I finally started writing When I Was 40: Overcame Some Challenges, Still Learning and Growing just before I turned 50. Around 2009 I had experienced quite a few memorable events, which prompted this title. I have taken pride in my accomplishments. I have had time to think about some decisions I made and challenges I faced. Many people in their 40s and 50s find themselves in a midlife crisis. Maybe something has happened, or something was done that caused a disruption in the home - a lost job, a lost business, bankruptcy, a failed marriage, a loved one's death, an empty nest, unfulfilled goals, and dreams, and the list goes on. My disruption was a failed marriage.

This book is about how God helped me through that time. He also had family, loved ones, and prayer partners positioned to help me along the way. I have discovered that God doesn't waste any of my pain, even my self-inflicted pain. 

Each chapter describes my experience at age 40 and what I learned as I was reflecting and writing. Each chapter ends with reflection questions, the scriptures mentioned, a place to write what the listener has learned, along with a prayer. I have been very open and transparent because I finally learned to stop wearing masks. I feel like people need to know about my struggles so that they can discover how they can get through theirs. My goal is for this book to be a source of encouragement, inspiration and motivation for all who read it. Adults of all ages have told me that it has definitely helped them. 

This book is great for individual or a group Bible study. Anyone who has failed in marriage or any relationship can experience recovery, healing, and restoration. I wish there was a way to combine the motivational/inspirational tone with the emotional tone. Certain parts need one and certain parts need the other.