Frank Selden came to a cemetery ready to end his life and walked away with one question: “What if my actions in this life affect what comes next?”

In this episode of Experience Over Expectation, I sit down with Rev. Dr. Frank Selden, a former Army National Guard officer and JAG detachment veteran, and a respected tax and estate attorney who helped thousands of entrepreneurs build with calm, clarity, and care.

Then chronic, late stage Epstein Barr and related complications changed everything. Frank went from high performance and a full life to being in bed most of the day with no clear medical cure, and he reached a breaking point at Tahoma National Cemetery in Washington State.

What happened next, and what he did with that moment, became the beginning of a rebuilt life, reshaped faith, and a slow, deliberate return to meaning. Frank now serves others through trauma informed men’s work, functional medicine exploration, spiritual training, and writing for those living with chronic illness, pain, and mental health struggles. His upcoming autobiography tells the story, and the long work of learning to live again with eternity in mind.

Guest Resource

SoulBuilding: https://soulbuilding.life/

About the guest

Frank Selden is a former Army National Guard officer and JAG detachment veteran, attorney, and trauma informed guide. After chronic illness changed the trajectory of his life, he rebuilt through spiritual training, functional medicine exploration, and men’s work. In his soon to be released autobiography, he shares his candid account of a suicide attempt, a faith questioned and reshaped, and the slow, intentional work of learning to live again with eternity in mind.

About the host

Mary McCorvey is the author of Experience Over Expectation: Let Go of the Plan, Live on Your Terms, and host of the Experience Over Expectation podcast.

What if success is not another achievement, it is a frequency you learn to live in

In this conversation, I sit down with Robin H. Clare, best selling author, creator of The Harmony Method, and a spiritual recovery guide whose work is grounded in her own forty year journey through obsessive compulsive food disorder and bulimia.

Her new book, Harmony, The Frequency of True Success, offers a path for aligning your inner life with your outer purpose so that success stops being a scoreboard and becomes something quieter and more powerful, ease, authenticity, and sovereignty.

We talk about messages from the divine, addiction to suffering, recovery as an integrated mind body spirit emotional journey, and what it means to live in harmony in a world that seems designed for discord.

In this episode

• The origin story of The Harmony Method, awareness, commitment, mastery, service, leadership, and freedom
• How alignment between inner truth and outer purpose helps us manage expectations
• Robin’s journey as a “sacred messenger” and what it feels like to receive spiritual guidance
• The role of Sophia and the divine feminine in healing addiction and suffering
• Why Sophia says there is only one true addiction, suffering, and everything else is a secondary expression
• Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional, how surrender and grace open the door to recovery
• Writing from addiction versus writing from recovery, and why Robin left both voices in her book
• Practical tools, the pause, cutting energetic ties, and letting others be themselves without losing your center

About Robin H. Clare

Robin H. Clare is the creator of The Harmony Method, a transformational framework for restoring balance, clarity, and alignment. She is a best selling author, speaker, podcaster, writing coach, retreat leader, energy healer, and recovery coach whose work is grounded in her sustained recovery from a forty year battle with obsessive compulsive food disorder and bulimia. She has been named among the “10 Best Life and Business Coaches” and “10 Best Energy Healers” by Natural Nutmeg readers for seven consecutive years.

Connect with Robin

Website: https://www.robinhclare.com/

Books: https://www.robinhclare.com/books

Work with Robin: https://www.robinhclare.com/engage

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RobinHClare

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/robinhclareauthor

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robin_h_clare/

Connect with Mary

Website: https://www.marymccorvey.com

Substack, Experience Over Expectation: https://marymccorvey.substack.com

📘 Mary’s book

Experience Over Expectation, Let Go of the Plan, Live on Your Terms is available on Amazon and wherever you get your books.

What if the biggest no of your life became the turning point for everything that followed

In this conversation, Gal Ezra, a South African-born entrepreneur, investor, and founder of Guaranteed Prosperity, shares how being stranded in Cape Town at 19 after a visa rejection with no money and no plan forced him to rebuild from the inside out.

By 25, Gal had built his first million-dollar business. By 30, he had sold four more. Yet his mission is not just about wealth. It is about creating 10,000 ethical millionaires who understand money as a tool for service, not status.

We talk about detours, havingness, fake realities around money, and what it really means to become the source of your own knowledge and your own life.

In this episode:

• Stranded at 19, how one no became Gal’s defining detour
• From events to finance to training, the through line behind multiple successful exits
• Why your current bank balance reflects what you believe you can have
• “Fake realities” about money and success that quietly keep people stuck
• The concept of havingness, why many people would subconsciously destroy a sudden windfall
• Principles of money, why tools do not work without the right foundation
• How Gal’s father refused rescue and gave him something harder and better, true ownership of knowledge
• What it means to become source over what you learn
• Why Gal’s mission is 10,000 ethical millionaires, not just millionaires

Connect with Gal Ezra:

Website, programs and resources: https://gprosperity.com

Social: search Gal A Ezra on your preferred platform

Connect with Mary:

Website: https://www.marymccorvey.com

Experience Over Expectation on Substack: https://marymccorvey.substack.com

📘 Mary’s book: Experience Over Expectation, Let Go of the Plan, Live on Your Terms is available on Amazon and wherever you get your books.

