199 Resentment, grievance, and blame: these are not easy things to move past in our intimate relationships, especially, when it feels like your partner has piled on many little – or big – hurts, transgressions, and wrongdoings over the course of your relationship.

Resent and blame come very naturally to us as humans, so if you feel them, you are oh-so-normal. AND, they are keeping you locked out of your heart. THey are keeping you from the love you could otherwise be feeling, and the love you could otherwise be receiving.

So in this episode, I give you a formula to begin to let go of resentment you may be feeling towards your spouse.

I also dive into:

• what resentment is,
• how it is different from anger,
• why it may not be what you have always thought it was,
• why it is so important to move past it,
• what situation this resentment resolution formula works best in,
• several stories about my clients and myself that will help you understand how to use this formula to get free of the resentment that is dragging you and your relationship down,
• and how to go deeper to truly set your heart FREE to love and be loved again.

When we harbor resentment towards our spouse, whether it is just a small amount or a large amount, it eats us up from the inside out, like a poison. Luckily, YOU have the power to heal it. Dive into this episode now and begin.

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198 To make your relationship better, it's absolutely essential to BELIEVE it is possible to do so. That's why I love sharing about the changes my clients see when they work with me: it helps you believe you can also make your relationship better, too!

But it's even more helpful and inspiring to hear directly from these women themselves. So here's Caroline! Get ready to feel so much hope and inspiration.

When Caroline came to me for 1:1 coaching, she was struggling with feeling small and insecure in her relationship, unsure it could work, afraid to fully be herself, and frustrated at her own behavior. She kept having doubts that this relationship could last. But she really wanted it to work.

And it has. The relationship is so strong now, and she feels really free to be her full self in it. She is so much happier, feels really secure, connected, and in love and loved. She feels how much power she has to continue to make things great, and has seen her partner grow a lot, too, as she has focused on her own inner work and how she shows up in the relationship.

What did it take for her to get here? Listen in as she shares many gold nuggets of wisdom, pieces from her coaching journey that made all the difference for her, and tips for other HSP women to make their marriages more secure, loving, and mutually supportive.

You will also hear:

• What things were like for her before working with me (many of which are oh-so-common for HS women)
• More about what has changed for her and her partner since working with me
• Specific details about the nervous system work and thought work that made so much difference for her.
• Why is it normal to fear that this work may not “work”
• How she started believing coaching with me would work–and why that made all the difference in the world
• What made it possible for her to be so good at implementing the coaching I gave her and applying the tools.
• Why “leading love” works, and how much power you have as a highly sensitive woman to change your relationship for the much better
• How her partner shifted himself as she did this work, and how much sway her inner work had in how wonderful the relationship is now
• What has been the difference for her between listening to the podcast, and direct coaching support and how therapy and coaching have been different for her
• Why the structure and process of coaching with me works and makes it easy to really DO what it takes to make your relationship great
• Why she wants to have a non-sensitive brain and why “equipping” it matters for love.
• And lots more!

You'll come away from this episode with deep insight into what so much of what I’ve shared on this podcast looks like applied in the real life and relationships of an HSP woman, more confidence that you really have so much power to improve things in your marriage, and a deeper sense of hope and motivation that you, too, can have a much brighter future as you do this work yourself.

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197 One of the reasons so many marriages and relationships are not as good as they could be, or are really quite painful, is that we tend to approach our relationships in instinctual ways.

Since instinct often comes not from our inner wisdom (that intuition’s role), but from our inner protective patterning and our cultural conditioning, following our instinct in our relationship can often slowly –or quickly– erode the love and closeness in it.

The truth is that building and maintaining the best possible marriage with our partner entails a lot of things that are not instinctual—that are actually quite counterintuitive!

We want to embrace these counter-instinctual ways–and don't worry, over time they eventually do become natural or instinctual to do.

But to embrace them, you need to know what they are, of course!

So today I am going to share 18 counter-instinctual approaches or understandings that HEAL and CONNECT and lead to truly a fulfilling relationship with your partner.

You’ll also hear about how I followed my instinct in my first marriage until I ran into the ground, what the difference is between instinct, intuition, and skill, and how when I say counter-instinctual approaches I also mean cutting edge, and well, simply effective.

Seeing as the way we have been doing relationships for the last 70 years or more is obviously not yielding the loving, secure, mutually corroborating, deeply connected marriages we really want as women, tune in today and learn 18 of the counterintuitive things to understand and live out to make your marriage one you feel so RIGHT in, so at HOME in, and so much LOVE in.

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