Whether your child can but won’t, can’t yet, or really can’t, the result is the same—they aren’t doing what’s expected. The solution isn’t to lower the bar or double down on consequences—it’s to raise both support and expectation together.

In this episode, you’ll learn how to use the High Support + High Expectation approach to:

• Respond wisely when kids “can but don’t”
• Give help without enabling or rescuing
• Keep standards high without harshness
• Build confidence, competence, and consistency

This is the balance every parent needs—firm, kind, and effective.

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• Mother U https://mother-u.com
• Life School At Home (my community that helps prepare kids for life!) https://www.lifeschoolathome.com
• It's All My Fault (weekly quiet time resource for the Christian people-pleasing, over-functioning, guilt-ridden mama) https://learn.mother-u.com/iamf
• YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c@motheru
• Instagram https://www.instagram.com/motheruwithrachel/

Do you ever feel exhausted from deciding the same things over and over again—bedtime, screens, snacks, chores? That constant re-deciding drains your energy, weakens boundaries, and leaves you frustrated by 3 p.m.

In this episode, we’ll unpack the power of pre-deciding—how making clear choices ahead of time helps you follow through with calm confidence.

You’ll learn:

• Why pre-deciding saves your energy and sanity
• What it means if you can’t stick to what you’ve decided
• How guilt and people-pleasing make consistency harder
• Simple steps to start pre-deciding today
• How to identify where your lack of pre-determination causes chaos

By the end, you’ll see how deciding once—on purpose—can bring peace to your home and confidence to your motherhood.

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• Mother U https://mother-u.com
• Life School At Home (my community that helps prepare kids for life!) https://www.lifeschoolathome.com
• It's All My Fault (weekly quiet time resource for the Christian people-pleasing, over-functioning, guilt-ridden mama) https://learn.mother-u.com/iamf
• YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c@motheru
• Instagram https://www.instagram.com/motheruwithrachel/

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You have routines, systems, and boundaries that work—until your husband steps in and does things differently. Maybe he’s more lenient, skips the routine, or just doesn’t follow through. You want to be a team, but instead it feels like you’re working against each other.

In this episode, we’ll talk about how to handle parenting differences with your husband (whether he’s well-meaning but inconsistent or completely checked out) so you can protect peace in your home without constant tension.

You’ll learn:

• How to recognize when it’s a true difference in values vs. just a different approach
• What to do when your husband doesn’t follow routines or discipline the same way
• How to communicate without criticizing or “mom-ing” your husband
• How to lead with calm strength instead of control
• When to let go, when to speak up, and how to stay grounded in your role

🎉 SUPPORT ON TAP

• Mother U https://mother-u.com
• Life School At Home (my community that helps prepare kids for life!) https://www.lifeschoolathome.com
• It's All My Fault (weekly quiet time resource for the Christian people-pleasing, over-functioning, guilt-ridden mama) https://learn.mother-u.com/iamf
• YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c@motheru
• Instagram https://www.instagram.com/motheruwithrachel/

When kids face friendship drama, moms often feel helpless—or tempted to fix it for them. But teaching kids to handle hard friendships on their own builds resilience and confidence they’ll carry for life.

In this episode, I share a simple 3-step system I used with my daughter when she was struggling with friends. By helping her name her strengths, recognize unhealthy behaviors, and anchor herself in truth, she had a breakthrough in self-esteem—and hasn’t had friend issues since.

You’ll learn:

• Why rescuing kids from friend drama doesn’t work long-term
• A simple exercise to help kids see their own worth clearly
• How to help your child identify unhealthy patterns in friendships
• The power of writing down truths and guarding their heart with wisdom
• How this process builds lasting confidence and healthier relationships

🎉 SUPPORT ON TAP

• Mother U https://mother-u.com
• Life School At Home (my community that helps prepare kids for life!) https://www.lifeschoolathome.com
• It's All My Fault (weekly quiet time resource for the Christian people-pleasing, over-functioning, guilt-ridden mama) https://learn.mother-u.com/iamf
• YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c@motheru
• Instagram https://www.instagram.com/motheruwithrachel/

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Do you ever second-guess every choice you make as a mom—what you said, what you didn’t say, whether you’re ruining your kids? Overthinking makes motherhood heavier than it has to be. In this episode, we’ll get to the root of why moms overthink, how it’s tied to guilt and people-pleasing, and what to do instead so you can parent with confidence and peace.

