In this episode of Free from Porn, Richard and Justin dive deep into the hidden engine behind so many porn addictions: shame.

We’ve been told that feeling worse will make us do better — that if we could just hate our sin enough, we’d finally change. But what if shame isn’t the path to freedom... but the very thing keeping you enslaved?

Through personal stories, parenting reflections, and powerful gospel truth, we expose how shame speaks — “What’s wrong with you?” “You should’ve known better” — and why it never leads to lasting transformation. You'll hear how a single word of belief from a mother, or unexpected kindness from a father-in-law, can spark the courage to walk a new path.

This episode isn’t just about recognizing shame — it’s about replacing it with the voice of the Father who rejoices over you with singing, even in your worst moment. The God who turns shame into praise.

If you’ve been stuck in silence, guilt, and self-hatred, this conversation might be the beginning of your breakthrough.

📩 Got questions or want to talk? DM me. You’re not alone — and freedom is your new normal.

What if I still want to look at porn after getting free? Does that mean I’m not really in Christ?

This is the question that trips up so many people on their freedom journey. In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast, Justin Khoe and Richard Young dismantle the hidden lies behind that fear.

If you’ve ever thought you were going in and out of Christ based on your performance, this conversation will flip that entire narrative on its head. You’ll discover:

• Why God puts you in Christ—and why you can’t get yourself out.
• How your unwanted urges don’t define your desires.
• Why tension is actually a sign of your freedom, not your failure.
• How to stop reacting to temptation and start responding from the truth of who you are.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone who feels stuck in the cycle of guilt, shame, and anxiety—thinking they’ve somehow fallen out of God’s grace.

Freedom isn’t fragile. It’s your new normal.

Is melatonin the secret weapon to overcoming porn? Well… maybe not the Walmart version. In this episode of the Free from Porn podcast, Richard and Justin kick things off with a hilarious dive into supplements, sleep cycles, and the rogue Joe Rogan research that got them thinking: maybe the real solution isn’t fighting porn harder — maybe it’s surrendering.

Through Chiefs football analogies, victory laps, and the not-so-already-but-actually-already victory of Jesus, they unpack why so many Christians are stuck battling something that's already been defeated. You don’t have to fight for victory. You get to live from it.

This episode is for you if you’ve been caught in the exhausting cycle of fighting urges, thinking you're still in a war that’s already over.

The game’s over. Time to take a knee.

Cold plunges make you watch porn?
That’s what we (jokingly) claim in today’s episode—but what we’re really talking about is decision fatigue, willpower myths, and why what you believe about your ability to overcome matters more than you think.

Join Richard and Justin as they dive into:

• Why your willpower isn’t your problem
• How decision fatigue sneaks up on you
• The surprising link between cold plunges, late-night Amazon shopping, and your porn habits
• Why it’s not about having more fruit—it’s about knowing you have the orchard

This episode is packed with stories, laughs, and a powerful truth:
You don’t need more self-control.
You already have the Source living in you.

Tune in now to break free from the hustle, the struggle, and the scarcity mindset for good.

“Intentional Relapsing?” Why What You Do After Matters Most

Today on the Free From Porn podcast, Justin Coup and Richard Young tackle a phrase that might sound like a trap: intentional relapsing. Are we saying plan to relapse? Absolutely not. But how you respond when you stumble may be the most important moment of all.

We explore why relapse can become a powerful teacher—if you let truth train you instead of shame define you. From lactose intolerance gone wrong to zippers and golf swings, today’s episode is full of laughs, real talk, and gospel-centered hope for anyone struggling with setbacks on the journey to freedom.

This one’s for you if:

• You’ve recently relapsed and feel like giving up
• You want to stop cycling through guilt and start learning
• You need a reminder that God hasn’t forsaken you—He’s fathering you

The righteous fall… and they get back up. Let’s talk about how.

Is willpower enough to quit porn? What about systems—filters, accountability, and habits?

In this episode of Free From Porn, Justin and Richard break down the three steps to quitting porn right now—and why most guys never make it past step two. From the fleeting strength of willpower to the limits of even the best-designed systems, they reveal the real game-changer: identity.

You’ll hear stories, practical tips, and a no-fluff breakdown of why raising your standard and living from your true identity in Christ is the only foundation strong enough to walk in lasting freedom. If you’re tired of white-knuckling your way through temptation and want to experience true transformation, this episode is for you.

Highlights:

• Why willpower always runs out (and what to do instead)
• How smart systems can help—but can’t save
• Why identity is the missing piece most people never talk about
• Real stories from our coaching program
• A prayer to stand in your new identity

💥 Ready to raise your standard?
Hit play and discover what freedom really looks like.

In today’s episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard and Justin confront one of the most common—but unbiblical—prayers we hear from men in our coaching program:

"God, take away my sexual desires."

But what if that’s not the problem?

What if your sexual desire isn’t a curse to be removed—but a gift to be redeemed?

We talk about:

• Why numbing your desires leads to spiritual and emotional dysfunction
• How Jesus models what it means to feel deeply (without being ruled by feelings)
• Why real freedom doesn’t mean shutting down your sex drive—but learning to steward it in righteousness
• The trap of Christianized stoicism and the myth of “robotic holiness”
• How to stop seeing your sexuality as dirty and start thanking God for it

If you’ve ever begged God to just make it all go away, this one’s for you.

Ever fallen once… and then gone all in on failure?

In this hilarious yet deeply honest episode, Richard and Justin unpack the all-or-nothing mindset that keeps so many stuck in cycles of porn, shame, and self-condemnation. What starts with a lactose pill and ends with a binge becomes the perfect metaphor for how guilt drives us deeper into the very thing we want freedom from.

You’ll learn:
– Why “one slip” doesn’t mean you’re out of Christ
– How guilt and shame fuel binging behavior
– The difference between falling in Christ vs falling out of covenant
– Why God’s mercy isn’t on a 24-hour countdown timer
– And how to get back up without starting over

This one’s funny, raw, and full of gospel truth. If you’ve ever felt like you had to earn your way back to God, this episode will set you free.