Think you’ve forgiven… but still feel stuck? You’re not alone.
Most of us were never taught what real forgiveness looks like—just the performance of it.
Say a prayer. Say the words. Move on.
Except… we don’t.

This episode will shift your view of forgiveness from a moment to a movement—one that actually sets you free.

👇 We’ll cover:
• The sneaky ways we fake forgiveness (without knowing it)
• 6 reflection questions to assess where you really are
• Tiny habits that rewire your brain + soften your heart
• Why peace ≠ emotional distance
• And how to know you’re actually healing

This isn’t about excusing anyone.
It’s about refusing to let bitterness narrate your future.

Join my Bible Habit Group for low-key accountability. Just half a chapter a day, weekly check-ins, and a monthly 45-min call.

Become a $9/month member here: [LINK].

Grab the $12 Bible we use here: [LINK].

Registration for Aaron’s { 12-Week } Porn Recovery Small Group is open NOW.

Click here for the Saturday Morning group [LINK]

or here for the Friday Afternoon group [LINK].

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• Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course
• Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching
• Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Some pain cuts deeper than others—not because it hurts more, but because it feels true. In this episode, we unpack the kind of pain that doesn’t just bruise your feelings, it hits your identity.

We explore three subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways this happens:
• When someone says it outright
• When they imply it
• When you infer it

And then the spiral begins:
– You feel like you have to prove your worth
– You obsess over how they see you
– You shut down, because it felt like a verdict, not just a comment

🔍 We’ll challenge the dangerous trap of letting broken people vote on your value.
💡 And we’ll offer truth that anchors your identity in something unshakeable:

“Your identity is untouchable. It’s not theirs to name—it’s already spoken by the One who made you.”

If you've ever felt like someone else's opinion rewrote your sense of self, this conversation is for you.

Join my Bible Habit Group for low-key accountability. Just half a chapter a day, weekly check-ins, and a monthly 45-min call.

Become a $9/month member here: [LINK].

Grab the $12 Bible we use here: [LINK].

Registration for Aaron’s { 12-Week } Porn Recovery Small Group is open NOW.

Click here for the Saturday Morning group [LINK]

or here for the Friday Afternoon group [LINK].

Support the show

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>>> Become a sponor of our shows <<<
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Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
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Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more.

Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

Links:

• Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course
• Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching
• Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Offense Isn’t Just Pain: It’s Pain + Pride

We often think being offended is just another form of hurt—but it’s more than that. Offense is what happens when pain gets tangled with pride. It’s the moment pain hardens into judgment, and we start to feel powerful… while quietly becoming more closed off.

In this episode, we unpack how offense feels like a defense mechanism—but actually keeps us stuck. You’ll learn how offense hijacks your brain’s ability to heal, why it loops like a highlight reel of your rightness, and what that reveals about identity, humility, and emotional maturity.

You’ll hear real-life phrases that often sound self-protective (“I’m not mad, just done”) but are often signs of unchecked offense.

You’ll also get a practical self-reflection tool to help you “spot the offense” and re-center on humility.

Offense might feel like strength—but humility is where the healing begins.

You’ll walk away with:
- A breakdown of how offense affects your brain
- Examples of what offense sounds like in everyday language
- Questions to examine whether you’re stuck in an offense loop
- Clarity on the difference between healthy boundaries and prideful withdrawal

Join my Bible Habit Group for low-key accountability. Just half a chapter a day, weekly check-ins, and a monthly 45-min call.

Become a $9/month member here: [LINK].

Grab the $12 Bible we use here: [LINK].

Registration for Aaron’s { 12-Week } Porn Recovery Small Group is open NOW.

Click here for the Saturday Morning group [LINK]

or here for the Friday Afternoon group [LINK].

Support the show

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>>> Become a sponor of our shows <<<
This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.

Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab

Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more.

Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

Links:

• Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course
• Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching
• Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

What if evangelism wasn’t about striving—but about overflow?

In this special episode, I sit down with a few of my friends fresh off a missions trip to unpack what actually cracked the code for us when it came to sharing Jesus.

Spoiler: it wasn’t a strategy—it was being so connected to the Father’s heart that love naturally led the way.

We talk about what surprised us, what challenged us, and how everyday evangelism becomes possible when we’re moved—not pressured—by love.

Join my Bible Habit Group for low-key accountability. Just half a chapter a day, weekly check-ins, and a monthly 45-min call.

Become a $9/month member here: [LINK].

Grab the $12 Bible we use here: [LINK].

Registration for Aaron’s { 12-Week } Porn Recovery Small Group is open NOW.

Click here for the Saturday Morning group [LINK]

or here for the Friday Afternoon group [LINK].

Support the show

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>>> Become a sponor of our shows <<<
This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.

Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab

Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more.

Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

Links:

• Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course
• Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching
• Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

What if the “peace” you’re protecting in your marriage… is actually costing you real connection?

In this episode, we’re unpacking how passivity can disguise itself as love—especially in Christian marriages. We’ve seen it in our own relationship: moments when silence looked like patience, but it was actually fear. Times when we avoided conflict, convinced we were being kind or godly, but bitterness was the fruit.

We explore:

• Why passivity is not the same as peacekeeping
• How we can accidentally mislabel people-pleasing & call it love
• Why stuffing your voice for the sake of love can slowly erode intimacy

3 self-reflection questions :

💭 Is there a situation where I told myself I was “loving” or “being patient”… but now I feel resentful, bitter, or shut down?

💭 Where am I avoiding action, conversation, or boundaries because I’m afraid of how someone will react?

💭 Am I hoping someone else will just “get it” or change, while I silently keep score or build a case in my head?

Join my Bible Habit Group for low-key accountability. Just half a chapter a day, weekly check-ins, and a monthly 45-min call.

Become a $9/month member here: [LINK].

Grab the $12 Bible we use here: [LINK].

Registration for Aaron’s { 12-Week } Porn Recovery Small Group is open NOW.

Click here for the Saturday Morning group [LINK]

or here for the Friday Afternoon group [LINK].

Support the show

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>>> Become a sponor of our shows <<<
This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.

Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab

Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more.

Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

Links:

• Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course
• Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching
• Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

What do you get when you mix a paddleboard, high expectations, and two humans with emotions?
Definitely not the relaxing date we envisioned. But maybe... a deeper kind of win?

This was not our best date… but maybe it was one of our best recoveries.

We went on a paddleboard date thinking it’d be relaxing and fun—but being stuck on the same board triggered us both in different ways.

Instead of letting the day spiral, we each practiced managing our own emotions without blaming the other.

It wasn’t a romantic home run, but it was a huge sign of growth. In this episode, we talk about how emotional flooding can happen even in fun moments—and how the real win is learning to stay connected while dysregulated.

Because the goal isn’t to never get triggered—it’s to grow in how you show up when you are.

Join my Bible Habit Group for low-key accountability. Just half a chapter a day, weekly check-ins, and a monthly 45-min call.

Become a $9/month member here: [LINK].

Grab the $12 Bible we use here: [LINK].

Registration for Aaron’s { 12-Week } Porn Recovery Small Group is open NOW.

Click here for the Saturday Morning group [LINK]

or here for the Friday Afternoon group [LINK].

Support the show

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>>> Become a sponor of our shows <<<
This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.

Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab

Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more.

Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

Links:

• Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course
• Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching
• Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In this episode, we’re tackling a subtle but serious issue in marriage: isolation.

What happens when your spouse becomes your only source of connection?
Spoiler: it doesn’t lead to thriving.

We talk about:

• Why consistent, same-gender friendships are crucial—especially for accountability, encouragement, and emotional health
• How couples slowly drift into “island mode” without realizing it
• The specific ways isolation often impacts men vs. women
• Why expecting your spouse to meet all your relational needs (outside of Jesus) is too heavy—and how to shift that dynamic

If you’ve been feeling disconnected or overly dependent on your spouse for all of your emotional or spiritual needs, this episode is your invitation to make a gentle, healthy change.

Join my Bible Habit Group for low-key accountability. Just half a chapter a day, weekly check-ins, and a monthly 45-min call.

Become a $9/month member here: [LINK].

Grab the $12 Bible we use here: [LINK].

Registration for Aaron’s { 12-Week } Porn Recovery Small Group is open NOW.

Click here for the Saturday Morning group [LINK]

or here for the Friday Afternoon group [LINK].

Support the show

-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

>>> Become a sponor of our shows <<<
This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.

Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab

Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more.

Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

Links:

• Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course
• Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching
• Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

🎉 It’s our 16th anniversary, and apparently our marriage is now old enough to get its driver’s license. 😅

But let’s be real—
Even after 16 years, date night convo doesn’t always flow naturally (especially when we’re tired or parenting has fried our brains).

So we decided to change that.

💬 In this episode, we:

• Answer 16 intentional + fun questions—one for each year we’ve been married
• Share laughs, real talk, and a few surprise answers
• Invite you to ask the same questions on your next date night

📝 Want the full list of questions to try with your spouse?
Download the free Google Doc here 👉 [Click here]

Join my Bible Habit Group for low-key accountability. Just half a chapter a day, weekly check-ins, and a monthly 45-min call.

Become a $9/month member here: [LINK].

Grab the $12 Bible we use here: [LINK].

Registration for Aaron’s { 12-Week } Porn Recovery Small Group is open NOW.

Click here for the Saturday Morning group [LINK]

or here for the Friday Afternoon group [LINK].

Support the show

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>>> Become a sponor of our shows <<<
This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.

Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab

Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more.

Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

Links:

• Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course
• Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching
• Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn