I’ve been seeing a disturbing trend online where women claim that "incredible men are just average women," implying that men are simply playing catch-up to a female baseline. In this episode, I dive into the dangers of this "female supremacy" narrative and what I call the "Patriarchy Virus," which frames men as the root cause of every societal problem. I also break down why judging men by female metrics destroys relationships and discuss the immense, often overlooked effort it takes to chisel yourself into an exceptional man.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 The "Incredible Men Are Just Average Women" Narrative

01:43 Introducing the Patriarchy Virus

03:09 The "One Up, One Down" Relationship Dynamic

05:10 Society Values What Men Contribute, Not Who They Are

06:23 Identity: Community vs. Competency

08:52 Why Modern Culture Demonizes Hierarchies

10:04 Applying Female Metrics to Male Psychology

11:50 Misandry and the Contempt for Men

14:14 The Reality of Women Who Buy Into This Narrative

16:03 It Is Hard to Craft Yourself Into a Great Man

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I sit down with Josh Trent to explore how marriage, father wounds, and emotional epigenetics shape a man’s inner world. We talk honestly about porn, anger, healing the mother wound, and what it actually takes to build emotional safety with your partner.

Josh unpacks how breathwork, mentorship, and men’s work helped him transform survival patterns into real love and leadership. This episode is raw, personal, and directly speaks to men who are ready to stop repeating cycles and start leading with truth.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Welcome and setup

00:31 Marriage as transformation

01:13 Anger toward the feminine

02:26 Injuries from childhood

03:37 Unsafe relationship with women

04:53 Realizing wife is not mom

05:37 Breaking unconscious patterns

06:36 Avoiding emotional honesty

08:35 Growing up with bipolar parent

10:35 Creating safety by coping

11:39 Being shielded from truth

13:40 Moving to Hawaii

14:41 Womanizing and addiction

15:47 Mission to feel feelings

17:34 Hungry Ghost metaphor

19:08 Dysfunction in relationships

21:24 Men’s work and mentorship

23:05 Masculine leadership

26:24 Joining men’s communities

29:32 Emotional epigenetics

33:14 Containment in relationships

34:33 Safe emotional expression

35:36 Relationship with other men

38:13 How to communicate honestly

41:51 How to open up

43:52 Breathwork and embodiment

46:42 Middle path for men

48:51 Healing financial fear

50:23 Self leadership for men

53:27 Porn and disconnection

55:45 Why porn hooks men

58:51 Escape velocity

1:03:47 Healing lineage pain

1:06:55 Breaking generational cycles

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

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I dive into the single most important skill that many modern men have lost but that women deeply crave: containment. I discuss why mastering your own internal fire—your anger, impulses, and emotions—is the key to shifting from being perceived as a potential predator to a trusted protector. We explore how developing this capacity doesn't mean castrating your masculinity, but rather harnessing it to create a sense of safety that feels like "shade in the desert" for your partner.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Introduction

01:29 The #1 Skill Women Crave

02:32 Understanding the Predator-Prey Dynamic

04:30 Why Women Are Attracted to a "Dangerous" Edge

06:15 Becoming a Protector Instead of a Predator

08:45 Why She Needs You to Be an Emotional Container

11:55 The Rule: Contain Yourself First

14:15 The "Shade in the Desert" Metaphor

15:45 Personal Story: Providing Containment in a Crisis

21:00 How Boundaries Create Polarity

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify

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