Marriage is a constant journey of learning, growth, and reminding ourselves of the basics—especially during stressful seasons. In this week’s episode, we’re taking you behind the scenes of our own marriages to share the top three lessons we’ve each learned with our spouses over the years.

We kick things off with a little chit chat (thanks to Colin for the idea!) about what we’ve been reading and watching lately before diving into the heart of the episode: the relationship lessons that continue to shape our marriages.

Here’s what you’ll hear in today’s episode:

• Amy’s #1: Why standing by your core values matters, even when it feels uncomfortable—especially when it comes to finances.
  
  
  
• Abby’s #1: The power of speaking up when it matters most (without nitpicking everything).
  
  
  
• Amy’s #2: Shifting your perspective from “me vs. you” to “us vs. the problem.”
  
  
  
• Abby’s #2: Embracing the reality that we all change over time—and learning to love your spouse as they grow.
  
  
  
• Amy’s #3: Letting your partner positively influence you (this one gets spicy!).
  
  
  
• Abby’s #3: Why having dreams together matters—and how to let your spouse in on yours.
  
  
  

If you’ve been craving real, honest conversations about what makes marriage work, this episode will give you tangible reminders, relatable stories, and encouragement to keep building a strong foundation with your partner.

Let us know what resonates most with you! Share your biggest takeaway from this episode over on Instagram @herselfpodcast—we love hearing from you.

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Conflict is a natural part of every relationship—whether it’s in marriage, friendship, family, or work. In this week’s episode, we’re diving into the 5 different conflict styles (the accommodator, the avoider, the compromiser, the competitor, and the collaborator) and exploring how they show up in our lives.

We share personal stories and examples of how conflict plays out differently in our marriages versus our friendships. Abby opens up about realizing her conflict style might not be what she originally thought after reflecting with her husband, Colin, who leans more toward the “need to be right” style. Amy talks about how she used to lean heavily on avoidance but, through therapy, has been growing into a more collaborative approach.

Inside this episode, you’ll learn:

• What the 5 conflict styles are and how they show up in relationships.
  
  
• Why saying “we never fight” might actually mean you’re not speaking up for yourself.
  
  
• Why our conflict styles can look different in marriage vs. friendships.
  
  
• How to decide which relationships are worth working through conflict for.
  
  

Remember: the goal isn’t to avoid conflict altogether, but to understand how you (and those around you) approach it so you can move toward healthier resolutions.

• Read the article on the 5 conflict styles here.

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Since it’s a holiday here in the U.S., we’re bringing back one of our most downloaded and loved episodes of all time—with none other than the incredible Shrink Chicks, Emmalee and Jennifer, co-founders of The Therapy Group.

These two women are experts in relationships, and in this conversation, we dig deep into what happens after kids enter the picture. From navigating conflict and working through small disagreements to building healthier communication patterns, this episode is packed with strategies you can use at every stage of your relationship.

To be honest, it felt like we were sitting in on our very own couples therapy session—except thousands of you were right there with us, nodding along to the truths being shared.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

• How to navigate conflict in a way that strengthens your relationship.
  
  
  
• Tools to move through disagreements without disconnecting.
  
  
  
• Why communication patterns matter more than winning an argument.
  
  
  
• The importance of seeking support instead of trying to “fix it all” on your own.
  
  
  

Important note: The guidance shared in this episode is meant for those in safe, healthy relationships. If abuse is present, these tools won’t apply, and we encourage you to seek professional resources and support.

One of the most powerful takeaways from this conversation is that you don’t need to figure out your relationship struggles alone. Resources, therapy, and the right tools can transform your partnership—and your life.

We’d love to hear your biggest “aha” moments after listening. Share your takeaways with us on Instagram and tag @shrinkchicks and @herselfpodcast so we can connect with you.

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