Are “big BUTs” sabotaging your freedom? Not those glutes—the tiny word that sneaks in after truth: “I know I’m free in Christ, but…” In this episode, Richard Young and Justin K. dismantle the sneaky “but” statements that keep you married to an old identity. Drawing from a recent church trip to Texas, they walk through Romans 6, Revelation 1, and Jesus’ “good tree” metaphor in Matthew 7 to show why a healthy tree (you, in Christ) produces good fruit—and how the “but” often reveals the real lie you’re believing.

You’ll hear a live coaching moment where a brother realizes he doesn’t actually believe he’s a “good tree,” why all-or-nothing thinking (hello, 75 Hard) fuels shame and relapse, and how to let good fruit ripen with patience instead of quitting at the first stumble. The episode closes with a hopeful prayer, rooting you again in your union with Jesus.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to spot the “BUT” that’s blocking transformation
• Why identity (“good tree”) precedes behavior (“good fruit”)
• A grace-based way to handle setbacks without starting over
• Practical steps to take thoughts captive and agree with truth

If you’d like Richard & Justin to teach this message at your church or men’s group, DM us. And if this helped, follow the show and share it with a friend who’s ready to retire their “big BUTs.”

In this episode, Richard Young dismantles the myth that freedom should be “easy” if you’re doing it right. If you’ve been looking for a loophole, a hack, or a shame-free shortcut, this conversation reframes the journey: not as trying harder, but as thinking differently—and practicing it daily.

You’ll learn why numbing out is easy in the moment but costly over time, and how to build the resilient, shame-free habits that actually change your life: feeling your feelings, questioning fear, and renewing your mind with truth. Richard breaks down a simple rhythm for processing anxiety with God, taking thoughts captive (2 Cor. 10:5), and being transformed by the renewing of your mind (Rom. 12:2)—even when it’s uncomfortable.

If you’re ready to stop chasing “get-free-quick” and start walking in durable freedom, this one’s for you.

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• Why “make it easier” can become a new form of avoidance
• A simple framework for feeling urges without obeying them
• How to process anxiety with God so peace guards your heart (Phil. 4:7)
• The difference between effort and striving—and how grace fuels practice

On today’s shorter, solo episode of Free From Porn, Richard Young unpacks real questions that came up during a recent 6-hour live coaching weekend in Texas. These aren’t theory questions—these are the ones every man secretly asks:

👉 “What if I still feel tempted?”
👉 “What if my desire goes away… but then comes back?”
👉 “How do I convince my friend porn is bad?”

Here’s the truth: freedom doesn’t mean you’ll never feel temptation again. Even Jesus was tempted. What matters is how you see it—and whether you let shame or grace define your response. Richard explains why temptation isn’t sin, why desire itself isn’t the problem, and why trying to convince someone else to quit will always backfire.

If you’ve ever thought, “Maybe I’m not really free because I still feel tempted”—this episode will change the game for you.

And at the end, Richard shares an exclusive invite to his Shame-Free Path Masterclass happening this Thursday. Normally $27, but for podcast listeners it’s just $5. DM him “SFP” on Instagram to grab your spot.