Okay, story time. Day TWO in our brand-new Arizona house. 100+ degree heat outside. Moving boxes EVERYWHERE. And my boys? They decided this was the PERFECT moment for an indoor blanket ride across our hardwood floors.

You know exactly where this is going, right? 🤦‍♀️

One overzealous turn later, and BAM—child-sized HOLE straight through our kitchen wall. Before we'd even figured out the Wi-Fi password, y'all!

And in that split second, I felt all the mom-frustration bubbling up. The "I guess we can't have nice things" thoughts. The exasperation rising. The yell forming in my throat.

But something stopped me (hallafreakingluia!), and THAT moment is exactly what this episode is about.

Because summer is coming, friends. And it's not just financially expensive—it's EMOTIONALLY expensive. The unstructured days. The bickering siblings. The 47 snack emergencies before noon. The "I'm boooooored" symphony.

If you've ever found yourself one broken toy or spilled drink away from losing your ever-loving mind... this episode is your lifeline.

I'm breaking down my complete framework for a No-Yell Summer, including:

• Why understanding your yell triggers changes everything
• The 3 types of summer goals you need (hint: one is just for YOU)
• How to choose your Summer Parent Identity (Joy Ringmaster? Zen Zookeeper? You decide!)
• The 3-prong plan that requires zero extra willpower (because honestly, who has any left?)

I'm also sharing details about my upcoming No Yell Summer Workshop happening May 28th at noon ET. It's just $7, and it includes the live workshop, a replay, and a workbook! (And if you're already in The League, you're automatically in! 🎉)

Bonus alert! Register in the next 48 hours and I'll send you a secret resource I've never shared publicly before—my go-to tool for calming chaos in under 60 seconds.

Listen, I want you to be sad when summer ends—not collapsing with relief that it's finally over! Let's make this a summer your kids remember for all the right reasons.

Want in? Head to cmp.works/summer to save your spot.

And pretty please—if this episode speaks to your parenting soul, share it with a friend! We're all in this parenting chaos together, and sometimes knowing you're not alone is half the battle.

According to the latest science (and my six kids who've tested every parenting theory I've ever had), if you want your kids to WANT to listen to you—correction is out, connection is in.

Can't wait to see you on May 28th!

With all the parenting solidarity, Andee

P.S. DM me on Instagram @connectmethodparenting with your biggest summer parenting challenge—I'll be answering some in a future episode!

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Oh heyyy there, fellow parent-people struggling through the beautiful chaos! In this episode, I spill ALL the tea about how that nasty little voice in your head (you know the one that's all "you're failing at this parenting gig") isn't just making YOU feel like garbage—it's actually rewiring your kid's emotional thermometer too! 🌡️

I share the mortifying moment I heard my own critical voice coming out of my teenager's mouth (talk about a parenting gut-punch!) and dive into the juicy research that proves being your own bestie might be the parenting superpower you never knew you needed.

Plus, I give you a tiny but mighty assignment that could literally change your family's emotional climate. Because science says so! ✨

What You'll Discover in This Episode:

• The moment I realized my 16-year-old drama queen (literally—she was auditioning!) had inherited my inner critic 😱
• Why your brain is basically still watching out for saber-toothed tigers when your kid refuses to wear socks in winter
• The super cool science behind how your self-talk becomes your home's emotional thermostat
• My embarrassing Dr. Pepper binge confession (post-international travel does weird things to a girl, don't judge!)
• The actual research showing self-compassionate parents raise better-regulated kids (it's not just woo-woo, I swear!)
• A stupidly simple but brain-changing "Tiny Assignment" to transform your inner critic into your inner coach

Juicy Quotes From the Episode:

"When you beat yourself up after a hard parenting moment, you're acting as both the disapproving friend AND the discouraged parent. And here's the kicker: your inner voice becomes your child's emotional climate."

"My presence matters more than my performance." (One client's game-changing mantra!)

The Tiny Assignment:

1. Notice your inner critic this week (just observe the little jerk, no arguing yet!)
2. Write down ONE situation where your inner voice turns meaner than a hungry toddler
3. Write the supportive version—what would your BFF say instead?
4. Make it visible: phone lockscreen, bathroom mirror, wherever your eyes land
5. Say it OUT LOUD when you need it (yes, talking to yourself is now officially parenting strategy!)

Research Mentions:

• Baumeister's work on negativity bias (aka why we remember the ONE thing we screwed up instead of the 87 things we nailed)
• Dr. Kristin Neff's research showing self-compassionate parents have lower stress (and who doesn't want THAT?)
• Moreira's 2018 study proving the mind-blowing connection between how we talk to ourselves and how our kids regulate emotions
• Hebb's Law: "Neurons that fire together, wire together" (or, why your brain loves taking the self-criticism highway)

Connect With Me:

Drop a comment about your own inner critic moments! I'm literally sitting in my comfy chair right now, sipping electrolyte water (RIP my Dr. Pepper addiction) and DYING to hear your thoughts. Because we're all just trying not to mess this up together, right? 💕 DM on IG @connectmethodparenting to share your own fav inner critic moment

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This episode is for all of us who’ve ever thought, “Wait...who am I even being right now as a parent?” 🙋‍♀️

I’m recording this one late at night (hello 10 PM parenting quiet zone) while I wait for my teens to trickle in—and it ended up being such a heart-to-heart moment. I’m talking all about your parenting self-concept—what it is, why it matters, and how shaping your identity is way more powerful than any technique, script, or strategy.

Here’s what I share:

• The 4-part Identity Shift Method I teach (and use myself!)
• A Machu Picchu meltdown moment that tested everything I thought I knew
• Why the story you tell yourself about your kids and yourself matters more than you think
• What to do when your calm confidence takes a hike (and your inner critic takes over)
• Why “the strongest identity in the room wins”—especially when your kids are in meltdown mode

You’ll walk away with simple shifts that help you show up as the parent you want to be—even when things are loud, messy, and emotionally extra.

This Week’s Challenge: Pick an identity statement you actually like and want to believe (even if you’re still growing into it). Write it down. Put it on your mirror. Live it for 7 days. Example: “I am the parent who sees the best in my kids—even when they’re losing it.”

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