Use New Year’s and Dating Sunday to clean up bad habits, heal old relationships and build the self-love you need to date bravely

Dating over 50 is hard enough without your own insecurities quietly hijacking the process. In this episode of Love at Any Age, Laurie Gerber goes beyond body image and dives into five more self-love “hot spots” that can block you from finding healthy, lasting love in midlife: bad habits, flirting and sex, family relationships, exes, and deep unresolved hauntings.

If you’ve ever thought, “Maybe it’s the apps,” “Maybe it’s men,” or “Maybe it’s just my age,” Laurie gently but firmly makes the case that the real opportunity is inside your relationship with yourself—and that’s the part you can actually change. In honor of New Year’s and Dating Sunday (January 4th, the biggest day of the year for joining dating sites), she walks you through how to turn vague resolutions into concrete promises that actually move your love life forward.

In this episode, Laurie covers: ✅ Why you can’t imagine someone loving you well if you don’t yet love yourself that way ✅ The hidden cost of “harmless” bad habits (drinking, sugar, screens, porn, spending, overworking) on your confidence and intimacy ✅ A kinder, more effective way to change habits ✅ Why flirting, sex, and “being good in bed” are learnable skills at any age (and how to start practicing) ✅ How adult children, aging parents, money, and inheritance worries quietly sabotage dating ✅ What to clean up with exes so the “job opening” for your future partner is truly available ✅ How unresolved hauntings from childhood or past relationships haunt dating ✅ Simple first steps for getting support so you’re not carrying it all alone ✅ Exactly how to design your action steps so you don’t abandon your goals by March

Laurie will challenge you to stop beating yourself up and instead build true self-esteem by making a plan that honors your dream of lasting, healthy love in midlife.

Timestamps 00:00 → 02:32 – Welcome back + why self-love is non-negotiable for dating over 50 (and recap of episode 9 on body image) 02:32 → 07:11 – Bad habits: from “annoying” to addiction, how they drain confidence and intimacy, and why this New Year is your moment 07:11 → 11:12 – Flirting and sex: why nobody is “just bad at it,” how practice and communication build sexy confidence at any age 11:12 → 16:52 – Family relationships: adult children, aging parents, inheritance, and how unspoken expectations quietly block your love life 16:52 → 19:29 – Exes: when past relationships still occupy the “love of your life” slot and why you may need a full detox 19:29 → 24:15 – Unresolved hauntings: apologies, amends, and designing personal rituals to clear old emotional slime 24:15 → 29:03 – New Year, Dating Sunday, and why promises with consequences work better than vague resolutions 29:03 → 31:20 – Recap, encouragement, and teaser for next week’s episode: making the case for online dating in midlife

Links & Resources 📺 Watch Past Episodes: https://lauriegerber.com/love-at-any-age Episodes Laurie mentions in this conversation: ✅ Episode 2 – Detoxing Past Relationships Before You Date Again (how to do a full “love detox”) ✅ Episode 5 – How to Design Difficult Conversations in Dating Over 50 (Laurie’s 8-step script) ✅ Episode 8 – How to Handle Rejection When You’re Dating Over 50 (why handling “no” is a superpower) ✅ Episode 9 – Self-Love & Body Image in Midlife Dating (start here if body image is your biggest insecurity)

✅Stay connected with Laurie: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauriegerberdatingcoach LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauriegerber Podbean: https://lauriegerbercoach.podbean.com/

✅ Coaching & consults: email LaurieGerberCoach@gmail.com for private coaching or referrals

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Laurie Gerber breaks down the six insecurities sabotaging love

In this episode of Love at Any Age, Laurie Gerber digs into one of the biggest challenges women over 50 face in dating: not liking themselves enough to enjoy dating. If you hear “be yourself” and think, “bad idea” this episode is your roadmap.

Laurie introduces the six major insecurities that sabotage women’s self-worth, and explains why “I’m not enough” is actually a cover story, and then goes deep into the most common issue of all—body image.

She shares her personal turning point, the 3 choices you have about your body, and why personal integrity is the fastest shortcut to real confidence.

