For years, women have been telling men to "go to therapy," "get healed," and "step up." But what happens when a man actually does it?

In this profound and challenging clip, Pastor James and the panel of men confront a hard reality: Most women are not ready for the man they say they want.

They explain that a healed, God-fearing man leads at a pace and rhythm that can feel uncomfortable if you aren't prepared to follow. The conversation then shifts to the critical mechanics of a successful relationship, from building the right "team" (Visionary vs. Strategist) to the fragile nature of a man's emotional safety.

In this video, you will discover:

The "Healed Man" Paradox: Why a man walking in true authority might feel like he is "dragging" you if you haven't cultivated your own capacity.

Team Dynamics: Why two visionaries in a relationship often leads to stagnation, and why you need to pick a partner who complements your weaknesses (the "Scottie Pippen" to your "Jordan") .

True Spiritual Leadership: It’s not just about praying over food; it’s about a track record of making godly decisions in "crunch time".

How to Close a Man's Heart: The subtle ways women "self-sabotage" intimacy by criticizing a man's playfulness or vulnerability.

Comment below: Do you think you are truly ready to be led by a man who is moving at full speed? 👇

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How often do we enter a conflict waiting for the other person to apologize, convinced that they are the problem?

In this episode, we uncover the difficult truth about relationship dynamics: we are often blind to our own reflection. We discuss the concept of being "Root People, not Fruit People"—digging beneath the surface arguments to find the deep-seated behaviors that are actually rotting the relationship.

We also explore the three spiritual pillars of marriage—To Become, To Build, and To Bless—and why "becoming" is the hardest, most painful part of the journey. If you feel like your relationship is stuck in a loop, or if you are preparing to say "I do," this conversation will challenge you to stop seeking validation and start seeking growth.

In this episode, you will learn:

The Mirror Principle: Why it takes us 10 minutes to name our own flaws but only 10 seconds to name our partner’s.

Root vs. Fruit: Why fixing surface-level arguments never heals the relationship.

The Mutation of Selfishness: How undefined character flaws grow like a virus over time.

The Cost of Validation: Why couples ignore red flags in premarital counseling because they’ve already "spent the money."

The term "provider" is controversial in modern dating. Does it mean a six-figure salary, or is it about a man's willingness to support his family?

In this candid and revealing clip, Pastor Tiff and the panel tackle the hard question: How important is it for a man to be a provider? They break down the different definitions of provision—from financial support to emotional stability—and confront the reality of settling for a man who lacks ambition.

This conversation explores the trade-offs women face: Is it okay to choose a "good man" who is comfortable with a modest life, or should you hold out for a partner who matches your drive?

In this video, you will discover:

Why many men today seem "allergic" to the word provider, and why that's a red flag.

The difference between a man (who meets needs) and a boy (who brings burdens).

Why provision isn't just about money—it's about emotional support, foresight, and partnership.

The tough truth about dating a man with low ambition: If he's comfortable where he is, but you're driven for more, are you truly compatible?.

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