Children learn more from what they see than what they're told.

In this episode of Conversations with Kalekye, Korry Bachia shares how witnessing her father's violence toward her mother shaped her view of men, love, and self-worth.

Determined not to repeat her mother's story, she built her life in full masculine energy — always showing up for everyone but herself. Korry opens up about self-abandonment, healing from parental trauma, and rediscovering purpose beyond the roles of wife and mother.

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Parental Trauma is often defined by what a child perceives of how they were treated or spoken to - but it also appears in what a child grew up watching. There are two ways it could go - completely avoid it successfully OR go in trying to run away from through the same situation without recognising it.

That is the story of author, Agatha Mwende whose life flipped and turned when her single mum got married to a man who was polygamous. The trauma she observed watching her mum cry herself to sleep after having arguments over her step father's infidelity got her afraid thinking every man will cheat or end-up polygamous.

In the twist of it all she shares with our host Kalekye that how she built an idea that turned out to be the illusion of forever - her desire to have a solid relationship and family put her into a state that led her to trauma in her own relationship.

Agatha's story gives perspective that we may often be subconsciously influenced by the dysfunction we witness.

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Mothers are home. She is an anchor to a child's sense of belonging and comfort - so what happens when she leaves before a child has even understood her place in the world?

That is the situation our guest, Saiton Righa, found herself when things became economically tough for her and her mum.

From the age of nine, Saiton found herself being raised by silent grandparents and picking up her mother's load. In this conversation, she shares the motions she went through growing up un-mothered and living on a promise that never came.

It is in this conversation that we learn that parental trauma can leave one fighting to survive and making decisions to get some sense of feeling that resembles being alive. It is also in this story we learn how never experiencing what being mothered feels can bring such gripping fear when you yourself become a mother.

In this episode, Saiton reveals how faith in God became her anchor and has been her guide as she continues to confront the invisible wound that comes with parental trauma and an absent parent.

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