In this episode, Dr. Phyllis reflects on what she describes as God’s wake up calls. She shares about a season when she was moving quickly, focused on doing all the right things and being the kind of mom she believed she should be. In the middle of that pace, she began to realize that God had been gently signaling that something needed to shift.

Sometimes those signals are subtle. A sense of unease. A quiet thought that keeps returning. A feeling that we are pushing harder than we need to. When we move past those small nudges and continue on, there are moments when God allows something more significant to slow us down. Not as punishment, but as redirection.

Dr. Phyllis talks about what it looked like for her to be “taken off the treadmill” and how that pause helped her see things more clearly. She reminds us that these wake up calls are rooted in love. They are invitations to pay attention, to reassess, and to make changes that lead to renewal.

If you have felt prompted to slow down or sensed that something in your life needs to shift, this conversation offers space to reflect. God’s desire is not to shame or pressure, but to guide, restore, and refresh.

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In this episode, Dr. Phyllis explores what it means to remain rooted rather than rattled when others do not understand your decisions or the season you are in.

As priorities shift and life changes, standing firm without external approval can be challenging. Drawing from her own experiences, Dr. Phyllis emphasizes the importance of developing deep roots that provide stability and clarity, even when opinions or expectations create pressure.

She introduces the ROOTS framework as a guide for staying grounded: remembering whose you are, owning your current season, remaining open to wise counsel, trusting God, and standing strong in conviction.

Listeners are also encouraged to reflect on their support system and consider who truly belongs in their village and has earned the right to speak into their lives.

This episode offers a thoughtful reminder that strength comes from being deeply rooted, not from the approval of others.

Ever feel like life has slipped into autopilot and you’re just getting through the day? This episode is a reminder that surviving doesn’t have to be the baseline. Thriving can start with small, intentional shifts.

We talk about the importance of continuing to learn and staying curious, finding moments of laughter as a way to release pressure, and allowing emotions to move instead of holding everything in. You are more than your current situation, and hard seasons do not erase who you are.

Using the image of a triangle with three corners, learn, laugh, and love, this conversation encourages a more balanced way of living. It’s a simple, grounding reminder that we’re all doing our best and that it’s okay to want more than just survival.

In this episode, Dr. Phyllis joins us to explore what happens when faith, exhaustion, and the pressures of real life all show up at once. You can be faithful, tired, and frustrated at the same time—and still lead with love.

We dive into the importance of authentic presence and why growth and transformation aren’t about perfection. It’s about showing up as your real self, allowing yourself to feel what you feel without shame, and redefining what resilience really means.

Dr. Phyllis shares a practical three-step tool to help you check in with yourself when frustration arises:

Admit – acknowledge your feelings without judgment

Allow – give yourself permission to feel

Align – choose how to respond in a way that reflects your values and faith

This episode is a reminder that being human, with all your emotions and imperfections, actually makes you a stronger caregiver, leader, and follower of God.

In this episode, Dr. Phyllis explores what happens in the space between the urge to say yes and the decision to follow through. She shares a personal story from her caregiving role, along with an unexpected lesson that came from caring for her dogs. What began as small, reactive moments turned into a deeper realization about how often we move straight from impulse into action without checking in first.

Every decision is a doorway, and most of us walk through way too fast.

Dr. Phyllis introduces the pause process, a simple, practical tool you can use before making both major decisions and everyday yeses. This isn’t about overthinking. It’s about creating enough space to notice what’s driving the urge.

She breaks down how to slow the moment, recognize urgency for what it is, and choose intentionally instead of reflexively.

Not every need is ours to meet. Not every opportunity is ours to own.

If you’ve ever said yes and immediately felt overwhelmed, resentful, or full of regret, this episode offers a grounded way to do things differently next time.

As the new year begins, this episode is an invitation to pause.

Dr. Phyllis shares why she made the intentional decision to slow down instead of adding more. Less running around. Fewer new responsibilities. More space to tend to her own health and to simply live, grow, and experience life as it unfolds.

We talk about what happens when you stop worrying about what other people think and start listening to what God is actually asking of you. When the only voices that matter are His and your own, something shifts. There is freedom in choosing to take care of yourself without guilt.

This conversation explores where God may be inviting us to rest, how rest brings us back into alignment, and why restoration is not selfish. It is necessary.

If you are entering this year tired, overwhelmed, or feeling the pull to slow down but unsure if you are allowed to, this episode will meet you right there.

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In this episode, Dr. Phyllis explores the shift from living on autopilot to stepping into agency and trusting God with your next step, especially when the path forward feels unclear.

She reflects on her years as a physician, the fear she experienced when retiring, and the realization that medicine was not her final destination. Stepping away required more than belief. It required action, surrender, and a willingness to stop reacting and start choosing intentionally.

Dr. Phyllis introduces the TRUST framework as a practical guide for navigating uncertainty. TRUST begins with taking a pause to create space instead of reacting. It continues with reflecting through prayer and meditation to gain clarity. The next step is unpacking fears honestly rather than ignoring them. From there comes surrendering the outcome and releasing the need for control. Finally, TRUST calls for taking the next small step forward, even when the full picture is not yet clear.

This episode reminds listeners that agency is not about having all the answers. It is about trusting God in the next step and allowing faith to shape how decisions are made.

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In this holiday episode, Dr. Phyllis explores the idea of presence over performance, especially for high achieving Christian women who feel pulled into “Martha mode” during the holidays. She shares how the pressure to host, fix, and keep everything running smoothly can crowd out meaningful connection.

Drawing from her own experiences as a physician and coach, Dr. Phyllis reflects on how problem solving habits often spill into personal relationships. Instead of listening, we rush to offer answers, missing opportunities to be fully present with the people we love.

She introduces her simple LISTEN method as a way to slow down and connect more deeply. By leaning in, asking open ended questions, allowing silence, and responding with empathy, listening becomes an intentional practice rather than another task.

This episode invites listeners to choose presence as their holiday gift, letting go of the urge to fix and making space for deeper understanding and connection.

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