Episodes

  • S2 E9: What Self-Acceptance Looks Like (For Real)
    May 4 2025

    Hello and thanks so much for tuning into Season 2 Episode 9 of Autism, ADHD and Us Three! If you enjoy the episode, please consider leaving a review – it really helps more late-diagnosed women and neurodivergent parents find us and feel less alone 💜

    🧠💬 In this episode, I’m flying solo to dive deep into one of the most misunderstood but powerful topics: self-acceptance as a late-diagnosed neurodivergent woman and parent.
    I talk honestly about what self-acceptance really looks like (hint: it’s not some glittery destination you magically arrive at). Instead, it’s built quietly, daily, through the small moments no one sees — the boundaries, the cancelled plans without guilt, the quiet self-compassion when you’re struggling.

    We explore why some struggles will always be there no matter how many accommodations you build (and why that's okay), how breaking free from societal expectations changes everything for us and for our children, and how healing yourself now is actively creating a more authentic, empowered future for the next generation. 🌱

    This episode is full of real talk, laughter at the messy reality of "the journey" (seriously, if you know a better word than "journey", let me know 😂), and heartfelt encouragement for anyone working to reclaim their life on their terms.

    💛 Whether you’re just starting your self-acceptance work or you’re in the messy middle of it — this one's for you.

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    📖 I’m writing a book for late-diagnosed autistic ADHD women! Join the waitlist to be the first to hear updates:
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    📚 Chapters:
    00:00 – Welcome back: why self-acceptance isn’t a destination
    02:18 – The messy, real-life version of becoming yourself
    06:45 – Cancelled plans, sensory overload, and guilt-free boundaries
    12:30 – Some struggles never fully go away (and why that’s okay)
    18:05 – Why self-compassion needs to happen quietly and daily
    24:15 – Breaking away from societal expectations
    29:30 – How healing yourself changes your children’s inner voice
    35:10 – The profound legacy of choosing yourself first


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    ⁠https://www.audhdistically.me⁠🎙️


    Keywords: ADHD, Autism, AuDHD, late diagnosed ADHD woman, self-acceptance, masking, neurodivergent parenting, inner healing, late diagnosis, neurodivergent empowerment, breaking generational cycles, authentic living, radical self-care, emotional resilience

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    35 mins
  • S2 E8: The Piles of Doom & Other Stories: Neurodivergent Decluttering with George
    Apr 6 2025

    Hello and thanks so much for tuning into Season 2 Episode 8 of Autism, ADHD and Us Three! If you enjoy the episode, please consider leaving a review – it really helps more late-diagnosed women and neurodivergent parents find us and feel less alone 💜


    🧹✨ In this episode, I’m joined by the brilliant George from @simplifybyGeorge, a professional organiser who supports neurodivergent women and families to reclaim calm and control in their homes. Together, we dive deep into the emotional and practical sides of decluttering and simplifying as late-diagnosed AuDHD parents.

    We talk about household overwhelm, those infamous “doom piles,” and why so many of us feel shame when we can’t keep on top of domestic life – especially when the narrative we’ve been fed is “you should be able to do this.” George shares accessible, ADHD-friendly tips for building habits, creating systems, and letting go of other people’s expectations.

    Whether you’re juggling a chaotic household, navigating burnout, or just need permission to do things your own way – this episode is packed with validation, practical advice, and a whole lot of laughter. Massive thanks to George for such a warm and helpful conversation!

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    Here are George's links!

    https://www.instagram.com/simplifybygeorge/

    https://www.simplifybygeorge.com/

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    💌 Want a weekly boost of positive psychology, self-compassion, and gratitude direct to your inbox? Sign up for The Positivity Pause:
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    📖 I’m writing a book for late-diagnosed autistic ADHD women! Join the waitlist to be the first to hear updates:
    https://www.audhdistically.me/book-waitlist


