps this approach could be helpful in her situation as well.

Feedback 5: This ties into the idea of winning friends—approaching others in a way that helps them feel understood rather than criticized.

Question 6: My daughter is currently in a PHP and will be transitioning to an IOP. I use a lot of chizuk with her, but how do I differentiate between offering healthy encouragement and slipping into a victim mindset myself?Question 7: My husband has health anxiety and wonders if “normal” people experience this as well. What is my role as a wife in supporting him without reinforcing the anxiety?