Achievement isn’t the same as fulfillment. Host Mary McCorvey talks with Kevin Palmieri, founder/host of Next Level University (top-100 podcast, 1M+ listeners across 170 countries). Kevin shares the moment he says “rock bottom has a basement,” why he reached out for help, and how he rebuilt with small promises, habit tracking, identity work, and better relationships.

You’ll learn

• Why purpose starts with self-belief—and why self-worth keeps what you build
• Habit tracking and “commitment devices” that make consistency inevitable
• Identity upgrades: from who you were to who you’re becoming
• Evaluating your circle (best from your past vs. best for your future)
• Love + ambition: weekly check-ins, date nights, and honest boundaries

Guest: Kevin Palmieri, Founder & Host, Next Level University

Host: Mary McCorvey, Experience Over Expectation

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Share this with someone rebuilding after a hard season

In this episode, Mary talks with Adaku Mbagwu—a Nigerian-born, Tulum-based transformational guide and the self-proclaimed “first daughter disruptor.” Through her global community, Healed Hero, Adaku helps high-achieving firstborn daughters release generational pressure, perfectionism, and the invisible labor that keeps them exhausted—and build success that actually feels good.

What we cover

• Eldest-daughter dynamics across cultures (Nigeria, UK, Mexico)
• Invisible labor, hyper-independence, and why “strong” isn’t a life plan
• The Strategic Vulnerability Framework: awareness → sharing → receiving → magnetic authenticity
• Sibling dynamics, resentment loops, and how to repair without losing yourself
• Coaching case study: from stuck at $160K to $1M+ by unlearning “I must be needed”
• Practical scripts for asking for help (without feeling weak)

Guest: Adaku Mbagwu — Transformational Guide, Founder of Healed Hero

Host: Mary McCorvey — Experience Over Expectation (author & podcast host)

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Share this with an eldest daughter who does everything for everyone.

What if the stories you love could unlock the stories you’ve hidden? In this conversation, psychologist and author Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst shares how reading short, evocative narratives—and then pausing to reflect and respond—can surface long-stored experiences, deepen emotional access, and begin healing. We explore boys’ and men’s emotional development, why reassurance can accidentally shut down intimacy, and two simple tools anyone can use to reconnect with buried memories.

Guest: Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst — Psychologist, author, wife, grandmother; 50+ years helping people across the lifespan translate life experience into growth. Author of Read, Reflect, Respond: The 3 R’s of Growth and Change.

Host: Mary McCorvey, Experience Over Expectation—let go of the plan, live on your terms.

What if leadership isn’t about adding more “apps”… but upgrading your operating system?

In this episode of Experience Over Expectation, host Mary McCorvey sits down with executive & leadership coach Luann Horobin (MCC) to unpack vertical development—the shift from piling on skills to changing how you see and respond to the world.

We explore:

Why fear, certainty, and “I’m right” thinking lock us in old patterns

The Stretch: choosing the uncomfortable opposite to unlock new results

Moving from cortisol (defense) to curiosity (creativity & connection)

Building a map for change: awareness → stretch → new habits → new presence

Pivoting a business when the data says “stay” but reality says “change”

About Luann: Executive & Leadership Coach, transformationalist, and long-time guide to high performers navigating the “Is this all there is?” inflection point. Mantra: Changing minds, changing lives.

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👉 Connect with Luann https://luannhorobin.com

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Chapters

00:00 Intro

00:30 What is vertical development?

05:40 Protective strategies & fear loops

10:50 The Stretch: doing the uncomfortable opposite

17:20 Pivot story: advertising → education

23:30 Building the map & new habits

26:30 How to reach Luann + closing

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Welcome to Experience Over Expectation with Mary McCorvey—where we let go of the plan and live on our terms. Today’s guest is Gramps Jeffrey (aka Marc Joseph): father of four, grandfather of six, author of I Don’t Want to Turn 3, and co-founder of BabyBoomer.org, a powerhouse community featuring hundreds of expert contributors across health, finance, parenting, culture, and more.

We dig into:

• Why so many grandparents feel “at a distance” from their grandkids—and how to re-engage with respect and boundaries
• The surprising power of a nightly question: “What did you do that was nice for someone today?”
• Boomers’ outsized role in entrepreneurship and the coming wave of small-business transitions
• How AI can be a practical assistant (not a threat) for grandparents, parents, and creators
• Passing on values, not just valuables, in the largest intergenerational wealth transfer in U.S. history

📘 Mary’s book, Experience Over Expectation, released September 23, 2025 — now available.

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🌐 Explore BabyBoomer.org

⏱ Chapters

00:00 Intro — Why Boomers still matter (a lot)

02:00 The shared culture that shaped a generation

04:10 Why many grandparents aren’t as involved today

07:45 Boundaries, respect, and avoiding “unsolicited advice”

10:45 What Boomers are doing right: service & legacy

12:40 Small businesses, entrepreneurship & the next 10 years

15:10 AI as a life assistant (not a replacement)

18:05 How Mary used AI to analyze life stories for her book

21:00 Teaching critical thinking in an AI world

24:00 The one question to ask kids every night

26:20 Closing & where to find the book + BabyBoomer.org

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