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Five Year You

Five Year You

By: Andrew Dewar and Catherine Collins
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 Welcome to "Five Year You," the podcast that takes you on a transformative journey toward your future self. Join us as we explore the power of self-improvement, tackling challenges, setting goals, and unleashing the potential within you. Our conversations are raw, real, and relatable, offering practical tips and insights to empower you in your growth. Each episode offers useful tips to help you become the person you aspire to be. Tune in, invest in yourself, and let's embark on this adventure together! Get ready for a unique and personal exploration of the honest and relatable moments that will shape the next chapter of your story. In each episode, we dive into the day-to-day experiences that make up the mosaic of your life over the next five years. From the small victories to the inevitable challenges, "Five Year You" captures the essence of the ordinary and extraordinary moments that contribute to your personal growth. Our tagline, "Raw, Real, Relatable," perfectly encapsulates the authenticity of the stories we share. No glossy highlights, just the unfiltered reality of navigating the twists and turns of everyday life. Join us as we connect with individuals from various walks of life who openly share their aspirations, setbacks, and the unexpected surprises that come with each passing day. Whether you're facing career crossroads, building relationships, or discovering new passions, "Five Year You" is here to provide a real-time reflection on the shared human experience. Tune in for a daily dose of inspiration, motivation, and a reminder that you're not alone on this journey.©Five Year You Hygiene & Healthy Living Personal Development Personal Success Psychology Psychology & Mental Health
Episodes
  • How to Grow When No One Supports You

    How to Grow When No One Supports You
    Mar 4 2026
    Episode OverviewYou decided to grow.You set goals.You changed habits.You started becoming the next version of yourself.And then… the people around you got uncomfortable.In this episode, Andrew and Cat talk about what happens when the people closest to you don’t support your growth — and why this is one of the hardest (and most normal) parts of personal development.If you’ve ever felt misunderstood, judged, teased, or quietly pressured to “go back to who you were,” this episode will help you navigate that tension with clarity, compassion, and strength.Why Growth Disrupts RelationshipsGrowth doesn’t just change you — it changes your dynamics.Relationships are built on patterns. When you shift your behavior, identity, or boundaries, the pattern breaks. And breaking patterns requires adjustment from everyone involved.Common reasons people resist your growth:Your change highlights their stagnationThey fear losing the version of you they knewYour growth forces them to self-reflectThey feel left behindThe relationship feels less predictableIt’s rarely about malice.It’s usually about discomfort.What Happens Inside YouWhen others resist your growth, you may:Feel guiltyWant to shrink backOver-explain your decisionsProtect their feelings at your own expenseQuestion whether you’re doing the right thingYou might notice it physically:Tight chestKnot in your stomachLump in your throatUrge to justify yourselfThat awareness is growth.What NOT to Do❌ Don’t Over-ExplainYou don’t owe anyone a PowerPoint presentation on your life choices.❌ Don’t Argue or DebateYour growth doesn’t need to win a courtroom case.❌ Don’t Shrink to Make Others ComfortableDimming your light to keep peace eventually builds resentment.❌ Don’t Force Others to Join YouYou can’t drag someone onto a growth journey. You can only lead by example.What TO Do Instead✅ Stay ConsistentConsistency builds quiet confidence.✅ Let Your Actions SpeakEmbodiment is more powerful than announcements.✅ Expect DiscomfortGrowth without friction isn’t growth.✅ Use DiscernmentNot all pushback is insecurity. Some feedback is care expressed imperfectly.✅ Grieve What ChangesIf relationships shift, it’s okay to feel sad about it.Growth sometimes requires release.Feedback vs. ResistanceNot all resistance is negativity.Sometimes:Grandma is worried about your diet because she loves you.A friend questions your workload because they’re concerned.A parent warns you because protection is their love language.Discernment matters.Ask:Is this coming from care or insecurity?Is there truth here?Or is this about their discomfort?The Hard TruthYour growth may cost you:Old dynamicsCertain friendshipsPredictabilityApprovalBut it gives you:AlignmentSelf-respectEmotional maturitySpace for better relationshipsRejection can be protection.Reflection QuestionsWhere am I shrinking myself to keep the peace?Whose opinion do I fear most when I change?Am I seeking alignment or approval?What would staying fully grounded look like here?Key Reminder From This EpisodeYou don’t need everyone to understand you.You just need to understand yourself.Thrift Find of the WeekA thrift haul that unexpectedly exploded on Instagram — reminding Andrew and Cat that doing what makes you genuinely happy tends to resonate the most.Glimmers of the WeekGrowth in their thrift content account (because joy compounds).Signs of spring arriving in Chicago.The reminder that authenticity works better than trying to “crack the algorithm.”What’s Coming NextNext episode:How to Stop SpiralingBecause when people don’t support your growth, it’s easy to get in your head. We’ll talk about how to ground yourself and stop the mental spiral before it takes over.Connect With Five Year YouWebsite & Coaching: https://fiveyearyou.comInstagram: https://instagram.com/fiveyearyouEmail: hello@fiveyearyou.comDisclaimerThis podcast is for educational and inspirational purposes only and does not substitute professional advice.
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    25 mins
  • When Growth Hurts: How To Stay Consistent

    When Growth Hurts: How To Stay Consistent
    Feb 25 2026

    You started strong.

