Clare Stephens is a writer, screenwriter, editor and podcaster. She’s the former editor-in-chief at Mamamia and host of the podcasts Cancelled and But, Are You Happy? Clare also worked as a writer and producer on the Binge series Strife starring Asher Keddie and is about to publish her first novel, The Worst Thing I’ve Ever Done!

It tells the story of Ruby Williams, a young woman working in digital media who publishes an article that sees her at the bottom of an online pile-on. More broadly, it’s about shame - the way it never truly leaves you, and how we bury it. Clare is here to speak about the psychology of pile ons, cancel culture, what type of people handle being cancelled better than others and the media narratives surrounding public shaming!

Today we speak about:

• Why Clare chose to go out on her own after almost a decade at Mamamia
• Public shame and ‘metacognition’
• How the psychology of online debates and conversations is different to in person
• How it feels to be at the bottom of a pile on
• How and why some influencers cause pile ons of other people and use outrage to grow their own platforms
• There’s no good response to a pile on; silence is interpreted as guilt, speaking back causes more headlines and fuel on the fire
• What makes someone more likely to be cancelled?

You can pre-order The Worst Thing I've Ever Done (out September 30) here.

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Hey Lifers!

Laura’s house is back in chaos and Britt has embarrassed herself in an elevator full of people. What’s your phone wallpaper? Has it ever been a hot photo of yourself?

It’s ½ the team’s birthdays. Another year older, another year w̶̶i̶̶s̶̶e̶̶r̶̶ still wondering what the heck we are doing in life. We speak about how birthdays can feel pretty anticlimactic and differently if you are spending it with someone in particular.

We flash back to last week where Britt gave …feedback on some fashion choices. We asked you what some of your funniest back handed ‘kill them with kindness’ comments.
We love that for you.

With birthdays and a lot of self reflection this week, we really enjoyed the substack written by Leanne Ely titled ‘If I Were 50 Again, Here’s Exactly What I’d Do Differently’. We spoke about Leanne’s advice on detoxing her relationships before she detoxed her liver and how a lot of women have done a lot of living for everyone else and put their own wants and desires on the back burner.
You can read the whole substack here

We each asked ourselves if we were to have another go at our 20s, what would we do completely differently.

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