In this episode, you’ll learn: ✅ Why self-love is essential for attracting and maintaining healthy relationships ✅ The six areas that most undermine self-worth for women in midlife ✅ Why low self-esteem is a symptom, not the actual cause ✅ How cultural and personal “excuses” slow down the self-worth game ✅ The 3real choices you have around your body image ✅ Why personal integrity is the fastest path to confidence and dating success ✅ Coaching homework to choose your “first domino” and create one new promise

Timestamps 00:00–02:29 — Why self-love determines your dating results Laurie explains why “being yourself” is impossible without self-love and introduces the six insecurities that block confidence. 02:29–07:32 — “I’m not enough” as a cover story Why low self-worth is a symptom of deeper issues and how common excuses prolong the struggle. 07:32–11:12 — You are lovable exactly as you are Laurie reframes self-worth as a spiritual truth and explains how treatable “liabilities” shape your dating pool. 11:12–16:51 — The six categories that undermine self-love A breakdown of body image, bad habits, flirting and sexual confidence, family relationships, exes, and unresolved hauntings. 16:51–24:48 — Deep dive into body image + the three choices Laurie shares her personal story, normalizes body-image struggles, and teaches the three options.: 24:48–27:37 — Personal integrity & the shortcut to self-worth How aligning your actions with your highest ideals builds confidence, plus coaching homework for New Year intentions.

📺 Watch Past Episodes: https://lauriegerber.com/love-at-any-age Free Webinar: 3 Secrets to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Love (without repeated disappointments) https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar

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Concepts Featured: The Handel Method The 3H Framework (Head, Heart, Hoo-Ha/Heat) Personal Integrity

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Does the thought of being rejected make you want to quit dating altogether? In this episode of Love at Any Age, dating coach Laurie Gerber helps women over 50 handle rejection—both receiving it and giving it—without losing hope, dignity, or self-worth. If you’ve ever thought, “I can’t handle one more no,” this conversation is your emotional Band-Aid.

Laurie breaks down why rejection is an unavoidable part of finding healthy, lasting love and compares dating to running a marathon: you need preparation, pacing, and a little protection from chafing. You’ll learn why ghosting happens (and what it really means), how to keep a pipeline of conversations so one person’s disappearance doesn’t knock you out, and how to adopt the shopper mindset so you stop treating every no as a verdict on your value. She also shares a powerful client story about Kim, who went from being terrified of ghosting to meeting her partner once she stopped taking every rejection personally.

Then Laurie turns to the other side of the equation—how to say “no thank you” without guilt, overthinking, or putting yourself at risk. You’ll get her exact rejection scripts, the “grace and wisdom sandwich,” and practical safety tips: when to meet in public, why to stay in the app, why not to drink on early dates, and why staying “friends” with romantic non-matches usually backfires. By the end, you’ll have clear homework to open your pipeline, write your own gentle rejection text, and update your 3H chart so you can keep dating with your head, heart, and hoo-ha fully on your side.

You’ll learn: - Why rejection and “failure” are baked into the path to healthy, lasting love - How to keep a dating pipeline so one ghost or no doesn’t knock you out emotionally - Why having multiple early conversations actually makes you kinder and less reactive - How to use the “shopper mindset” so you evaluate fit instead of your worth - Why your one wants you—and what it means when someone disappears or pulls away - How to protect your mood of self-worth so you don’t spiral into self-criticism - A real-life story of a woman who moved through ghosting fear and found her partner - How to respond with grace when someone rejects you (and why it’s good karma) - Laurie’s exact scripts for saying “no thank you” kindly and clearly - Safety and clarity tips for early dates: public places, exits, staying in-app, and not drinking - Why staying friends with romantic non-matches usually hurts more than it helps - Homework to open your pipeline, craft your rejection script, and revisit your 3H chart

Timestamps 0:00 to 2:04 – Intro: fear of rejection and why this episode matters 2:04 to 5:23 – Rejection as part of success: Churchill quote, marathon mindset, and prep work 5:23 to 8:34 – Tip #1: Always have a pipeline (dating is a numbers game and ghosting happens) 8:34 to 12:07 – Tip #2: The shopper mindset and “your one wants you” 12:07 to 15:04 – Mood of self-worth, self-criticism traps, and Kim’s story about ghosting 15:04 to 18:24 – Being accepting and kind when someone rejects you (karma, allies, and connection) 18:24 to 22:07 – How to give rejection kindly: early elimination, 3H criteria, and the grace-and-wisdom sandwich 22:07 to 26:32 – Reducing awkwardness: spark vs no spark, public dates, exit plans, and why not to drink 26:32 to 30:24 – Safety and boundaries: staying in the app, blocking, and why not to “stay friends” with romantic non-matches 30:24 to 33:14 – Homework: open your pipeline, write your no-thank-you script, and revisit your 3H chart 33:14 to 36:18 – YouTube community love, next week’s self-love & body image series, and webinar invitation

Links & Resources 📺 Watch Past Episodes: https://lauriegerber.com/love-at-any-age 💕 Free Training: 3 Secrets to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Love Without Repeated Disappointments Watch it here: https://lauriegerber.com/webinar 📘 Learn more about the 3H Method and the 3-Date Strategy inside the free webinar.

