What are you saying about your spouse when they're not in the room? And could the way you talk about your marriage to others be slowly poisoning it instead of protecting it?

In this episode, we shift focus from how we talk to each other to how we talk about each other. Drawing from Genesis 2:24, we explore how "one flesh" means you have a shared reputation—when people think of one of you, they think of both. What you say about your spouse when they're not around either builds up your marriage or tears it down.

We dive deep into James 3:6-8, which describes the tongue as "a flame of fire" and "full of deadly poison" that no one can tame on their own. We emphasize that you can tear down your spouse publicly, but if you do, you're tearing down your own flesh—and it reflects poorly on you.

The core of this episode distinguishes between processing (healthy, purposeful reflection aimed at clarity and growth) and poisoning (venting to anyone who will listen to validate your side). We explain how processing should be done with safe, godly people who aren't gossips and won't use your words against you. It requires the right tone—not complaining, derogatory, or sarcastic.

Poisoning looks like seeking validation, saying "I'm just venting," complaining to anyone (coworkers, friends, even your children—which is never fair to them), and using exaggerated, one-sided language. We share how research shows that repeated complaining physically rewires your brain to prioritize stress and negativity.

We address when it IS time to speak up: abuse, addiction, or unrepentant sin require biblical counseling. But we also advocate for "preventative maintenance"—seeking godly counsel even when things are fine, like a tune-up for your car. Marriage groups aren't just for crisis; they're for stewardship.

Your spouse should never have to wonder if you're on their side when they're not in the room. Guard your vows by protecting your marriage daily—in prayer, in God's Word, and in how you talk about each other.

If you would like prayer for your marriage or anything at all, email us at everydayidopod@gmail.com. We would love to pray for you and be an encouragement! You can also message us on Instagram at ⁠⁠⁠⁠everyday_i_do_podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Is love really blind, or have we been using that phrase to avoid difficult conversations in marriage? And what if biblical love isn't about ignoring reality, but about seeing clearly and still choosing covenant?

In this episode, we challenge the popular phrase "love is blind"—a saying that comes from ancient writings like Plato and Roman depictions of Cupid. While culture romanticizes the idea that love obscures flaws and suppresses critical thinking, we reveal that the Bible never uses this phrase to describe love.

We start by exposing the myth: romantic culture says love ignores red flags, fixes people, and follows feelings. But biblical love, as shown in 1 Corinthians 13:4-6, is patient, kind, and rejoices in truth—not denial. We emphasize that Adam wasn't swept away by blind infatuation in Genesis 2; he was fully awake and aware when he recognized Eve. The covenant flows from clarity, not chemistry.

Drawing from Romans 5:8, we explore how Jesus loves us while fully aware of our sin—He's not blind to who we are, yet He loves us completely. This is the model for marriage: "I see you fully and I'm committed to your good."

Real love isn't blind—it's brave. It doesn't close its eyes to reality but opens its hands to covenant.

If you would like prayer for your marriage or anything at all, email us at everydayidopod@gmail.com. We would love to pray for you and be an encouragement! You can also message us on Instagram at ⁠⁠⁠⁠everyday_i_do_podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠.

What if marriage isn't about finding someone who will serve you, but about becoming someone who serves like Jesus? And could the greatest spouse actually be the greatest servant?

In this episode, we explore how biblically serving one another is not optional in marriage—it's foundational. Starting with Ephesians 5:21, "Submit yourselves to one another in the fear of God," we break down what mutual submission really means and why people get so caught up on that word.

We discuss practical ways submission looks in everyday life: putting your spouse's needs ahead of your preferences, choosing humility over pride, and choosing unity over winning. We address the power struggle many marriages face and confess that our flesh constantly fights against servanthood—which is why we need God at the center.

Drawing from Mark 10:45 where Jesus came not to be served but to serve, we challenge couples to "outserve each other." We explore how husbands are called to love like Christ—sacrificially, patiently, protectively, and self-giving. This includes leading with humility, loving when inconvenient, and putting their wife's emotional and spiritual well-being first.

Wives are called to serve with strength and honor, not out of obligation but out of love and reverence for God. We discuss the danger of complaining about your spouse to friends and the importance of respecting each other through words, tone, and facial expressions (eye rolls shut down communication instantly!).

Using Jesus washing the disciples' feet as our model, we share what "foot washing" looks like in marriage: forgiving quickly, serving when tired, loving when hurt, and choosing grace over resentment. We emphasize that your marriage is a living sermon—a light that may be the only example of Jesus some people ever see.

Real love is demonstrated in the small, unseen sacrifices done consistently. Marriage is not a contract of convenience—it's a covenant of sacrifice where two people say "I'm here to serve you, not use you."

If you would like prayer for your marriage or anything at all, email us at everydayidopod@gmail.com. We would love to pray for you and be an encouragement! You can also message us on Instagram at ⁠⁠⁠⁠everyday_i_do_podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠.