I have been really deeply reflecting on my more challenging parenting days lately and even thinking back to when I was really struggling with my oldest to determine what is one of the main contributing factors to both. And what I've discovered is that in both instances I have had expectations that went unmet.

These expectations weren't inappropriate or unrealistic for my child's age, however, it was unattainable at the place we were currently at.

Today, I share the #1 way you can assess if your expectations are aligning with your child's current skill level/ability and if not, what you can do about it.

Special Time Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000550595812

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Podcasts are such a wonderful, free tool to utilize for ourselves as we are trying to learn different skills or information, but it is also a great option for our kids too! Sometimes it can be hard to make sure that the information and words are kids are hearing are appropriate and fruitful so today, I wanted to share some podcasts that my kids LOVE. They enjoy listening to podcasts during quiet time, when they just need some space and/or when they are doing some quieter play like puzzles or playdoh.

Here are some of our favorites:

1. Tiny Theologians: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tiny-theologians/id1703635148

2. VeggieTales: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/veggietales-very-veggie-silly-stories/id1624715532

3. Real Cool History for Kids: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/real-cool-history-for-kids/id1470873097

4. Car Ride Stories for Gigi Kids: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/car-ride-stories-for-gigi-kids-bible-and-christian/id1380554029

5. Nat Theo: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/nat-theo-nature-lessons-rooted-in-the-bible/id1679872468

6. Backseat Bible Nuggets: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/backseat-bible-nuggets/id1573752728

If you have any that you and your kids enjoy, I would love if you would share them with me!

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I've shared my personal and professional recommendation not to use sticker/reward charts on a previous episode, but today I wanted to chat more about rewards. In this episode, we discuss:

*bribes vs rewards

*why I don't use bribes

*how I use rewards (with examples)

*how to utilize age/child appropriate expectations to decrease needing to rely on bribery or consequences to get the desired behavior

Ep 59: Have you ever wondered if a sticker chart would help "fix" your child's behavior? 4 reasons why I believe they are unnecessary and ineffective...https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000583017029

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Today, I wanted to ask you a simple question to get you thinking about where you are going to for advice and guidance first. Coaches, teachers, podcasts, books, are all great resources, but there's only One who knows exactly what you need and can guide you in the direction that's best for you and your family. I hope this message blesses you!

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I am a part of a few business broadcast channels on IG and I got a message a couple weeks ago talking about the bare minimum or baseline standard for what you would do each day to keep your business moving forward, for establishing a consistent foundation. I thought this was also really pertinent to managing triggers...

‘if you don’t set a baseline standard for what you’ll accept in life, you’ll find it’s easy to slip into behaviors and attitudes or a quality of life that’s far below what you deserve." Anthony Robbins

Today, I share what a baseline standard for trigger management might look like and give you some examples of how to create your own to help create a stronger foundation for maintaining your control during heated situations.

If you want to get more help with triggers, check out my Regulation Reboot class starting next week: https://stan.store/KJZ112815/p/mommy-management

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While this way of parenting has been completely transformative for me and my family in SO many ways, that doesn't mean it has always come easy. Sometimes the challenges we face can make us question if this way is really the best way. It can also be discouraging if we aren't seeing the results we are expecting at the rate at which we are expecting them.

Today, I wanted to share 5 pieces of advice I have, after practicing this style of parenting DAILY for 3 years in hopes it can be an encouragement to any mom (dad, caregiver, etc) who is either just starting or who has fallen off and wants to get back into it.

If you have any other things you'd add, I'd love if you'd share!

You can share by emailing me hello@kailizcoaching.com

or by DM'ing me on IG @kaili.zeiher

Check out the 4 part webinar coming in November to help you identify, manage, and resolve your triggers! Details here: https://stan.store/KJZ112815/p/mommy-management

I'm guessing you've heard people talk about and maybe even felt like you've lost yourself in motherhood. And while there can definitely be truth to that, today I want to share the perspective that we actually don't lose ourselves in motherhood. Instead, it can be the exact place where we find who we were created to be.

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Don't forget to get my Chaos to Calm: Conquering Aggressive Behavior course (currently $197) for FREE!! Here's what to do: leave a rating and review, screenshot it and email it to hello@kailizcoaching.com. That's it!

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Email - hello@kailizcoaching.com

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Most of the time we address the behavior we see; it's much easier and honestly, just comes naturally.

However, if we really want to see behavior shifts we need to get to the deeper rooted issue and find out what is really going on at a heart level so we can make consistent change.

Today, I wanted to share with you a question framework that will help you do this with your child, no matter the age! Well, they do have to have fairly good communication skills.

https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist/

(click on the post that says "notice your nervous system start to calm")

1:1 Coaching, Ask Your Question, Courses: https://stan.store/KJZ112815

Don't forget to get my Chaos to Calm: Conquering Aggressive Behavior course (currently $197) for FREE!! Here's what to do: leave a rating and review, screenshot it and email it to hello@kailizcoaching.com. That's it!

Connect with me here:

Email - hello@kailizcoaching.com

IG - @kaili.zeiher