Hi everyone, excited to share my conversation with award-winning audio documentary maker and author Catherine Carr about how sibling relationships shape identity, drawing on Carr’s podcast Relatively and her new book 'Who’s the Favourite?'

Carr explains that her fascination wtih sibling dynamics began during the 2020 pandemic when people began to reach out to and reconnect with their siblings, highlighting that sibling bonds can be some of the longest relationships in life.

We discuss birth order, family “roles,” and how siblings influence development, including Carr’s experience as a middle child whose parents divorced and split the children between England and the Netherlands.

Carr also describes shifting sibling relationships from vertical to horizontal (equal adult friendship), the complications of contested memories and shared narratives, and how aging parents can be a flashpoint.

The conversation covers sibling estrangement and the stigma of it as well as glass siblings and Carr's favourite books!

Listen to the episode here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1452949/episodes/18891567 or wherever you get your podcasts, by simply searching for 'Bibliotherapy with Bijal Shah'.

I hope you enjoy it! And if you'd like to get a copy of her book 'Who's Your Favourite?" you can do so anywhere you get books or here: https://www.waterstones.com/books/reviews/isbn/9781836431282#review-455525

00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro

01:35 Why the Focus on Sibling Relationships and Catherine's New Book

04:26 Catherine's Childhood and Own Sibling Relationships

06:13 Siblings in Literature

08:39 Family Roles and Labels

15:19 Birth Order and Influence

18:58 Shared Stories and Memory

23:43 Estrangement and Stigma

28:59 Glass Siblings Explained

35:21 Catherine's Favourite Book

37:29 Final Thoughts and Thanks

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In this episode of Bibliotherapy with Bijal Shah, I interview Sarah Fletcher, a British-American poet who grew up in the UK and later pursued poetry and a PhD researching physical pain and poetry. We discuss the power of poetry to heal through rhythm, sound, precision, memorability, and how physical pain is difficult to capture in language, often relying on metaphor, including militaristic framing and the limits of the 1–10 pain scale.

We discuss how chronic pain is isolating, fragmentary, and hard to capture in narrative. Sarah also talks about some of the poetry and pain workshops she runs that build shared language and connection to capture the physical experience of pain in poetry, including reframing pain as an unwelcome guest at a house party. She notes a Canadian hospital’s “pain menus,” how expressive writing can improve healing, and the need to challenge mind–body dualism.

Sarah also cites T.S. Eliot’s “The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock” as life-changing and we also announce an upcoming shared podcast, “The Bibliotherapy Room" that we will be recording! Watch this space for more :)

00:00 Welcome and Introductions

01:49 Sarah’s Poetry Origins

04:55 Sound, Rhythm and Healing

06:58 Why Pain Resists Language

09:12 Metaphors We Use for Pain

11:51 Chronic Pain and Isolation

15:41 Living Alongside Pain

17:58 Creative Writing for Pain

22:20 Empathy Doubt and Doctors

26:07 Workshops Laughter and Relief

27:46 Pain Menus and Social Prescribing

31:51 Mind Body and Creativity

33:51 Life Changing Poem Pick

36:44 New Podcast Announcement

38:29 Closing Thanks and Farewell

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Don't forget to subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts and get new episodes as they are released. If you'd like access to the transcripts, do subscribe to my substack: Bibliotherapy with Bijal Shah - Transcripts on Substack.

If you'd like a bibliotherapist in your pocket then you might find my book, Bibliotherapy: The Healing Power of Reading a helpful companion.

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In this episode, Theresa Lola, an accomplished poet and published author, shares her journey from growing up in Nigeria to becoming a published poet in the UK. She discusses her fascination with poetry, especially grief poetry, and how it helps in processing complex emotions. Theresa delves into her creative process, the power of language, and how her cultural heritage shapes her work. The conversation also covers her initiatives like creative writing workshops for mental health and her new stationary brand ‘Your Envoi,’ designed to foster self-reflection and connection. Engaging and insightful, this episode highlights the therapeutic potential of poetry and creative expression.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome

00:42 Theresa’s Early Life and Writing Journey

01:16 The Power of Poetry in Expressing Emotions

02:05 Transition to the UK and Early Career

05:58 Balancing Two Cultural Identities

08:32 The Influence of Language on Expression

13:13 Exploring the Significance of Names

19:39 Grief and Poetry

23:42 Exploring the Physicality and Rhythm of Grief

25:37 The Therapeutic Intentions Behind Poetry

26:20 The Process of Self-Reflection in Writing

26:50 Using Poetry to Capture Emotions and Experiences

28:16 Cultural Significance and Metaphors in Poetry

30:43 Creative Writing and Mental Health Initiatives

35:09 Advice for Emerging Poets

39:14 Launching a Wellness Stationery Brand

42:58 The Impact of Literature on Life

46:02 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

You can follow Theresa’s work as well as get copies of her two books (poetry collections) on her website or at the following links:

W: https://www.theresalola.com/

B: https://www.theresalola.com/books

Theresa’s Stationery Brand, Your Envoi: https://weareyourenvoi.com/

Social Media Channels:

IG: https://www.instagram.com/theresa_lola

Threads: @theresa_lola

X: https://x.com/theresa_lola

I hope you enjoyed this episode of Bibliotherapy with Bijal Shah and if you’d like to find out more about Bibliotherapy you might find my book, Bibliotherapy: The Healing Power of Reading and

Email us at bijal@booktherapy.io

Don't forget to subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts and get new episodes as they are released. If you'd like access to the transcripts, do subscribe to my substack: Bibliotherapy with Bijal Shah - Transcripts on Substack.

If you'd like a bibliotherapist in your pocket then you might find my book, Bibliotherapy: The Healing Power of Reading a helpful companion.

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