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The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap is a complete rewrite of Ross's first book. Ross provides a more explicit rendering of The Human Magnet Syndrome, that includes new theories, explanations, and concepts. The information on Gaslighting and The Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome, like the rest of the information, is cutting edge and completely original. This audiobook contains many more case examples and stories of Ross's own codependency recovery. Like its predecessor, it is written for both the layman and professional. Men and women have been magnetically and irresistibly drawn together into romantic relationships, not so much by what they see, feel and think, but more by invisible forces.

Codependents and pathological narcissists are enveloped in a seductive dreamlike state; however, it will later unfold into a painful “seesaw” of love, pain, hope, and disappointment. The soul mate of the codependent's dreams will become the narcissist of their nightmares. Fans of The Human Magnet Syndrome will better understand why they, despite their dreams for true love, find themselves hopelessly and painfully in love with partners who hurt them.

©2018 Ross Rosenberg (P)2018 Ross Rosenberg

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An enlightening necessary catalyst for change!!

What a wonderful book which explains so much of my life & the many questions of relationships!
I would highly recommend this book for anyone wondering why none of their relationships have ever been easy....

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Listening to this while getting abused

Listening to gaslighting definition and narcissist rage while getting abused in real-time was an experience to treasure. Im glad to be on the path to self love. This was an eye-opening shocking revelation for me...finally getting my butt into action!

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Great insight but no advice how to use the info

I listened to this awhile ago now but Ross Rosenberg is definitely well versed in the subject of the codependent - narc relationship. This book gave some good insights and I really found it helpful to see the dynamic set on a scale as he put it. And throughout the book, I was eagerly waiting to hear his advice on what to do if you have experienced a lot of what was discussed but unfortunately - there was nothing! I was so disappointed. From what I had heard in his youtube videos and social media, this book was going to give the help to codependents that we need. But instead, it was just an explanation of what we go through and why... I wanted solutions. So I think I've been more than fair in giving this book 4 stars given the expectations, and I would've definitely given 5 if I was given advice what to "do" with all this information!

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My Favourite Book!

Ross Rosenberg is a genius! This book is one of my favourite books! If you're interested in psychology or human behaviour this book will strike your fancy. Especially if you are intrigued in how humans tick and why nice people are attracted to the "bad boy/girl". I'm particularly interested in the phenomenon of codependency and narcissism which Ross articulates perfectly. I had many lightbulb moments after listening to this book. Highly recommend.

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Very obnoxious

My perception of this book is that it was written as a trophy by the author to himself. It is geared to other therapists almost as a boast or product of pride. I found it very annoying to listen to it as I seeking to gain more personal insight - I needed it to be more about me rather than him (the author). 10% is good as a self help diagnosis. The rest is is just me me me talk. I suffered through the entire book as a challenge to see how self absorbed the author was, hoping it would improve, and to see how many times he said the words me or I. Tag- you’re in!

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Oh my!....my eyes are now open

This book is amazing.
Everyone should be educated with the valuable life information in this book.
I now can see where before I was blind and living with drama.
Now I understand.
Thank you Ross what a brilliant book.
Trauma is subtle but unhelpful strategies can rule your life.
I am so happy to have read this book.
I am free.

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  • sarah
  • 04-05-2018

this is the ultimate book of revelations.

i never had this many AHA moments reading or listening to a book in my entire life and i won't tell how old im but i will tell you my audible library holds 900 books.. my amazon kindle 400 my itune audiobooks lib 315....this book is a must listen too every single day of your life... every time you re-listen you find more insights and more brilliant treasure.. literally..!.Sarah gath.

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  • eliphillips2013
  • 05-02-2019

Great book horrible narration

Great information and if you listen to Ross Rosenberg’s YouTube shows then u know how this book should sound and be read.

Idk how this guy is reading this but his style is all wrong for this book. I hope at some future date Ross Rosenberg does the narration that way I don’t have to rewind it like 10 times per paragraph to get the information out before my mind tunes him out. Seriously horrible narration. He might be good at other books but not this one!

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  • Natalie
  • 04-03-2020

Excellent book for cluster b magnets

I was looking for something specifically geared towards the victims of NPD/ BPD/ ASPD abuse that provides a timeline to move away from those types of people and steps to love oneself. I wish Ross was the reader because I listen to a lot of his YouTube videos so it was odd to have someone else’s voice, but I got a lot out of this book. I’m going to listen to Boundaries next, as strong boundaries are the key to removing these people from my life. I like that Ross wrote this from his own experience. Many therapists don’t understand or believe me when I tell them I’ve fallen for a NPD, BPD and ASPD. With this knowledge and some faith in myself starting to grow, I know I will overcome this cycle. Highly recommend to anyone wishing to stop dancing with narcissists and ready for reciprocal, respectful love.

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  • Judy patoody
  • 03-08-2019

Poorly written

Although his premises are valid this is s a disjointed poorly written book. There is redundancy, inaccurate chapter headings and much more than you care to hear about his journey into publishing. At one point I just couldn’t imagine continuing to listen to this. I love his YouTube presentations but this tries your patience.

