Ten years of no physical intimacy.

That is where husband & wife, Jim & Willa, found themselves.

For 38 years of marriage, Willa described her husband as a "my way or the highway" kind of guy. And up until recently, Jim felt so frustrated and angry in his marriage that he wanted to leave.

They were sleeping in separate bedrooms, had busy lives, he left before she woke up just to avoid her most days.

Jim shared they literally hadn't touched in years.

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Quote from a recent Coaching Program graduate:

"Week by week in this program, I've been taking an honest look at myself and owning the ways I've dropped the ball in our marriage. I've been working on making [my wife] feel safe, known, and cherished, and when things get tough, I've been fighting my old habit of pulling away by choosing to lean in instead.

I've been putting what I'm learning into practice—going from arguing almost every day to just a few times in the last six months, looking at my own heart first instead of blaming [my wife], and using the tools from MR so I'm not stuck feeling helpless when things aren't going well... I'm seeing real growth in how I love her and how we connect."

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They did a marriage program. It was good information, but by the end, it didn't help.

Jim was at the end of his rope. He decided that he was ready to leave.

When Willa suggested Delight Your Marriage, he essentially said: "I'll try it, but if this doesn't work, that's the end."

What shocked him was the change that took place between the two of them week by week.

He had to be willing to feel silly and do something new. She had to be willing to slow down enough to focus on her highest priority human.

They both had to humble themselves, roll up their sleeves, and do the work.

And the Lord changed everything.

Now they're connecting, laughing, hugging, and yes, even intimacy. In just a couple of months, they're enjoying the best connection they've ever had in 38 years.

Maybe it's also been a decade for you of no physical intimacy.
Maybe it's been even longer.
Maybe you haven't laughed together in years.
Maybe you don't even like being in the same room together.

We want you to know that you are not alone, and God is still working.

Take this with you:
No one is too far gone for God.
No marriage is irredeemable.
And He can bring delight to your marriage.

Blessings,

The Delight Your Marriage Team

PS - Ready to take the next step in healing your marriage? Schedule a free Clarity Call today (before prices increase!)

PPS - Here is a quote from another recent Coaching program graduate:
"As I reflect back over this journey, I see how God has led me closer to Him. I have begun to understand what it means in Romans when Paul says; "Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind….." Truly grasping the perspective that [my wife] is God's beautifully made daughter has changed everything for me. She is a blessing and a gift from the Lord….and my love for her today is so much greater than ever before... Thanks be to God for His abounding love. And thank you too Belah for your biblical passion, discernment, wisdom and courage to have this ministry."

You might be one who can work all day and feel great.

And maybe you struggle to take a vacation.

Maybe if you're really honest with yourself, you think productivity is next to godliness.

If you're like Brad and I -- that's us nodding our heads. We're just wired that way. That's not the end of the story...

But Brad had a mentor that wouldn't let go of him until he could see that drivenness is ruining his life.

Not the fact that he is driven (Brad didn't give that up), but the fact that he felt he wasn't enough unless he achieved X, Y, and Z.

Brad's marriage journey is pretty powerful and directly relates.

If Brad was more committed to his work than his wife -- she would feel betrayed. As many wives do who have this dynamic in their marriages.

Many out there sacrifice the possibility of peace and joy in their lives because they're too busy to notice the life Christ offers them.

God is sufficient.

God rested.

God delights in us -- you can delight in this world, and you can delight in those He intends for you to delight, your spouse and your children.

Let's abide in Him and learn from Brad as he shares these refreshing insights.

Find out more about Brad and his work with marriages in churches at gracemarriage.com

Blessings,

Belah

PS - Ready to take the next step in healing your marriage? Schedule a free Clarity Call today (before prices increase!)

PPS - Here is a quote from a recent Coaching program graduate:
"My contact with DYM has completely transformed my life. I was depressed, pessimistic, shackled by shame, and largely unaware of who I was and what effect I was having on my family.

Through the skills and habits I learned in DYM God has truly made me a new creation. I now look forward to each new day and have a deep, healing, life-giving relationship with God that has freed me from shame, depression, and self-loathing."

Today marks the day that God stooped so low to live a perfect life and die a gruesome sinner's death -- to save you. And save me.

Why?

Not because we were perfect.

Not because we could earn His love.

Who could earn that?

But because He decided we were worth it.

We aren't deserving of His sacrifice because we're so great -- it's because HE'S so great.

He's so good, kind, and gracious that He decided we were priceless to come and rescue.

And if you are priceless -- a prized treasure Jesus came to save...

Is your spouse?

If the answer is yes...

Are you treating your spouse like they are Jesus' prized treasure? Priceless in the eyes of the God of the Universe?

Do you believe they are?

In today's episode, I hope to remind you of how loved you are by the Lord.

And with that in mind, I hope you also remember how loved your spouse is.

May that encourage us to love each other better and with a fuller heart.

Blessings,

Belah

PS - Ready to take the next step in healing your marriage? Schedule a free Clarity Call today (before prices increase!)

PPS - Here is a quote from a recent Coaching program graduate:
"My contact with DYM has completely transformed my life. I was depressed, pessimistic, shackled by shame, and largely unaware of who I was and what effect I was having on my family.

Through the skills and habits I learned in DYM God has truly made me a new creation. I now look forward to each new day and have a deep, healing, life-giving relationship with God that has freed me from shame, depression, and self-loathing."