    🎧 Follow me and connect:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/audhdistically.me/
    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@audhdistically.me
    Everything else (free Facebook group, contact, coaching, offers):

    https://www.audhdistically.me


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    🎙️ Keywords:ADHD, Autism, AuDHD, late diagnosed ADHD woman, decluttering, executive functioning, emotional regulation, neurodivergent parenting, ADHD mum, late diagnosis, ADHD overwhelm, neurodiversity support, simplifying, self-acceptance

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    📚 Chapters00:00 – Meet George: Decluttering expert & neurodivergent parent
    02:15 – Why our homes reflect our brains
    07:30 – ADHD doom piles and emotional chaos
    12:42 – Breaking habits of “doing it all” as the default parent
    18:20 – Letting go of shame around rest and productivity
    24:55 – Making laundry ADHD-friendly
    29:40 – How George works with clients & builds sustainable habits
    34:10 – Tiny changes that make a massive impact
    38:42 – How to support your child’s executive functioning at home
    43:25 – Dealing with different organising styles in your household
    49:00 – Letting go of “shoulds” and owning what works for you

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    41 mins
  • S2 E7 - Being AuDHD - The Bonus Combo Pack
    Mar 9 2025

    Hello and thanks for listening to S2 Episode 7. Please do leave a review if you can to help others find and join our growing community!


    Summary

    In this episode, Jenny explores the unique experience of being an autistic ADHD woman, discussing the paradoxes of routine and novelty, the struggles of forming friendships, the impact of ADHD medication, and the challenges of emotional dysregulation. She emphasises the importance of self-acceptance and finding community among those who share similar experiences, while also addressing the societal challenges faced by neurodiverse individuals.-------------------

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    If you have any comments or feedback please do get in touch!

    Social links:

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    Instagram:

    https://www.instagram.com/audhdistically.me/

    All other info including the free Facebook community, email contact & how details of how to work with me:https://www.audhdistically.me

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    I'm writing a book!! If you want to be the first to knowmore then sign up to the book waitlist here: https://www.audhdistically.me/book-waitlist

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    Keywords

    Autism, ADHD, AuDHD, self-acceptance, emotional dysregulation, friendship struggles, ADHD medication, routine, novelty, neurodiversity

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    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction to AuDHD Experience

    02:50 The Paradox of Routine and Novelty

    12:49 Friendship Struggles and Connections

    20:23 ADHD Medication and Autistic Awakening

    27:29 Emotional Dysregulation and Rejection Sensitivity

    31:14 Living in a World Not Designed for Us

    35:05 Self-Acceptance and Personal Growth

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    41 mins
  • S2 E6 Perimenopause, Menopause and ADHD
    Feb 9 2025

    Hello and thanks for listening to S2 episode 6. Please do leave a review if you can to help others find and join our growing community!

    In this episode, Jenny Lucas speaks with Sarah West, a specialist in perimenopause, menopause, and ADHD coaching. They explore the intersection of neurodivergence and hormonal changes, particularly how many women discover their neurodivergent traits during perimenopause. Sarah shares her personal journey and the transformative power of coaching in navigating these life changes. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care, understanding hormonal impacts, and finding support for ADHD and menopause. -------------------

    If you'd like to receive my weekly 'Positivity Pause' you can sign up here: https://www.audhdistically.me/get-my-newsletter

    If you have any comments or feedback please do get in touch! Social links:

    Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@audhdistically.me

    Instagram:

    https://www.instagram.com/audhdistically.me/

    All other info including email & how to work with me: www.audhdistically.me

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    I'm writing a book!! If you want to be the first to know more then head to my website and sign up to the book waitlist!

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    Contact details for Sarah West ADHD Coach:

    https://www.sarahwest-adhd.com/

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    Keywords

    ADHD, menopause, perimenopause, neurodivergent women, coaching, mental health, self-care, boundaries, hormones, support

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    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction to Neurodivergence and Menopause

    02:50 Understanding the Connection Between ADHD and Menopause

    06:01 The Role of Coaching in Navigating Life Changes

    08:57 The Importance of Self-Care and Boundaries

    11:59 Exploring Perimenopause: Symptoms and Impacts

    20:51 The Science of Hormones and Neurodivergence

    26:57 Finding Support and Resources for ADHD and Menopause

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    34 mins
  • S2 E5 Tips for how to parent your ADHD kids without shame, blame or trauma
    Jan 12 2025

    Hello and thanks for listening to S2 episode 5. Please do leave a review if you can to help others find and join our growing community! ----------

    If you'd like to receive my weekly 'Positivity Pause' you can sign up here: https://www.audhdistically.me/get-my-newsletter

    If you have any comments or feedback please do get in touch! Social links: Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@audhdistically.me?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc Instagram (new!): https://www.instagram.com/audhdistically.me/ All other info including email & how to work with me:

    www.audhdistically.me -----------------

    Contact Details for Lauren O'Carroll of Positively Parenting:

    https://positivelyparenting.co.uk/

    mailto:lauren@positivelyparenting.co.uk

    @positivelyparentingtogether (Instagram and threads) @positivelyparentingloz (Tiktok)

    @adhdparentcoach (Bluesky) ------------------ In this episode, Jenny Lucas and Lauren O'Carroll discuss the complexities of parenting children with ADHD, drawing from their personal experiences as late-diagnosed individuals. Keywords: AuDHD parenting, neurodivergent, support, diagnosis, self-discovery, parenting challenges, mental health, gentle parenting, personal journey, parenting, neurodivergence, ADHD, community, validation, self-care, parenting challenges, emotional support, mental health, family dynamics


    • Chapters

      00:00 Introduction to ADHD Parenting

      01:31 Discovering ADHD: A Personal Journey

      04:11 The Impact of ADHD Diagnosis

      06:32 Parenting Challenges with ADHD

      10:15 The Need for Tailored Support

      12:08 Critique of Traditional Parenting Courses

      14:29 Navigating External Opinions and Judgments

      18:05 Trusting Parental Instincts

      20:32 The Complexity of Neurodivergent Parenting

      22:55 Identity and Self-Discovery Post-Diagnosis

      25:15 Navigating Parenting Challenges

      30:10 Understanding Neurodivergence in Parenting

      35:08 The Importance of Community and Validation

      39:21 Key Takeaways from Parenting Support

      44:43 Self-Care and Understanding Needs

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    45 mins
  • S2 E4: Surviving the Holiday Season Without Burning Out: Tips for Those Who’ve Had Enough of Christmas Bullsht*
    Dec 8 2024

    Hello and thanks for listening to S2 episode 4. Please do leave a review if you can to help others join our growing community! ----------

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    If you're interested in joining the waitlist for The Power of Happiness in January 2025, sign up here: https://www.audhdistically.me/power-of-happiness-waitlist

    If you have any comments or feedback please do get in touch! Social links: Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@audhdistically.me?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc Instagram (new!): https://www.instagram.com/audhdistically.me/ All other info including email: https://beacons.ai/audhdistically.me


    keywords:

    neurodivergent, Christmas, parenting, boundaries, self-compassion, sensory overload, holiday tips, family traditions, mental health, positivity, AuDHD

    Summary

    In this episode, Jenny discusses how neurodivergent individuals and parents can navigate the overwhelming festive season. She shares personal experiences and practical tips on setting boundaries, managing sensory overload, and prioritizing self-compassion. The conversation emphasizes the importance of creating a comfortable environment, doing Christmas in a way that suits individual families, and planning ahead to ensure a joyful holiday experience. Jenny encourages listeners to let go of societal expectations and focus on what truly matters during the festive season.takeaways

    • The festive season can be overwhelming for neurodivergent individuals.
    • Setting boundaries and saying no is crucial for mental well-being.
    • Self-compassion is essential for navigating holiday stress.
    • Creating a comfortable environment helps manage sensory overload.
    • It's okay to ditch traditional holiday practices that don't work for your family.
    • Planning ahead can alleviate stress during the holiday season.
    • Quality time with family is more important than quantity.
    • Bring sensory tools and safe snacks to manage expectations.
    • You are allowed to have your own needs met during the holidays.
    • Letting go of others' opinions can lead to a more enjoyable Christmas.
    • Surviving the Holidays: A Neurodivergent Perspective
    • Reclaiming Christmas: Tips for Neurodivergent Families
    • Boundaries and Joy: Navigating the Festive Season
    • "No is a complete sentence."
    • "You are allowed to say no."
    • "Self-compassion is a game changer."
    • "You are allowed to have needs."
    • "Ditch the traditions, create your own."
    • "Quality over quantity in family visits."
    • "You do what works for you."


