Some pain cuts deeper than others—not because it hurts more, but because it feels true. In this episode, we unpack the kind of pain that doesn’t just bruise your feelings, it hits your identity.

We explore three subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways this happens:
• When someone says it outright
• When they imply it
• When you infer it

And then the spiral begins:
– You feel like you have to prove your worth
– You obsess over how they see you
– You shut down, because it felt like a verdict, not just a comment

🔍 We’ll challenge the dangerous trap of letting broken people vote on your value.
💡 And we’ll offer truth that anchors your identity in something unshakeable:

“Your identity is untouchable. It’s not theirs to name—it’s already spoken by the One who made you.”

If you've ever felt like someone else's opinion rewrote your sense of self, this conversation is for you.

Join my Bible Habit Group for low-key accountability. Just half a chapter a day, weekly check-ins, and a monthly 45-min call.

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• Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course
• Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching
• Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Offense Isn’t Just Pain: It’s Pain + Pride

We often think being offended is just another form of hurt—but it’s more than that. Offense is what happens when pain gets tangled with pride. It’s the moment pain hardens into judgment, and we start to feel powerful… while quietly becoming more closed off.

In this episode, we unpack how offense feels like a defense mechanism—but actually keeps us stuck. You’ll learn how offense hijacks your brain’s ability to heal, why it loops like a highlight reel of your rightness, and what that reveals about identity, humility, and emotional maturity.

You’ll hear real-life phrases that often sound self-protective (“I’m not mad, just done”) but are often signs of unchecked offense.

You’ll also get a practical self-reflection tool to help you “spot the offense” and re-center on humility.

Offense might feel like strength—but humility is where the healing begins.

You’ll walk away with:
- A breakdown of how offense affects your brain
- Examples of what offense sounds like in everyday language
- Questions to examine whether you’re stuck in an offense loop
- Clarity on the difference between healthy boundaries and prideful withdrawal

Join my Bible Habit Group for low-key accountability. Just half a chapter a day, weekly check-ins, and a monthly 45-min call.

Become a $9/month member here: [LINK].

Grab the $12 Bible we use here: [LINK].

Registration for Aaron’s { 12-Week } Porn Recovery Small Group is open NOW.

Click here for the Saturday Morning group [LINK]

or here for the Friday Afternoon group [LINK].

Support the show

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>>> Become a sponor of our shows <<<
This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.

Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab

Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more.

Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

Links:

• Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course
• Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching
• Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

What if evangelism wasn’t about striving—but about overflow?

In this special episode, I sit down with a few of my friends fresh off a missions trip to unpack what actually cracked the code for us when it came to sharing Jesus.

Spoiler: it wasn’t a strategy—it was being so connected to the Father’s heart that love naturally led the way.

We talk about what surprised us, what challenged us, and how everyday evangelism becomes possible when we’re moved—not pressured—by love.

Join my Bible Habit Group for low-key accountability. Just half a chapter a day, weekly check-ins, and a monthly 45-min call.

Become a $9/month member here: [LINK].

Grab the $12 Bible we use here: [LINK].

Registration for Aaron’s { 12-Week } Porn Recovery Small Group is open NOW.

Click here for the Saturday Morning group [LINK]

or here for the Friday Afternoon group [LINK].

Support the show

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>>> Become a sponor of our shows <<<
This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.

Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!
patreon.com/TheHabitLab

Check out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more.

Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

Links:

• Online Small Group - Porn Recovery Course
• Couples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health Coaching
• Book: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn