192 If there has been one major underlying concept that I have woven into nearly every episode of this podcast, it is the concept of emotional delegation (or its opposite, emotional agency). BUT I’ve never made a podcast episode solely dedicated to making sure you understand this concept. So today is the day!

I made this episode to clearly define emotional delegation for you, and help you see how it may be playing into your relationship challenges, and so you can start the journey of letting it go — because it is really the #1 underlying habit that pretty much EVERYONE falls into that hurts our relationships (and you're not going to hear about on many other relationship podcasts. I truly can’t understand why this gets left out so often, because it is pretty much everything when it comes to marriage problems!)

So listen in to learn:

• What emotional delegation is and how it completely disempowers you in your relationship.
• Where emotional delegation comes from (hint, both nature and nurture) and why pretty much everyone does it.
• Signs of what it looks like, so you can recognize if you may have this habit.
• Why understanding it is so important.
• Why emotional delegation is so detrimental, and the specific tolls that it takes on you and your relationship.
• My own personal stories of how it has affected me and my relationships.
• And what happens when you learn to stop emotional delegating, and step into its opposite: emotional agency.

As you recognize that you are emotionally delegating, you hand yourself, and your marriage, a huge win. When you stop doing it, and begin to step into emotional agency, instead, you empower yourself even more, and give your relationship the very best chance to become the truly loving one you have always wanted. So don't miss this essential episode.

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191 Vulnerability is the secret magic sauce that makes for the best, most connecting communication in your relationship– and today you are going to learn all about it!

You’ll hear:

• What vulnerability actually is
• Why it is so magic in relationship
• specific examples of what communicating vulnerably looks like, along with when to lean into using it,
• Why you may not be being vulnerable when you most need to be
• What that costs you and your relationship
• And, of course, what it takes to truly BE vulnerable in your communications, including the most foundational ingredient to harness the beautiful power of vulnerability.

The truth is, despite the great heart-opening power of vulnerability to create that deep close loving intimacy you want, it doesn't come that naturally to many of us as HSPs.

So tune in now to hear how to make it easier and more natural, so you can reap the huge benefits you will feel in your marriage when you communicate in a more vulnerable way.

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190 I made you a special short quiz to determine the level of dysregulation in your unique nervous system. (This episode goes hand in hand with episode 189, so I highly recommend listening to it first, or after you take the quiz.)

Why should you take it? Because as highly sensitive people (and really, as just regular human beings on this planet in these modern times), our nervous systems are often chronically dysregulated.

And this has a major impact in a not-so-great way on our lives in general and especially on our relationships. So you need to understand if you have a nervous system that is dysregulated chronically or that tends to get easily dysregulated.

Unfortunately this can happen even more easily for us than non-HSPs.

When we are dysregulated, we react more strongly than we normally would, in one way or another, and that leads to much more drama, much more struggle in our relationships, and a lot less clear, effective communication, a lot less getting through to our spouses, and being able to really hear each other, a lot less open-heartedness and connection, and a lot less feeling the mutual supportiveness and sense of being on the same team.

So there really are many different ways that nervous system dysregulation can show up to the detriment of your relationship and to the detriment of your life in general.

And you do want to know if it is happening for you so that you can make the necessary changes. Because that's the really good news: you have so much sway over your nervous system regulation or dysregulation. It just can take a little bit of learning and attention to it.

Dive in now with pen and paper in hand.

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Take the Dysregualtion quiz here in written format.

Learn all about Foundations of Emotional Well-Being Course; The Root Of A Better Relationship here. Doors close June 22nd, 2025 .

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