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After a recent social media AMA, we noticed a ton of you wanted us to tackle dating - red flags, green flags, how to choose a great partner. Rebecca and I have been avoiding this topic since we both married young and have limited adult dating experience, but we DO have evidence-based research to share. We're addressing why we need to stop telling singles "God is just teaching you patience" (it's a numbers game!), the "Burn the Haystack Method" for online dating, why some might need to relocate for better options, and the hard truths about red flags versus settling. Fair warning: we're going to make some people uncomfortable, but if you want research-backed advice over platitudes, this episode's for you.

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• Dr Jennie Young & The Burned Haystack Method
• Our podcast on why Evangelical Women aren't marrying evangelical men
• Join my Substack to keep up with us while the blog is on hiatus for June and July

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• The Great Sex Rescue
• She Deserves Better
• The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
• and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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“Soul ties” refers to the belief that when you have sex with someone, you are now joined in the spiritual realm, and that “tie” impedes your ability to ever experience freedom if you marry someone else. Often people claim you have to go through a specific prayer to break the tie, or an exorcism. But is this idea biblical? And does it help or hurt? Today Joanna Sawatsky shares our results of believing in soul ties, and we discuss different ways to talk about heartache and trauma.

PRODUCT HIGHLIGHT:

• Our puberty course The Whole Story
• Join my Substack!

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• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
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THINGS MENTIONED

• Our book She Deserves Better
• My series on Soul Ties
• John Eldredge’s Podcast series on Soul Ties
• Lisa Bevere Reel with misinformation
• The domestic violence website with steps from breaking trauma bonds

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue
• She Deserves Better
• The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
• and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Let's take a close look at the book His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley! Bethany Jantzi and Ngina Otiende join me to look at some of the things that we find problematic about the book--and explain why evangelicalism needs better resources!

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Get our one-sheet download on His Needs, Her Needs

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• Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
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• Find Ngina Otiende on Facebook, Instagram, and at her website Intentional Today
• Find Bethany Jantzi on Instagram and at her website Free from Control
• Check out our newest book The Marriage You Want, with stats about what really builds intimacy
• Download our rubric on how His Needs, Her Needs (and other books!) scored on sex

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:

• The Great Sex Rescue
• She Deserves Better
• The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
• and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.