This conversation touches on tender territory, including childhood trauma and sexual themes, held with great care. Please take your time with it and only listen when you feel resourced.

In this deeply intimate and courageous episode, Rosy Daniel steps into the guest seat to share her personal healing journey through Tantra and how it transformed her relationship with herself and with men, enabling her to find the loving relationship that she longed for.

Rosy reflects on years of choosing emotionally unavailable absent partners despite extensive counselling work, and how she began to question whether deep, tender, connected relationship was truly possible for her. Drawn to Tantra through trusted friends and teachers, she describes her first experiences of re-sensitisation in an introductory weekend with Leora Lightwoman and team in a process they called awakening the senses. , the body, and the capacity to receive.

Through her training with John Hawken and Hilary Spenceley of Skydancing Tantra, Rosy explores how disconnection between men and women is shaped by deep wounds: women struggling to receive due to low self-worth, numbness, and inability to receive and men carrying the pain of criticism and being crushed emotionally, creating fear of vulnerability and resorting to emotion free sexual experience with objectified women. Together, Karen and Rosy unpack how sexual energy, when shamed or repressed, can distort into control, violence, and abuse and how, when honoured as the major divine life force, it becomes a source of creativity, connection, pleasure and healing.

In one of the most powerful moments of the episode, Rosy shares a visceral trauma release experience that helped her reframe childhood abuse, breaking an old survival pattern held in her nervous system. This embodied shift enabled her to become able to recognise men who can love women as opposed to the misogynists she has been attracting previously and how this opened the way for the deeply devoted partnership she now shares with Mike.

The conversation weaves together personal story, spiritual insight, the power of working with what is held the body, offering a compassionate exploration of how we heal relational wounds not just through understanding, but through accessing a releasing deeply help physical trauma.

Takeaways

• Trauma lives in the body, and true change often comes through visceral, somatic experiences, not the mind alone.
• Healing relationship wounds often requires embodied, nervous-system-level work, not just insight or understanding.
• Many women struggle to receive because of low self-worth, numbness, and inability to receive, and how this can shape relationship patterns.
• Many men carry deep wounds from criticism and emotional crushing, which can lead to withdrawal or disconnection
• Sexual energy, in the Tantric worldview, is the divine life force and creative energy — when repressed or shamed, it can distort into harmful control, violence and abuse; when honoured, it can heal and become a source of blissful union of sex, heart and spirit
• Being well resourced is essential before deep healing can happen.
• It is possible to move from numbness and survival into feeling, connection, love devotion and bliss.
• We are not ‘too much’. Our power, sensitivity, and depth are meant to be held and loved. Being met in both our tenderness and our wildness is part of reclaiming our wholeness personally and in relationship
• Healing the feminine and masculine within and between us is vital part of the bigger collective rebalancing.

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