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 The power of being present. John Newton the Care Pastor of Northview Church talks about how important it is to be present for a parent in time of grief. John offers some practical steps for dealing with long term grief. It is important to understand that grief from the loss of a child is normal and will last a lifetime. John shared the importance of utilizing resources that can help better understand grief and how to manage it. John provided a list of resources for parents dealing with grief.

Resources for parents who have lost a child

Focus on the Family – Offers free counseling and a network of Christian counselors for ongoing support.

Ian’s Place – Provides a safe space with support groups, bible studies, and resources for parents grieving loss, including loss to addiction.

Red Bird Ministries – Systematically guides families through the trauma of child loss (miscarriage, still birth, etc.) with faith-based support.

Umbrella Ministries – A network of mothers supporting other mothers through mentoring, care groups, and retreats.

The Compassionate Friends – A large well-regarded organization offering support for families grieving a child’s death.

SHARE (Pregnancy & Infant loss support) – Offers support for loss from miscarriage, stillbirth, or early infant death, with faith-based materials.

M.E.N.D. (Mommies Enduring Neonatal Death) – A Christian non-profit reaching out to families who have suffered the loss of a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth, or early infant death.

GriefShare – A network of thousands of local support groups hosted by churches. They offer a 13-week seminar/support group featuring videos from experts and small group discussions.

Association of Certified Biblical Counselors – Provides a directory to find certified biblical counselors who focus on scripture-based guidance for deep grief.

Book Recommendations
Empty Arms
An Empty Cradle
A Full Heart
I’ll Hold you in Heaven
Choosing to see
Grieving the Child I Never Knew
Safe in the Arms of God
I will Carry You
A Grace Disguised

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2026 starts a new chapter. This episode of Critical Junctures we look at what plans we have for the podcast in 2026, a recap of 2025 and an ask of listeners to help get the podcast out to others.

In 2025 the podcast was downloaded in 26 countries. That is with no promotion. Apple Podcasts were the way 73% of people found the podcast.

We have received notes from parents that appreciated the stories of other parents and how it has helped their grief journey.

My ask of anyone listing is that you follow us on Facebook, download a podcast, listen to a YouTube episode. Any likes, subscribes, follows all help the podcast gain a greater reach.

For 2026 we plan on a video interview each month and several podcast episodes a month.

Thank you to everyone that has liked, liked to, downloaded, watched an episode, or recommended the podcast to a friend. Looking forward in 2026 to impacting more lives of parents in a positive way who have lost a child.

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 Have you ever thought about how Mary, the mother of Jesus felt on his 34th birthday? It is Christmas time and we celebrate the birth of Christ, the savior of the world. We talk about Mary, Joseph and the Immaculate Conception, the story of the birth in a manger in Bethlehem, we celebrate God becoming human to take on our sins.

Mary and Joseph were human parents excited for the arrival of their new baby. But as we all know, baby arrivals come with a gamut of emotions; Love, fear, hope, concern. Welcome to the Critical Junctures Podcast where we discuss the emotional impact of parents who have lost a child. This season of the year we celebrate Christmas and looking forward to what a new year will bring. We wish all of you a merry Christmas and a happy New Year, but this season can create bouts of grief where we intensely miss our departed child. A few days ago I flew back to Indiana from San Juan, Puerto Rico, and while in flight I was listening to music on my headphones. A live version Song by Elevation Worship came on called Jireh.

It is about Jehovah Jireh, the Lord will provide. There's a line in the song that says I will be content in every circumstance. At first, when I heard it felt very powerful and satisfying to connect with those words. I'm very thankful for the people and all the blessings of my life. But as I listened to those words several times stating I will be content in every circumstance, that word every kept growing with importance.
I realized I'm not content in every circumstance. I believe with all my being, that I will be reunited with my son one day and live without hope, but as a father, as a human with emotions. Grief is a very real part of life. I miss my son every day. Navigating that grief at times can be challenging, especially around the holidays, and as much as I want to be content in every circumstance, it's challenging to get there.
It made me wonder what human emotions Mary, the mother of Christ felt on his 34th birthday. Mary was a human mother who lost a child like many of us. She was no longer able to physically touch her son, hug her son Mary. The revered mother of Christ would've had the same emotions and feelings that most of us experience.
That overwhelming grief that results from your flesh and blood taken away too soon. Most scholars believe Mary lived 11 years after Jesus' death. I believe Mary experienced the same enduring grief over those 11 years that we experience every day. Just like Mary, the grief can coexist with peace and contentment during this holiday season.
As you spend time with family and friends, here are some suggestions that might help ease the grief. My friend Dr. Wally Osuntokun, in an earlier episode talked about how he talks about his son in the present tense. You might set a place for them at the table, put a picture in a place of high visibility, play a positive memory on video that they're in.
For me, it has been helpful to face the grief with positive memories of my son. Some of you during this season will struggle with intense grief. Please do not do it alone. Reach out to family, friends, neighbors, a church, or a number of other great support organizations. Serving others during the holiday season can help reduce the feelings of grief.
Throughout this season, I'm going to be more intentional with the people I love the most. Prioritizing the people who are most important in my life. My hope and prayer is that you find peace this season, and if overwhelming grief strikes that you can embrace it, accept that it is normal, and focus the grief into loving memories of the time you spent with your child. We will be saying prayers as a family for all you parents who have lost a child. As we pray for you, we will gladly welcome prayers for us as we all navigate the loss of a child together.

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