We hear it everywhere in spiritual circles: love unconditionally. But here’s the truth — unconditional love without discernment isn’t safe.

Without boundaries, it can slide into people-pleasing, abuse-tolerating, or parent–child dynamics that erode real intimacy. In this episode, I share why discernment is the key that transforms love from toxic patterns into something safe, balanced, and truly mutual.

You’ll learn how inner child wounds shape our attraction patterns, why we sometimes mistake scraps of attention for love, and how to stop looking for someone to “re-parent” us — so you can choose partners who meet you as an equal.

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What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Why “unconditional love” can turn toxic without discernment

• How inner child healing transforms who (and what) we’re drawn to

• The red flags of parent–child dynamics in adult relationships

• Why trying to “parent” a partner never works

• How discernment leads to safe, balanced, adult-to-adult intimacy

Because here’s the truth: you deserve real love. Safe love. Love that uplifts rather than drains. And discernment is the key that unlocks it.

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Discernment is the very first Lore in my upcoming book The Arbatel Reborn — and for good reason. It’s the foundation that protects every other spiritual power from distortion. Without discernment, love can turn into people-pleasing, judgment into entanglement, diligence into perfectionism, healing into endless seeking, and alignment into fantasy. With discernment, every practice shines in its true light.

In this episode, I share:
✨ Why discernment had to come first in The Arbatel Reborn
✨ How my own journey with abuse, boundaries, and healing taught me the importance of discernment
✨ The difference between discernment and judgment — and why discernment is not about being harsh
✨ How discernment safeguards love, judgment, diligence, healing, and alignment from being misused
✨ A daily invitation to notice where you can hold your sacred energy more firmly

You’ll also hear a privileged reveal of Lore 1 — Discernment from the book, including the affirmation:

“I stand in my power and guard what is sacred, and as a trusted being, Source entrusts me with more.”

By the end of this episode, you’ll see how discernment is not only about saying no — it’s about saying yes to what is aligned, sovereign, and true. It’s the keystone that allows love, healing, and spiritual power to flourish safely.

This week, I invite you to reflect:
💭 Where are you tempted to give away what is sacred?
💭 Where can you hold your power more firmly?
💭 How is your spirit guiding you to be more discerning?

Because if there’s one thing I know about you, it’s this: You can be discerning. And it might just unlock everything for you.

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Sometimes what looks like an opportunity is nothing more than a trap. In this episode, I share a vivid dream and a real-life encounter that revealed how scammers and manipulators in the spiritual world operate — and why protecting your energy with integrity is so important.

We’ll explore the red flags of spiritual deceit, including:
✨ The imbalance of energy exchange — when they take more than they give
✨ The unspoken offer — chasing something that was never actually promised
✨ Mimicry — copying your words and values without living them
✨ The spotlight trap — appearing to shine light on others, but always circling back to themselves
✨ Body wisdom — how subtle unease is your signal that something’s off

You’ll also learn a simple muscle testing practice that helps you bypass the mind and go straight to your body’s truth. Because while manipulators play on appearances and promises, your body cannot be fooled.

By the end of this episode, you’ll feel clearer about how to protect your sacred energy, stand firm in your own integrity, and trust that your voice and light don’t need anyone else’s stage to shine.

Links & Resources

🌸 Free healing resources: https://www.behealing.com
💙 Book an Energy Healing Session: https://www.behealing.com/store/p2/energy_healing.html
🕯 Join The Lighthouse — Weekly Meditations for Lightkeepers: https://www.behealing.com/the-lighthouse.html