You’ll learn:

• Why overthinking is so common for moms today
• The hidden cost of second-guessing every decision
• How guilt and people-pleasing fuel anxious thoughts
• Practical steps to quiet your mind and trust your instincts
• Biblical truth that frees you from perfection pressure

🎉 SUPPORT ON TAP

• Mother U https://mother-u.com
• Life School At Home (my community that helps prepare kids for life!) https://www.lifeschoolathome.com
• It's All My Fault (weekly quiet time resource for the Christian people-pleasing, over-functioning, guilt-ridden mama) https://learn.mother-u.com/iamf
• YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c@motheru
• Instagram https://www.instagram.com/motheruwithrachel/

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Somewhere along the way, moms picked up the lie that a “good mom” never gets angry. But the truth is, every mom does. Anger by itself isn’t the problem, it’s what we do with it that matters. In this episode, we’ll break down where this false belief comes from, how it fuels guilt and shame, and why anger can actually be a signal pointing to what’s broken or what needs to change.

You’ll learn:

• Why believing “good moms never get angry” sets you up for guilt
• The difference between sinful anger and healthy boundaries
• How anger can be a cue, not just a failure
• Practical steps to respond instead of explode
• Encouragement for handling emotions with wisdom

🎉 SUPPORT ON TAP

• Mother U https://mother-u.com
• Life School At Home (my community that helps prepare kids for life!) https://www.lifeschoolathome.com
• It's All My Fault (weekly quiet time resource for the Christian people-pleasing, over-functioning, guilt-ridden mama) https://learn.mother-u.com/iamf
• YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c@motheru
• Instagram https://www.instagram.com/motheruwithrachel/

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• Bye Bye Backtalk
• 3 D's (Disrespect, Defiance, Drama)

Every mom has been there: you ask your child to do something right now… and they ignore you, argue, or drag their feet. It’s frustrating, exhausting, and can turn the simplest request into a battle.

In this episode, I’ll share practical strategies to help kids actually listen in the moment, not general listening or parenting strategies.

You’ll learn:

• Why kids tune moms out (and it’s not always defiance)
• How tone, timing, and body language affect listening
• Common mistakes that make kids less likely to respond
• Simple adjustments that get kids to follow through faster
• How to stay calm and consistent without nagging or yelling

If you’ve ever thought, “Why don’t my kids listen the first time I ask?” this episode is for you.

🎉 SUPPORT ON TAP

• Mother U https://mother-u.com
• Life School At Home (my community that helps prepare kids for life!) https://www.lifeschoolathome.com
• It's All My Fault (weekly quiet time resource for the Christian people-pleasing, over-functioning, guilt-ridden mama) https://learn.mother-u.com/iamf
• YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c@motheru
• Instagram https://www.instagram.com/motheruwithrachel/

Every mom knows the moment, you’re so tired, so worn down, that you do something you swore you wouldn’t. Maybe you put your child in preschool when you planned to keep them home. Maybe you hand over the tablet just to get a break. In that moment, it feels like survival. Afterward? The guilt hits hard.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Why exhaustion pushes moms to go against their values
• The difference between survival mode and truly “giving up”
• How guilt makes the problem worse, not better
• Ways to build in breaks before you crack
• How to get back in line with your values without the shame spiral

If you’ve ever thought, “I can’t believe I did that…”—this one’s for you.

🎉 SUPPORT ON TAP

• Mother U https://mother-u.com
• Life School At Home (my community that helps prepare kids for life!) https://www.lifeschoolathome.com
• It's All My Fault (weekly quiet time resource for the Christian people-pleasing, over-functioning, guilt-ridden mama) https://learn.mother-u.com/iamf
• YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c@motheru
• Instagram https://www.instagram.com/motheruwithrachel/