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A step-by-step guide to dating over 50 without wasting time, losing hope, or ignoring your three H’s: head, heart, and hoo-ha.

Still saying yes when your whole body is screaming no? In this episode of Love at Any Age, dating coach Laurie Gerber breaks down five classic dating mistakes women over 50 make that quietly destroy their 3H alignment — your head, your heart, and your hoo-ha. If you keep repeating the same relationship patterns, this is your loving but firm wake-up call.

Laurie walks you through how each internal “voter” works, why dating over 50 requires clear boundaries, and exactly where midlife daters tend to slip: agreeing to second and third dates when you’re already sure it’s a no, skipping the video chat and wasting nights on dud dates, texting your way into a fantasy instead of testing compatibility, having sex long before your 3H is a full-body yes, and pretending to be “low maintenance” or more easygoing than you really are. She gives you scripts, timing guidelines, and real-life examples so you can protect your emotional safety and your hope in love.

Whether you’re newly back in the dating scene, feeling burned out from online dating, or just ready to stop staying too long in the wrong situations, this episode will help you create your own set of dating promises. You’ll walk away with clear rules for video chats, texting, sex and truth-telling so your head, heart, and hoo-ha can finally vote yes on the same person.

You’ll learn: - Why saying yes when you mean no destroys trust between your head, heart, and hoo-ha - How staying too long in the wrong relationship makes you cynical about dating over 50 - The simple rule for when to ask for a video chat before a first date (and exactly what to say) - How to interpret a man’s response when you request a video chat — and when it’s actually good news if he disappears - Why texting too much too soon creates a fantasy instead of testing real-life compatibility - The dangers of having sex before your 3H is fully on board and you’ve agreed to monogamy - How faking your interests, needs, or “low maintenance” persona traps you in the wrong relationship - How to turn these five dating mistakes into personal promises that protect your hope, time, and heart

Timestamps 0:00 to 1:23 – Welcome back, 3H recap, and why we’re focusing on what you don’t want in dating 1:23 to 2:35 – How head, heart, and hoo-ha alignment works and what happens when one voter gets ignored 2:36 to 5:33 – Mistake #1: Saying yes when you mean no and staying too long in the wrong relationship 5:33 to 12:08 – Mistake #2: Skipping the video chat before a live date and exactly how to ask for a low-pressure video vet 12:08 to 18:13 – Mistake #3: Texting too much too soon and the danger of building a fantasy connection over text only 18:14 to 21:49 – Mistake #4: Having sex too soon and why waiting until all three H’s are a strong yes protects your heart 22:00 to 24:45 – Mistake #5: Faking anything to make someone like you instead of showing up as your real self 24:45 to 26:41 – Homework: Review your five biggest dating mistakes and write new 3H-aligned rules and promises for yourself 26:41 to 27:33 – Next week’s topic: How to give and receive rejection with grace so fear doesn’t keep you from dating

📺 Watch Past Episodes here - http://www.lauriegerber.com/love-at-any-age 💕 Free Training: 3 Secrets to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Love Without Repeated Disappointments Watch it here: https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar 📘 Learn more about the 3H Method and the 3-Date Strategy inside the free webinar.

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Dating after 50 can feel confusing — chemistry is fun, but it won’t tell you if someone is truly compatible. In this episode of Love at Any Age, Laurie Gerber dives into her Spark Questions: the strategic, intentional questions you should ask during the first three dates to assess compatibility, emotional intelligence, and physical chemistry.

You’ll learn: 💡 Why Spark Questions are essential for dating with efficiency and confidence. 💡 How to use your 3H Chart (Head, Heart, Hoo-Ha) to create personalized questions for each date. 💡 Which questions to ask on the first, second, and third date to uncover dealbreakers and assess real-life compatibility. 💡 How to balance flirtation and fun with meaningful conversations about values, family, lifestyle, and emotional needs.

Laurie also shares do’s and don’ts for asking sensitive questions, including how to avoid interrogation-style conversations and yes/no traps. Plus, you’ll get examples of fun and lighthearted questions to sprinkle in between deeper discussions — keeping your dates engaging while still uncovering the truth about compatibility.