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  • AbelAbelAbel
  • 08-12-2020

GREAT despite being corny and self-referrential

Don't let the goofy narration, and corny writing detract you. The point being made is an important one. All roads lead to feeling not good enough, not being able to cope, or feeling unlovable. Using the idea of Self Love Deficiency to reframe codependancy and toxic people is a mini-revelation.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 29-09-2018

Great but not what I expected.

The most helpful material I could find. It lacks the detailed instructions of how to go through the ten steps of recovery. I waited the whole book to get it but it was so brief. I still benefitted so much. Thank you Ross.

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  • Simba
  • 12-09-2018

Loved it!

Super helpful and informative. In the middle gets a little dry with all the acronyms but excellent book! Will get his other and the new one next year!

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  • Kindle Customer
  • 06-02-2021

Life is humbling.

I also being a published author ask why is there no reference to GOD allowing bad things to happen to good people to learn. Because learning is the reason for our existence. We are to be humbled and walk through "our" life "Present & Connected", NOT unconscious.
I do appreciate all the labels "significance" placed on the evil & victim humans, so we may recognize at a quicker pace when they present themselves, thank you.

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  • Ian Nathan
  • 09-09-2020

Effective, potent, dry

The Human Magnet Syndrome gives a great foundation for what codependency actually is and the tricky patterns it leads to. I would highly recommend this book to anyone who thinks they might be codependent or is curious what codependency is.

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  • Charles Gleason
  • 01-09-2020

OUCH!! It hurt like heck, but I feel much better!

This is a well done presentation of the subject matter. If you think you might have these issues, you should read or listen to this book. It will help you confront and root out your core beliefs that have caused and contributed to your plight and affliction. It's worth the pain. I promise, as one so afflicted to another.

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  • T. Skippings
  • 12-08-2018

Expected more

Although this book brilliantly presents codepency and narcissism, (which can also be found with a proper Google Search) it does not provide a solution, instead, it directs the reader to another of the author's books which hasn't been written yet.

In my opinion, if you are looking for guidance on how to go about healing yourself (in the event that therapy isn't financially affordable) and get away from your abuser, this is the wrong book.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 22-06-2021

A much needed read/listen

Highly recommended if you're serious about making sense of your repeating dysfunctional relationship patterns. This book has been enlightening for me. Good luck on your journey to self-love deficit disorder syndrome recovery x

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  • lorraine g.
  • 17-05-2021

Condecention from a Narcissistic author - avoid!

Could not finish it and please don't waste your time, you will only feel re_abused as he loves the sound of his own voice. That is the only well-judged part of this book - the smug narrator's tone matches exactly the self-satisfied theme of this pean to his own "achievements". Sickening really..

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  • Miss J.
  • 22-01-2021

Wow just wow.

This book! I’ve eaten it up! In a week. Re-read a few chapters! Just to be sure...
So incredibly useful and hopeful and I cannot wait to read Ross’ next book!
Magical work! <3 :)
It’s so important to me and my journey to loving myself.
Incredibly grateful this book came to fruition :)

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  • Pablo
  • 09-03-2020

Very good

Very good and relevant information. It is however a bit repetitive and I would have appreciated a bit more practical information on how to apply the principles explained.

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  • Sebastian Meiser
  • 01-11-2019

I'm not impressed

The book discusses codependency and narcissism. Although the author starts by explaining and advertising in excruciating detail how helpful the book is supposed to be and how interesting and new these perspectives are, quite a lot of it is repetitive and not particularly interesting. The author starts with the provocative hypothesis that both disorders are to blame equally and claims to dissect and explain why and how... before just painting one of the disorders (narcissism) in the bleakest and most devilish colors, while portraying the other (codependency) as producing helpless victims.

There are a few anecdotes, a lot of cringy family history from which no real lessons are drawn and lots of repetitive, unexplained allegations as to how narcissistic people pull the strings of codependent people. The world, however, isn't divided into just these two extremes and I have met very toxic people that partially filled both roles at once. The author so far hasn't even acknowledged the possibility of any grey areas: There's just narcissist and their codependent victims and they are drawn to each other with by the magnet syndrome.

Not only is the book extremely repetitive, it spends much more time trying to sell why it's allegedly awesome than really providing insights. One bad metaphor chases the other: love is like magnets; and gravity; and a dance; and light waves; and a play with people on costumes; and a simple math equation, etc. ... none of these bring any real insights; they are just used to again and again and again provide the same examples of very similar people doing the same things.

In some parts this sounds more like a preacher trying to repeat unfounded beliefs in the hope that any statement, repeated often enough, makes a truth.

While the narrator has a pleasant and nice voice and his pronunciation is very clear, I don't particularly like the way he is emphasizing pretty much every sentence. I'd have preferred a less intense and more balanced voice.

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  • Stop the lights
  • 08-03-2019

Jts OK

OK it's a bit me me me. The author obviously has over done self love bit

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  • A. McArthur
  • 06-11-2018

great content, hammy narrator (why????)

beat author for codependency issues I've found, I just really wish the author had narrated, as the voice artist was overdoing the sentiment, which detracted from the content. shame, but still. ... great content

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 20-07-2018

unreadable .

Toss totally disregard or ( don't care ) readers by putting all those terms. I find Ross a bit self centred.

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