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Gay Men Going Deeper

Gay Men Going Deeper

By: Gay Men's Brotherhood
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 Gay Men Going Deeper is a weekly podcast that showcases raw and real conversations about personal development, mental health, and sexuality - from an unapologetically gay perspective. Hosted by Matt Landsiedel and Michael DiIorio, and featuring a wide range of special guests, you can expect to be inspired, entertained, and even a little triggered from time to time. This provocative podcast is for anyone who craves deeper conversations on topics ranging from spirituality to sexuality - and everything in between. Visit us at www.GayMenGoingDeeper.com Support the show: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=LT55M79CMH5FN© 2020 Gay Men's Brotherhood Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Social Sciences
Episodes
  • Why Are Gay Friendships So Hard?

    Why Are Gay Friendships So Hard?
    May 29 2025

    For many gay men, friendship is complicated, performative, and sometimes downright painful. We crave genuine connection but end up navigating cliques, comparison, and quiet loneliness.

    In this episode, Michael and Pepper are doing an exposé on gay friendships to unpack what’s really going on beneath the surface and why so many gay friendships fall short of the depth and safety we actually want.

    We’re breaking it down in three parts:

    • The Pretty Lies: Performative friendship, superficiality, and toxic group dynamics
    • The Ugly Truth: How shame, fear, and survival strategies get in the way of true friendship
    • True Friendship: What fun, nourishing gay friendship looks like and how we can build it

    This episode is your invitation to shift from followers to friendship, and from competition to collaboration—and start building real connection.

    Related Episodes:

    • Making Friends (Introvert Edition)
    • How to Make Friends with Gay Men

    Today's Guest: Pepper Rojas

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    Today's Host: Michael DiIorio

    • Instagram

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    - CONNECT WITH US -

    • Watch podcast episodes on YouTube
    • Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community
    • Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls
    • Follow us on Instagram | TikTok
    • Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com

    - LEARN WITH US -

    • Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.
    • Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame.
    • Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series.
    • Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.
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    54 mins
  • The Reparenting Process

    The Reparenting Process
    May 22 2025

    How do the unmet needs of our childhood shape who we are today? And more importantly, how do we learn to meet those needs for ourselves as adults?

    In this deeply personal and eye-opening episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we explore the re-parenting process—a therapeutic model that helps us heal old wounds, develop self-compassion, and rewrite the internal narratives we inherited from childhood.

    We’ll be getting personal as we reflect on on three powerful questions:

    1️⃣ What needs went unmet for you as a child? 2️⃣ How did you cope with these unmet needs? 3️⃣ How have you learned to meet these needs for yourself as an adult?

    From loneliness and perfectionism to people-pleasing and self-expression, we dive into the real-life stories and coping strategies that shaped our past and the lessons we’ve learned to become the men we are today.

    Tune in for an honest, vulnerable, and inspiring discussion on how we can become the loving, supportive parents we always needed—for ourselves.

    Related Link: Inner Child Work

    Today's Hosts:

    • Michael DiIorio
    • Matt Landsiedel
    • Reno Johnston

    Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes

    - CONNECT WITH US -

    • Watch podcast episodes on YouTube
    • Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community
    • Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls
    • Follow us on Instagram | TikTok
    • Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com

    - LEARN WITH US -

    • Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.
    • Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame.
    • Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series.
    • Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.
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    54 mins
  • How to Not Lose Yourself in Your Relationships

    How to Not Lose Yourself in Your Relationships
    May 15 2025
    In this episode, Matt speaks with therapist and author, Tom Bruett, about how to avoid losing yourself in your relationships. By balancing connection and autonomy in our relationships, we can foster more secure relationships that allow us to maintain our sense of self while allowing our partner to do the same. If you easily lose yourself in your relationships or you’re having a hard time establishing intimacy, this episode will offer a refreshing perspective and tangible takeaways to help you improve your relationship with yourself and others. The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are: What is codependency and enmeshment?What are the consequences of being codependent or enmeshed in relationships?What causes codependency and enmeshment?How can we heal from codependency and enmeshment?What is interdependency and differentiation?How does interdependence and differentiation support secure relationships?How does attachment style play a role in this topic?What are some tangible ways to practice interdependence and differentiation? Book by Tom Bruett: The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men: From Honeymoon to Lasting Commitment Today's Guest: Tom Bruett Instagram Today's Host: Matt Landsiedel FacebookInstagramTikTok Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTubeJoin the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook communityGet on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.
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    54 mins

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