Whether you’re a single woman or man over 50, returning to the dating scene, or just curious about how to date smarter, this episode gives you the roadmap to: - Spot dealbreakers early - Build real connection quickly - Avoid dating fatigue - Protect your heart while exploring romantic possibilities

🎯 Actionable Steps from This Episode: Pull out your 3H Chart (or create one using Laurie’s free webinar) to define your Head, Heart, and Hoo-Ha criteria.

Write 10–15 Spark Questions based on your chart. Plan which questions to ask on Date 1, 2, and 3. Intermix fun/generic questions with hard topics to keep conversation flowing. After each date, reflect: color code your answers, rate compatibility, and note any red flags.

💖 Listen now and start turning your first three dates into a fast track to clarity, confidence, and real connection.

📢 Want even more tools to make dating over 50 easier? Check out Laurie’s free webinar: 👉 lauriegerber.com/webinar — 3 Secrets to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Love Without Repeated Disappointments. Next week: Laurie reveals the most common mistakes women make on the first three dates — and how to avoid them to protect your heart and time.

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Dating over 50 isn’t just about chemistry—it’s about real compatibility. In this episode, Laurie Gerber dives into a topic most people avoid: discussing the things that don’t work about you and your partner in the early stages of dating.

What you’ll learn in this episode: - Why your “liabilities” (quirks, habits, life circumstances) might actually be your secret superpower in love. - Laurie’s eight-step framework for navigating awkward conversations without scaring someone off. - Real-life stories—including Laurie’s own funny and slightly embarrassing moments—showing how honesty can deepen attraction rather than derail it. - How to recognize liability compatibility: the key to knowing if a partner is truly aligned with your head, heart, and hoo-ha (3H method).

Examples of liabilities to consider: - Health issues (past or present, including long COVID) - Lifestyle non-negotiables (location, children, religion, family dynamics) - Financial considerations - Personality traits or bad habits - Relationship history or divorce details

Coaching tips you’ll get: When and how to bring up sensitive topics—yes, even in early dating. How to balance grace and wisdom in every conversation. Laurie’s three P’s method: Prepare, Present, Partner—your guide to honest, respectful communication. How to listen, negotiate, and create new agreements that protect intimacy and clarity in relationships.

Stories from the episode include: Laurie’s first kiss with her husband and the garlic-breath moment. A client navigating fitness expectations and honesty. A coaching story about attraction and difficult truths about a partner’s teeth.

Why this episode matters: If you’re dating after 50 or after divorce, hiding your humanness or avoiding awkward conversations can lead to dating fatigue or missed opportunities for true intimacy. Laurie’s framework teaches you how to speak your truth, understand your partner’s perspective, and build connections that last.

Resources & Next Steps: Watch Laurie’s free webinar: 3 Secrets to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Love Without Repeated Disappointments - lauriegerber.com/webinar

Listen to past episodes, including the Three-Date Strategy (Episode 4), to learn how to discover compatibility sooner.

Next week on Love at Any Age: Learn how to prepare for your first three dates, including the right questions to ask, using Laurie’s master list of Spark Questions for successful dating over 50.

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Dating over 50 can feel complicated, but it doesn’t have to be. In this episode, I walk you through how to take the clarity you created in your 3H Chart — the compass for Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha — and use it in real-world dating. Stop wasting time on “maybes” and start identifying who’s truly a keeper.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode: - How to use your 3H Chart as a dating compass, not a checklist. - The 3-Date Strategy to quickly figure out if a man is a “maybe” or a “move on.” - The four clues that reveal if he’s truly a keeper. - How color-coding your Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha after each date helps you avoid the trap of “hope-ium.” - What to do about liabilities when they show up

Coaching Tip: Accountability is key! Share your chart with a trusted friend or coach. It keeps you honest and prevents you from rationalizing red flags.

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Dating after 50 can feel confusing—you’ve evolved, but your “type” may not have. In this episode, dating coach Laurie Gerber teaches the powerful 3H Method so you can finally understand what you’re truly looking for in a partner.

You’ll learn: - The secret to defining your must-haves (and ditching the fluff list) - Why most women’s “types” keep them stuck in old patterns - The four mistakes women make when writing their dating wish lists - How to make sure you’re describing a partner, not your (female?) best friend - What happens when your head, heart, and hoo-ha align

Coaching insight: When your 3H’s work together, you stop chasing potential and start choosing real compatibility. That’s when dating over 50 becomes fun and fruitful again.

Featured story: Laurie shares Stacy’s story—a woman who transformed her love life by creating her 3H Chart and finally attracting a partner who matched her on all three levels.

Links & Resources: Watch the free webinar: 3 Secrets to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Love Without Repeated Disappointments at lauriegerber.com/webinar

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