Have you ever noticed that the moment you start doing something new, stressful, or outside your comfort zone, the urges to look at prn suddenly show up again? In this honest and vulnerable episode, Richard opens up about why launching the Free From Prn coaching program actually increased his urges. Joined by Justin Khoe, they unpack why stress often becomes a hidden trigger and how to process it without escaping.

Together they explore:
• Why p*rn isn’t the problem, it’s the solution you’ve been using
• How stress and new challenges can surface old habits
• The biblical path to regulating emotions without shame
• What Philippians 4 teaches about anxiety, prayer, and peace
• A simple, powerful breathing practice that calms your body and centers your heart in Christ

This episode will remind you that stress isn’t your enemy—it’s an invitation to slow down, breathe, and experience the peace of God that guards your heart and mind.

Listen now to discover how freedom looks even in moments of pressure.

Most people would rather hide than admit they’re struggling with porn—but what if talking about it is the very thing that breaks its power?

In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast, Justin and Richard get real about embarrassment—why we feel it, how it keeps us stuck, and what happens when we finally stop pretending. Joined by their friend David Hunte, who battled porn for over 40 years, they unpack the role of shame, identity, and community in finding lasting freedom.

David shares how understanding who he is in Christ—and learning to take thoughts captive—transformed decades of secrecy into a testimony of freedom. From “trying harder” to “standing fast in liberty,” this conversation will help you see that your struggle doesn’t define you, and you don’t have to hide anymore.

🎧 In this episode you’ll hear:

• Why talking about your porn struggle isn’t embarrassing—it’s freeing
• How guilt, shame, and condemnation keep you silent (and stuck)
• The identity shift that ends the cycle for good
• Why community and confession are crucial to walking in victory
• How to renew your mind when temptation hits

If you’ve ever thought, “I can’t talk about this”—this episode is your permission to stop hiding. Freedom starts with honesty.

We kept the awkward cold open on purpose—because today’s conversation starts messy and turns miraculous. Justin is back after an emergency C-section and a week in the NICU with baby Ezekiel (“Zeke”). Out of that whirlwind, he shares a gospel reframing that changes how you think about sin, shame, and why white-knuckling never sets you free.

Richard and Justin unpack Romans 5 and Titus 2 through a powerful NICU analogy: sin isn’t a slap-on-the-wrist for “spilling the milk”—it’s a condition you were born into. Separation from God isn’t Him arms-crossed at the door; it’s a Father whose heart breaks while He moves heaven and earth to bring you home. The punchline? Your first and most powerful prayer isn’t “I’ll try harder.” It’s one word: “Thank You.”

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why behavior-first strategies keep you stuck—and what identity-first freedom looks like
• How Romans 5 reframes sin as condition, not condemnation (and why that matters for p*rn)
• The one-word prayer that ends the shame spiral and jump-starts real transformation
• How grace actually trains you (Titus 2) to say no to ungodliness without hating yourself
• A simple way to practice gratitude that rewires your reactions in the heat of temptation

Real freedom starts when truth leaves your lips. In this episode, Richard unpacks radical honesty—why saying the real thing out loud (to safe, gospel-anchored people) exposes the lie beneath a porn habit and opens the door to healing. You’ll hear how confession isn’t shame—it’s surgery—and why many of us only realize what’s true as we say it.

In this episode you’ll learn

• Why isolation keeps the cycle alive—and how honest confession snaps it.
• How the kind of porn you’re drawn to can reveal an unmet need or hidden lie.
• A simple framework to practice honesty inside trusted community (without self-condemnation).
• What scripture actually invites us into: confession → healing → renewed identity (James 5:16; 1 John 4:7–8).
• A guided prayer to help you speak truth and receive grace—today.

Most people lump m*sturbation and p*rn into one bucket, then stack on rules until the bowstring snaps—and the binge follows. In this episode, Richard Young takes a grace-first look at desire, self-control, and what God actually calls sin. Spoiler: the real issue is objectifying people for selfish ends—not a moment of physical release.

Drawing from a conversation with caring parents, Richard unpacks how shame around sexuality can prime the cycle of escape and numbing—and how lowering the stakes helps many step out of compulsion. You’ll learn:

• How to separate p*rn-driven fantasy from simple physiology
• Why “more rules” often intensify rebounds (and what to do instead)
• A practical, shame-free way to coach yourself—or your kids—toward healthy sexuality
• How stress and anxiety fuel the escape loop, plus a prayerful path to peace

If you’re tired of white-knuckling and ready for clear-conscience living, this conversation will help you trade shame for wisdom and walk in real freedom.

P.S. Keep Justin and Emily in your prayers as they welcome baby #2!

If your freedom hinged on a perfect test score, most of us would be doomed. Good news—it doesn’t. In this episode, Richard and co-host Justin dismantle a viral “SAT success” parable to expose something far bigger: belief shapes behavior. If a lie (a wrong score) can transform a life, how much more can the truth of the gospel rewrite your habits, desires, and outcomes? We walk through Romans 6, laugh at the shame-y scripts that pretend porn still owns you, and trade the “try harder” treadmill for identity-based transformation. You’ll hear the two sneaky lies that quietly prolong a porn habit, the one liberating truth that ends it, and a grace-filled way to process urges without white-knuckling. Listen in, breathe out, and step into what’s already true of you in Christ.

• Why identity (not IQ or willpower) drives lasting behavior change
• The 2 lies that keep you looping: “porn has power over me” and “I actually want it”
• The gospel reframe: “Sin shall not have dominion over you” → how to live that today
• A simple way to process urges without shame, panic, or self-punishment
• How to laugh at old scripts and realign to your new heart

Romans 6:14, Romans 6:17, Colossians 2:15, Ephesians 2:6

If boredom sends you to your phone—and your phone sends you to porn—this episode is your reset. Richard breaks down why there’s no such thing as a “dopamine hit,” how novelty drops your baseline and fuels escalation, and how a few simple shifts can raise your baseline so books, prayer, and family time feel rich again.

You’ll learn:
• Why peaks/novelty lower your dopamine baseline (and motivation)
• How boredom + scrolling quietly funnels you back to porn
• The “turn your phone into a phone” rule that disarms triggers
• Practical resets: no-phone mornings, room-parking your phone, long-form without a second screen
• The gospel frame: dead to sin, alive to God—welcoming urges and answering with truth

We end with a prayer to trade peaks and valleys for steady joy in Jesus. Share this with a friend who says, “I relapse when I’m bored.”

Are “big BUTs” sabotaging your freedom? Not those glutes—the tiny word that sneaks in after truth: “I know I’m free in Christ, but…” In this episode, Richard Young and Justin K. dismantle the sneaky “but” statements that keep you married to an old identity. Drawing from a recent church trip to Texas, they walk through Romans 6, Revelation 1, and Jesus’ “good tree” metaphor in Matthew 7 to show why a healthy tree (you, in Christ) produces good fruit—and how the “but” often reveals the real lie you’re believing.

You’ll hear a live coaching moment where a brother realizes he doesn’t actually believe he’s a “good tree,” why all-or-nothing thinking (hello, 75 Hard) fuels shame and relapse, and how to let good fruit ripen with patience instead of quitting at the first stumble. The episode closes with a hopeful prayer, rooting you again in your union with Jesus.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to spot the “BUT” that’s blocking transformation
• Why identity (“good tree”) precedes behavior (“good fruit”)
• A grace-based way to handle setbacks without starting over
• Practical steps to take thoughts captive and agree with truth

If you’d like Richard & Justin to teach this message at your church or men’s group, DM us. And if this helped, follow the show and share it with a friend who’s ready to retire their “big BUTs.”