    Chapters

    00:00 Navigating the Festive Season as Neurodivergent Parents

    03:13 Overcoming Overwhelm: Strategies for a Joyful Christmas

    06:10 Setting Boundaries: The Power of Saying No

    08:59 Creating a Comfortable Environment: Sensory Considerations

    11:51 Self-Compassion and Meeting Your Own Needs

    15:13 Doing Christmas Your Way: Embracing Individual Traditions

    18:05 Planning Ahead: The Importance of Preparation

    20:52 Quality Over Quantity: Redefining Family Visits

    24:08 Recap and Final Thoughts: Embracing Your Christmas

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    35 mins
  • S2 E3 Sensory Overwhelm and Wellbeing
    Nov 17 2024
    Hello and thanks for listening to S2 episode 3. Please do leave a review if you can to help others join our growing community! In this episode Hayley O'Connor and I discuss neurodiversity, sensory processing, and wellbeing, highlighting the importance of inclusive spaces, community support, and emotional regulation. We also explore the challenges of neurodivergent parenting, including parental guilt, sensory needs, and empowering children with knowledge about their identities, while balancing authenticity and self-care. Key themes in this episode: - Lived experience and expertise - Neurodivergent children and empowerment - Sensory processing and triggers - Decision paralysis and food - Labelling neurodivergent individuals - Creating sensory-friendly environments - Parenting as neurodivergent individuals - Community support and connection ----------- Here is how you can get in touch with Hayley and find out more about ZoneND: Website - https://zone-nd.com/ LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/zonend/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/z0nend/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ZoneND23 TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@zone_nd YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQUCcbPhUjKRrZ9V_ctkDVw Personal LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/hayleyoconnor12/ ----------- If you have any comments or feedback please do get in touch! Social links: Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@audhdistically.me?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc Instagram (new!): https://www.instagram.com/audhdistically.me/ All other info including email: https://beacons.ai/audhdistically.me
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    39 mins
  • S2 E2: Overcoming Negative Self-Talk and Celebrating Little Wins
    Oct 20 2024

    Hello and thanks for listening to S2 episode 2.

    Please do leave a review if you can to help others join our growing community!

    Episode Summary: Overcoming Negative Self-Talk and Celebrating Little Wins

    In this episode I delve into the importance of reducing negative self-talk and cultivating self-compassion. I discuss how negative self-talk can erode self-esteem and confidence, and how practicing self-kindness can lead to positive transformations in our lives.

    I also explore the significance of teaching children to recognize and challenge negative self-talk, helping them develop a healthier mindset. By understanding the brain's natural negativity bias and training it to focus on the positive, we can cultivate greater happiness and resilience.

    Throughout the episode, I emphasize the power of self-acceptance and a growth mindset in navigating life's challenges. I highlight the benefits of celebrating small wins and building a strong sense of self-worth, which can enhance motivation and overall well-being. Key Topics from the Episode:

    • Negative Self-Talk: The impact of negative self-talk on self-esteem and confidence.
    • Self-Compassion: The importance of practicing self-kindness and understanding.
    • Teaching Children: How to guide children in recognizing and changing negative self-talk.
    • Neuroplasticity: The brain's ability to learn and adapt, including overcoming the negativity bias.
    • Growth Mindset: The benefits of adopting a growth mindset over a fixed mindset.
    • Resilience: Building resilience through self-compassion and celebrating small wins.
    • Self-Worth: Cultivating a strong sense of self-worth and its impact on motivation and happiness


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    Instagram (new!): https://www.instagram.com/audhdistically.me/

    All other info including email: https://beacons.ai/audhdistically.me

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    26 mins