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Everyone needs to love and be loved - even men. But to know love, men must be able to look at the ways that patriarchal culture keeps them from knowing themselves, from being in touch with their feelings, from loving. In The Will to Change, bell hooks gets to the heart of the matter and shows men how to express the emotions that are a fundamental part of who they are - whatever their age, marital status, ethnicity, or sexual orientation.

With trademark candor and fierce intelligence, hooks addresses the most common concerns of men, such as fear of intimacy and loss of their patriarchal place in society, in new and challenging ways. She believes men can find the way to spiritual unity by getting back in touch with the emotionally open part of themselves - and lay claim to the rich and rewarding inner lives that have historically been the exclusive province of women. A brave and astonishing work, The Will to Change is designed to help men reclaim the best part of themselves.

©2003 Gloria Watkins (P)2020 Simon & Schuster Audio

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I'd rather this topic covered by a man

one woman's view, experiences and thoughts on how things should be and the mistakes that got us here. Nothing new, more suggestions of over adjustments and boundary blurring. Not as balanced as I'd hoped.

Men need to choose good mentors and there are many.

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  • 26-09-2020

A unique call to an ethic of creative love

belle hooks, a black woman, just spoke directly this white man's heart in a way that no man or woman ever has. Growing up without the direct presence of a father, I never knew what good masculinity looked like. I now, for the first time in my life, in my late thirties, am beginning to understand, thanks to this book.

belle hooks' love for men, women, and children pours out of every word of this book, and comes through crystal clear, if not amplified, by the beautiful narration of Janina Edwards.

This book exposes the unimaginable depths of societal rot caused by millennia of Patriarchy, and calls for a new ethic of creative (instead of destructive) love and wholeness that can heal and bring us together. Having read this book, I will never again be able to not be on the journey of helping to bring this profound vision into reality.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 18-04-2020

Bell Hooks, my hero!!

Loved this book. Full of incredible, life changing insights. I'd give more stars if possible.

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  • Brandon
  • 07-08-2020

Must Read

I never call anything a must read, but this one speaks to all men everywhere. Hooks manages to speak to the core of feminism without alienating men. She digs into the struggles we all face in this culture, and sheds light on what we must become. For those who ask "What is it women want from us?" I recommend reading this.

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  • Epigenomical
  • 14-10-2020

Phenomenal

Bell Hooks compassionately illuminates and brilliantly dissects the devastation wrought by patriarchal society on humanity. The female narrator's voice is pitch-perfect. This is a powerful work of immense importance to the world. This is essential reading for anyone seeking to understand the roots of Trump-era societal self-immolation.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 13-08-2020

Fantastic but now I feel emotionally drained

Very comprehensive. For those not willing to listen / read the whole book it would have been better if the chapters could stand alone. Lacks a good ending summary. Where do we go from here?

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  • C. Minor
  • 14-06-2020

Transformative Enlightenment For Masculine Souls

For so long I've wondered why I never seem to be able to get a handle on my own masculinity because of my experience with toxic masculinity and patriarchy but this book really highlights the history of feminism and how feminism can help and in (small ways) failed to bring boys along when fighting for change back in the day. But as Bell Hooks articulates the struggle between man and woman she applies poignant and precise commentary that highlights where she views the disconnects are and why they are the way they are with her own personal experiences. It's a very enlightening and rewarding read. If you're a man and you know something is wrong with the way we are living but don't know what to do or what areas you should start on i encourage you to read this book. It will provide some insight for you. I believe that to be true because it opened up a whole new world for me.

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  • KM
  • 08-03-2021

A Will to Change

An important and sound exploration of toxic masculinity and patriarchy and the impacts of both on the development and relationships of people. I just wish it wasn’t so steeped in thinking often restricted to the gender binary. Good foundational text for understanding the restrictions and violence of patriarchy but needing to expand and explore the impacts of gendered roles and thinking on perpetuating those toxic ideologies.

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  • September Yves
  • 07-03-2021

powerful

great listen, gave me a lot to consider and alleviated feelings of dissonance as a person who is anti-patriarchal and loves men.

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  • 24-08-2020

Will to Change

If there is a Will, there will be a Way. Unlearn to Learn unconditional Love.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 21-05-2020

Loved!

This book gave me so much free game. Bell Hooks Elaborated more on what I already believed about men. If you love any man this is a book worth a read. It starts with a man first to destroy Patriarchy but woman Immediately after.

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  • Cree
  • 16-03-2020

Poetic, accessible, political

Bell can do little wrong in my eyes, this is an important text nearly 20 years on. I've been waiting for more of bells texts to go up, please put more of Bells work on audio!!

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  • KD Anon
  • 26-08-2020

Inspiring and moving. Superb performance by Janina

This is my first listen to Bell Hooks and I have to say I'm very glad I got that chance to listen to her book. I was recommended All About Love by Bell Hooks but decided to start here since as a young man there are many times where I myself am confused about my place and role in the world especially when it comes to being an authentic and honest representation of myself seeking deeper, healthier connections with my loved ones while not clouded by circumstances of life having lived through trauma and being a black man. Bell Hooks clearly outlines ways in which we as men can start to reclaim the masculinity which the world rejects and sees as irrational and unacceptable so that we may learn real self love and real expression of love. I'm looking forward to delve more into her works and have a long backlog of books from her and other writers through which I seek to explore positive personal development and learning the practice love both in and out of oneself

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