This conversation touches on tender territory, including childhood trauma and sexual themes, held with great care. Please take your time with it and only listen when you feel resourced.

In this deeply intimate and courageous episode, Rosy Daniel steps into the guest seat to share her personal healing journey through Tantra and how it transformed her relationship with herself and with men, enabling her to find the loving relationship that she longed for.

Rosy reflects on years of choosing emotionally unavailable absent partners despite extensive counselling work, and how she began to question whether deep, tender, connected relationship was truly possible for her. Drawn to Tantra through trusted friends and teachers, she describes her first experiences of re-sensitisation in an introductory weekend with Leora Lightwoman and team in a process they called awakening the senses. , the body, and the capacity to receive.

Through her training with John Hawken and Hilary Spenceley of Skydancing Tantra, Rosy explores how disconnection between men and women is shaped by deep wounds: women struggling to receive due to low self-worth, numbness, and inability to receive and men carrying the pain of criticism and being crushed emotionally, creating fear of vulnerability and resorting to emotion free sexual experience with objectified women. Together, Karen and Rosy unpack how sexual energy, when shamed or repressed, can distort into control, violence, and abuse and how, when honoured as the major divine life force, it becomes a source of creativity, connection, pleasure and healing.

In one of the most powerful moments of the episode, Rosy shares a visceral trauma release experience that helped her reframe childhood abuse, breaking an old survival pattern held in her nervous system. This embodied shift enabled her to become able to recognise men who can love women as opposed to the misogynists she has been attracting previously and how this opened the way for the deeply devoted partnership she now shares with Mike.

The conversation weaves together personal story, spiritual insight, the power of working with what is held the body, offering a compassionate exploration of how we heal relational wounds not just through understanding, but through accessing a releasing deeply help physical trauma.

Takeaways

• Trauma lives in the body, and true change often comes through visceral, somatic experiences, not the mind alone.
• Healing relationship wounds often requires embodied, nervous-system-level work, not just insight or understanding.
• Many women struggle to receive because of low self-worth, numbness, and inability to receive, and how this can shape relationship patterns.
• Many men carry deep wounds from criticism and emotional crushing, which can lead to withdrawal or disconnection
• Sexual energy, in the Tantric worldview, is the divine life force and creative energy — when repressed or shamed, it can distort into harmful control, violence and abuse; when honoured, it can heal and become a source of blissful union of sex, heart and spirit
• Being well resourced is essential before deep healing can happen.
• It is possible to move from numbness and survival into feeling, connection, love devotion and bliss.
• We are not ‘too much’. Our power, sensitivity, and depth are meant to be held and loved. Being met in both our tenderness and our wildness is part of reclaiming our wholeness personally and in relationship
• Healing the feminine and masculine within and between us is vital part of the bigger collective rebalancing.

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In this conversation, Karen and Rosy explore Tantra and Neo-Tantra, including themes of intimacy, sexuality, and relational connection. These topics are discussed in a respectful, conscious, and grounded way, but we wanted to let you know in advance.

This episode features a profound conversation with Leora Lightwoman, a leading UK teacher of Tantra and Neo-Tantra. Together, they explore the essence of Tantra, its evolution into Neo-Tantra, and the importance of connection, intimacy, trust, playfulness, and devotion in relationships.

Leora shares her personal journey into Tantra, the significance of establishing beautiful boundaries, and how she supports couples through relational dynamics. The discussion also explores healing wounds in masculine and feminine energy, alongside real-life stories that demonstrate how these teachings can be applied in everyday life.

This enlightening conversation offers listeners insight into deepening intimacy, strengthening relationships, and expanding pleasure and bliss through the principles of Tantra.

Takeaways

• Tantra is rooted in non-duality, weaving together and expanding consciousness.
• Neo-Tantra blends traditional teachings with therapeutic approaches to deepen intimacy and support healthy relationships.
• Connection and intimacy are essential for fulfilling partnerships.
• Beautiful boundaries create safety and support healthy sexual experiences.
• Couples often face challenges when one partner is more eager than the other.
• Healing masculine and feminine wounds supports personal growth and deeper connection.
• Devotion is a core aspect of Tantra and can strengthen relationships.
• Establishing safety and clear parameters is vital for intimacy.
• Sexual connection begins with a simple “hello”—presence, attention, and playfulness matter.
• Real-life Tantra practices can create profound healing and transformation.

Sound Bites

• “Tantra is about non-duality.”
• “If you miss the hello, the connection is gone.”
• “Devotion is at the heart of Tantra.”

Chapters

• 00:00 Introduction to Tantra and Neo-Tantra
• 06:13 Leora’s Journey into Tantra
• 10:52 The Essence of Connection and Intimacy
• 14:46 Understanding Beautiful Boundaries
• 19:12 Couple Dynamics and Relationship Challenges
• 25:41 Healing Wounds in Masculine and Feminine Energy
• 32:20 The Role of Devotion in Tantra
• 35:42 Real-Life Applications and Healing Stories

Find Out More About Leora’s Work

Website: diamondlighttantra.com
On the official Diamond Light Tantra website you can find information about Leora’s practice, book online counselling sessions, or arrange an in-person retreat. These options are available for both individuals and couples. Additionally, you can sign up for Leora’s mailing list to receive news about promotions and events.

Facebook: Diamond Light Tantra
At the Diamond Light Tantra Facebook page you can stay up-to-date on future events, podcast episodes I am featuring in, and other content related to my practice.

YouTube: Diamond Light Tantra Courses
Leora’s YouTube channel, Diamond Light Tantra Courses, is based around the practice of Tantra and relationship guidance. There she offers a range of educational videos for both people new to Tantra and those who wish to deepen their understanding of the subject.

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In this episode, Karen Mellers and Rosy Daniel explore the profound themes of love and relationships, emphasising the primary importance of emotional connection, communication, and belonging within our communities. They discuss the healing power of love, the significance of parenting and boundaries, and the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationship patterns. The conversation highlights the necessity of vulnerability, compassion for ourself, and the journey towards self-love and identity, while also addressing the challenges of emotional healing and the importance of modelling healthy relationships within therapeutic and health coaching settings and circles of support.

Takeaways

• Love is at the heart of holistic healing.
• Relationships require conscious ‘re-making’ of love
• Parenting should focus on loving support rather than fearful protection.
• Learning to say no and setting boundaries is essential for self-respect.
• Loving community plays a crucial role in emotional healing.
• Emotional needs include love, attention, and recognition of our efforts and unique nature
• Therapeutic relationships thrive on unconditional positive regard.
• Childhood trauma can lead to co-dependency in adulthood.
• Self-love is foundational for healthy relationships.
• Vulnerability is a strength that fosters connection.

Rerences

• Love 2.0 - Creating Happiness and Health in Moments of Connection – Barbara Frederickson 2013
• Lovability: How to Love and be Loved – Robert Holden 2013

Sound bites

• "Love is what we're about."
• "As the mother you are the lighthouse. How ever difficult your child gets, don’t move the lighthouse!"
• "We can grow our ability to love."

Chapters

• 00:00 The Importance of Relationships
• 02:53 Love as the Core of Healing
• 05:57 Parenting and Support Systems
• 09:04 Communication and Boundaries
• 12:00 Emotional Needs and Recognition
• 14:51 The Role of Community
• 17:59 Therapeutic Relationships
• 21:00 Healing from Past Trauma
• 24:00 Navigating Loss and Grief
• 27:04 The Journey of Self-Discovery
• 29:49 The Power of Connection
• 33:03 Letting Go and Embracing Love
• 35:49 Finding Love in Community
• 39:06 Reconnecting with Emotions
• 42:12 Resources for Healing and Connection

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