For years, women have been telling men to "go to therapy," "get healed," and "step up." But what happens when a man actually does it?

In this profound and challenging clip, Pastor James and the panel of men confront a hard reality: Most women are not ready for the man they say they want.

They explain that a healed, God-fearing man leads at a pace and rhythm that can feel uncomfortable if you aren't prepared to follow. The conversation then shifts to the critical mechanics of a successful relationship, from building the right "team" (Visionary vs. Strategist) to the fragile nature of a man's emotional safety.

In this video, you will discover:

The "Healed Man" Paradox: Why a man walking in true authority might feel like he is "dragging" you if you haven't cultivated your own capacity.

Team Dynamics: Why two visionaries in a relationship often leads to stagnation, and why you need to pick a partner who complements your weaknesses (the "Scottie Pippen" to your "Jordan") .

True Spiritual Leadership: It’s not just about praying over food; it’s about a track record of making godly decisions in "crunch time".

How to Close a Man's Heart: The subtle ways women "self-sabotage" intimacy by criticizing a man's playfulness or vulnerability.

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How often do we enter a conflict waiting for the other person to apologize, convinced that they are the problem?

In this episode, we uncover the difficult truth about relationship dynamics: we are often blind to our own reflection. We discuss the concept of being "Root People, not Fruit People"—digging beneath the surface arguments to find the deep-seated behaviors that are actually rotting the relationship.

We also explore the three spiritual pillars of marriage—To Become, To Build, and To Bless—and why "becoming" is the hardest, most painful part of the journey. If you feel like your relationship is stuck in a loop, or if you are preparing to say "I do," this conversation will challenge you to stop seeking validation and start seeking growth.

In this episode, you will learn:

The Mirror Principle: Why it takes us 10 minutes to name our own flaws but only 10 seconds to name our partner’s.

Root vs. Fruit: Why fixing surface-level arguments never heals the relationship.

The Mutation of Selfishness: How undefined character flaws grow like a virus over time.

The Cost of Validation: Why couples ignore red flags in premarital counseling because they’ve already "spent the money."

The term "provider" is controversial in modern dating. Does it mean a six-figure salary, or is it about a man's willingness to support his family?

In this candid and revealing clip, Pastor Tiff and the panel tackle the hard question: How important is it for a man to be a provider? They break down the different definitions of provision—from financial support to emotional stability—and confront the reality of settling for a man who lacks ambition.

This conversation explores the trade-offs women face: Is it okay to choose a "good man" who is comfortable with a modest life, or should you hold out for a partner who matches your drive?

In this video, you will discover:

Why many men today seem "allergic" to the word provider, and why that's a red flag.

The difference between a man (who meets needs) and a boy (who brings burdens).

Why provision isn't just about money—it's about emotional support, foresight, and partnership.

The tough truth about dating a man with low ambition: If he's comfortable where he is, but you're driven for more, are you truly compatible?.

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In this vulnerable and wide-ranging episode, Pastor James opens up about his journey from a selfish lifestyle and federal prison to discovering his true calling. He shares the hard lesson learned from a past "transactional" marriage where he tried to cover up a mistake rather than repent, leading to a quick annulment.

"Ask the Pastor" panel featuring Carin, Oge, and Talonna, where they discuss the difference between Purpose (the destination), Vision (the roadmap), and Gift (the transportation). Pastor James explains why he turned down a "good" opportunity to be the chaplain for the Golden State Warriors because "good" is often the enemy of the "God thing". Finally, the group dives into relationship dynamics, discussing why couples must be "Root People, not Fruit People" to identify the deep-seated issues that mutate like a virus if left unchecked.

Key Topics:

• Redemption: How hitting rock bottom and prison forced a shift from selfishness to purpose.
• The Marriage Impact: Why your spouse doesn't determine your purpose, but they dictate if you ever arrive at the destination.
• Dating & Growth: How to test if a partner is truly "signed up for growth" by giving them a small assignment.
• Self-Awareness: Why you cannot be fully self-aware without allowing someone else to call out your blind spots.

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What do men really need to feel safe in a relationship? In this episode from Grace & Truth Talks, the conversation gets real about growth, humility, leadership, and the often-overlooked ability to submit when your partner is stronger than you in certain areas. This is a powerful and necessary discussion for anyone pursuing healthy love and purposeful partnership.

The guys break down one of the most missing elements in modern relationships: growth, not just physical attraction, humility, or family values, but the intentional decision to evolve together. They explore how powerful it is when two people choose each other not just where they are, but where they’re going.

You’ll hear honest stories about:

• Submitting ego when your partner is better in certain areas
• Creating financial plans as a team
• Why accountability and humility matter
• The beauty of a woman who leads with elegance, wisdom, and presence
• The struggle many couples face when it comes to saying “I’m sorry” and taking responsibility

The conversation is open, raw, and real, touching on the ego of men, the accountability blind spots of women, and the importance of introspection, spiritual character, and emotional maturity in relationships today. If you’ve ever wondered why great relationships fall apart, or what keeps strong couples growing together, this clip hits home.

Everybody asks women what they want in a man, but this time, the fellas got the mic. In this raw and mature Grace & Truth episode, Pastor James sat down with three single men to have an honest conversation about what marriage-minded men actually look for in a wife, beyond looks, status or social media trends.

They talk humility, emotional safety, growth and how ego, pride, and timing shape the way men love and lead. It’s real, relevant and necessary. In this episode:

• The balance between strength, softness & submission

• How ego and pride affect love & leadership

• Emotional safety: why men shut down or open up

• Right woman, wrong season — when timing matters

• Modesty, femininity & what actually draws a godly man

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On this episode of Grace & Truth, we are getting real about the difference between infatuation and mature, sacrificial love. We discuss why so many of us get stuck in relationships that move in circles rather than spiraling upward, and why "potential" is the most dangerous thing to fall in love with. Pastor James and Pastor Tiff share the blueprint for spotting "fruit" in a partner—looking past the material things to see character, discipline, and purpose.

In this episode:

• The Reality Check: Why 85% of people who get into toxicity never come out of it.
• The Safety of Real Love: Why feeling emotionally safe is the ultimate indicator that you are with the right person.
• Financial & Emotional Red Flags: How selfishness shows up in small ways (like eating alone in the car!) and what it says about a person's character.
• The Law of Investment: Why you cannot reap a harvest where you haven't sown, but you must ensure the ground is fertile first.
• The final, liberating realization you must have: You must stop trusting God for the relationship and start trusting God with you and your future.

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For the single person or the grieving heart, the holidays can feel like a minefield of memories and expectations. In this segment, we discuss why you don't have to "perform" happiness this season.

Courtney Truitt, a Certified Trauma-Informed Grief Coach, joins Pastor Tiff to share actionable advice on setting holiday boundaries—including why you should always drive your own car to events so you can leave when you need to. She also explains the difference between "wallowing" and "sitting in the pain", and how to honor loved ones with new traditions rather than trying to recreate the past.

In this episode:

• Exit Strategies: Practical boundaries for attending holiday events.
• Understanding Triggers: How to spot when you are becoming irritable due to suppressed grief.
• Reclaiming Joy: How to stop identifying solely as a "griever" and start finding peace again.
• New Traditions: Why you should create new rituals (like the "red truck" ornament) instead of forcing old ones.

We talked about creating new traditions instead of forcing old ones. What is one small way you are honoring a loved one this holiday season? Let us know in the comments! Available now on all podcast platforms.

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