    You were motivated.

    You were clear on who you wanted to become.

    And then… it got uncomfortable.

    In this episode, Andrew and Cat walk through what actually happens after the excitement of change fades — when reality hits, resistance shows up, and consistency feels harder than you expected.

    This is the messy middle.

    If you’re building your Five Year You and feel like quitting, this episode will normalize the discomfort, explain what’s happening neurologically, and give you practical strategies to stay the course.

    Why Change Feels So Hard

    When you try to change your habits, you’re not just changing behavior — you’re challenging your identity.

    Your nervous system prefers familiar patterns. Even if your old patterns weren’t ideal, they were predictable. And your brain is wired for safety, not growth.

    So when you:

    1. Wake up earlier
    2. Set new boundaries
    3. Start eating differently
    4. Launch a business
    5. Speak up differently

    Your brain sounds the alarm.

    Discomfort doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong.

    It means you’re doing something new.

    The 4 Types of Discomfort
    1. Emotional Discomfort
    2. Guilt, doubt, awkwardness, imposter syndrome.
    3. Social Discomfort
    4. People reacting to your changes. Feeling misunderstood.
    5. Internal Discomfort
    6. The voice that says: “Who do you think you are?”
    7. Physical Discomfort
    8. Fatigue, soreness, brain fog while building new neural pathways.

    All of this is normal.

    Why Most People Quit

    Consistency doesn’t fall apart because you lack discipline.

    It usually happens when:

    1. The excitement fades
    2. Results aren’t immediate
    3. Old habits start calling you back
    4. You hit the “identity dip”

    The identity dip is the space between who you were and who you’re becoming.

    The beginning is exciting.

    The end is rewarding.

    The middle is messy.

    That messy middle is where growth actually happens.

    The Real Key to Consistency

    It’s not intensity.

    It’s not perfection.

    It’s not even discipline.

    It’s emotional tolerance.

    Can you tolerate:

    1. Doubt?
    2. Delay?
    3. Frustration?
    4. Being...
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    29 mins
  • The 5 Habit Categories of Your Future Self

    The 5 Habit Categories of Your Future Self
    Feb 18 2026

    Most people think they need more discipline to build better habits — but in this episode, Andrew and Cat explain why habits actually work best when they’re aligned with identity, not willpower.

    This conversation breaks habits into five simple, powerful categories that support your nervous system, protect your energy, build self-trust, and reinforce who you’re becoming. Instead of overwhelming routines or perfection-driven checklists, this episode offers a framework for habits that feel sustainable, human, and realistic.

    If you’re building your Five Year You, this episode gives you the structure to do it without burnout or shame.

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    The 5 Habit Categories Explained

    1. Self-Trust Habits

    These habits rebuild your relationship with yourself.

    1. Keeping small promises you make to yourself
    2. Starting when you say you’ll start
    3. Choosing habits you can keep even on hard days
    4. Learning to become accountable to you, not just others

    Self-trust is the foundation of every other habit.

    2. Regulation Habits

    These habits stabilize your nervous system so habits can actually stick.

    1. Breathwork and pauses before reacting
    2. Emotional regulation during stress or frustration
    3. Creating calm in a world designed to overwhelm
    4. Reducing emotional reactivity

    You can’t build your future self from a constantly dysregulated body.

    3. Identity-Confirming Habits

    These habits reinforce who you are becoming.

    1. Writers write
    2. Movers move
    3. Healthy people make health-aligned choices

    Even tiny actions count. Every repetition sends your brain the message: This is who I am.

    4. Boundary Habits

    These habits protect your time, energy, and peace.

    1. Saying no without over-explaining
    2. Reducing people-pleasing behaviors
    3. Letting go of habits, relationships, or patterns that drain you
    4. Learning that what you tolerate teaches others how to treat you

    Boundaries are often the hardest habits — and the most transformative.

    5. Reflection Habits

    These habits turn experience into wisdom.

    1. Daily or weekly reflection
    2. Asking why something felt hard or off
    3. Noticing patterns instead of judging them
    4. Course-correcting with compassion

    Reflection keeps you conscious instead of...
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    29 mins
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