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The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting

Raising Children with Courage, Compassion, and Connection
Narrated by: Brené Brown PhD
Length: 2 hrs and 6 mins
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Publisher's Summary

We all know that perfect parenting does not exist, yet we still struggle with the social expectations that teach us that being imperfect is synonymous with being inadequate. These messages are powerful and we end up spending precious time and energy managing perception and the carefully edited versions of the families we show to the world. On The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting, Dr. Brené Brown invites us on a journey to transform the lives of parents and children alike. Drawing on her 12 years of research on vulnerability, courage, worthiness, and shame, she presents ten guideposts to creating what she describes as "wholehearted" families where each of us can continually learn and grow as we reach our full potential.

"It's actually our ability to embrace imperfection that will help us teach our children to have the courage to be authentic, the compassion to love themselves and others, and the sense of connection that gives true purpose and meaning to life," states Dr. Brown. The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting is a practical and hopeful program for raising children who know that they are worthy of love, belonging, and joy.

©2013 Brené Brown (P)2013 Brené Brown

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I loved this.

I'm very much a story person, so really I appreciated, and resonated with the many real life examples that Brené shared.

I'm very sad that the book ended- I finished it in a day! this was probbaly very surprising for me as I'm not a reader- I have little time with 3 kids, homeschooling, and studying a masters degree... So one might imagine that doesn't give me much free time left to sit and read, but a great, captivating audio recording means that I was able to listen while preparing meals & while driving instead of listening to the radio.

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So clear and articulate. ..

Loved it. .. have now downloaded two more of hers. Such compassionate insight, and no unnecessary fluff.

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Loved this!

Loved this book!

Such engaging and easy listening. I love all the personal stories woven throughout, made the concepts relatable and easy to understand.

Just wish it were longer, didn’t want it to finish!

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FANTASTIC!!

Brené Brown has a terrific style of engagement which complements her intelligence and sensitivity and compassion. She speaks from experience and not from an ivory tower.
Thanks!!

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Transformative 3 plus hours of content

Loved it, devoured it! This is such a transformative approach to parenting, it gave me the strength to bring forth my vulnerabilities and sit with them!

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Great guidances and insightful tips on parenting

One of the best parenting tips I have received! Strongly recommended to all the parents regardless if you are struggling or not with your kids.

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Grateful parent

I am a dad and a psychologist so I’ve done my fair share of reading parenting books (for my research with clients, I tell myself, but in the spirit of vulnerability - because I feel like I’m failing a lot of the time. 😉). This book has captured the spirit of what I believe is good enough parenting and I am now a groupie (ok I’ll admit I’ve been a groupie of Berne’s for a long time 😂). Go for it - it’s a life changer!

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Imperfect parent right here

Parenting is such a difficult topic to grasp. Thank you for acknowledging that parenting is an imperfect art. This book provides practical tools to show how we as adults can grow, along with our kids, to become the best that we can be. The message that impacted me the most is that family is sacred - the time we spend with our children to nurture them is precious.

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Every parent should listen to this

Have listened to this several times and always learn something new. Parenting is hard but this makes it a little bit easier to understand.

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A great audio book. Some great advise for me and my partner as parents with our daughter starting primary school next year.

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  • Filazafer
  • 06-06-2015

A very good refresher, but not her best book.

Brene Brown truly changed my life. I will buy everything she does without regrets. This is not really a book, but more of a spoken word recording. It is good, but you will get so much more out of her audible book called "The Power Of Vulnerability." That is her masterpiece and it will explain the ideas presented in this book in much greater detail. This is more of a refresher and goes in more depth about how the ideas apply to parenting. like I said before this is a spoken word talk and she is an excellent speaker. And when I say excellent I mean maybe the best I've ever heard. She is very engaging and easy to understand. But, it's not just some touchy-feely junk like some reviewers have stated. Her ideas are backed with real research that she conducted herself. Like I said before she changed my life and I now understand what I need to do to make positive changes in relationships and parenting. This book is good, but it's not the best starting point.

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  • 06-06-2016

Fabulous!

I am a new grandmother and so wish I had heard this teaching by Brene Brown on whole-hearted parenting! But I am sure it is never too late!

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  • Kindle Customer
  • 05-10-2013

You will add dimension to your parenting skills!

What did you like best about this story?

Since Brene Brown took TEDtalks by storm, I've been following her work. I believe this is a "game-changer" for lack of a better term. We can all improve continuously, and Brene's ten guideposts are to the heart and readily accomplished. I changed my communication immediately and I thought I was pretty aware of the top parenting skills. I learned! A must listen... a "hallpass" to have made mistakes and turn relationships around without shame.

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  • Tracy. B.
  • 06-08-2015

I would recommend this book

If you could sum up The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting in three words, what would they be?

Definitely worth reading!

What was one of the most memorable moments of The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting?

There was a story in this book where Brene Brown talked about how she spoke with her daughter about how her daughter felt like she was an "other" at school, and Brene communicated that she knew how her daughter felt and that she wasn't alone and it was OK to feel that way. I was able to use some of those strategies with my own 5 year old. It was incredible how well it worked! I will continue to use this way of communicating to allow my kids to be OK with expressing their feelings in a comfortable, empathetic, and non-judgmental environment.

What about Brené Brown’s performance did you like?

Everything. She's one of my all time favorite researchers and I thoroughly enjoy the work that she does. It's just so easy to listen to her. Her tone of voice and the way she tells stories makes you feel like she speaking right to you.

If you were to make a film of this book, what would the tag line be?

How to get your children to finally be OK with expressing their feelings without judgement.

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  • Timothy
  • 09-03-2015

good stuff all the way through

enjoyed the conversational way it was presented. well worth the listen. have a good day.

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  • S.K.
  • 15-07-2014

Brene is brilliant

Would you consider the audio edition of The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting to be better than the print version?

N/a

What did you like best about this story?

I love everything about it. I love how approachable it is, how naturally she speaks, the personal stories she shares that really help to give context to the lessons. It's all just beautiful.

What does Brené Brown bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

I don't have time to sit down and read with a new baby (10 month old) while trying to work, fit in time for the gym, my creative hobbies, and of course family time. I don't believe I would have liked it as much if somebody else narrated. It's her life. Her stories. She speaks from the heart.

What insight do you think you’ll apply from The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting?

As much of everything that I can. I intend on referencing it several times over the years.

Any additional comments?

I hope Brene has more of these to purchase in the future. I'm a huge fan....xo

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 01-06-2016

very good book

Great information. Must read for all parents. it gives you a sense of direction in parenting. I loved the real life examples used by the author to make a point. Very good narration. Hope there are more on this topic by this author.

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  • April Waters
  • 26-07-2015

Awesome Parenting Tool

I will read this again and again because it is full of awesome advice and helpful tips on succeeding as a parent!

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  • stacie ibuki
  • 01-03-2015

Exactly the things I needed to hear

I've been looking for ways to deal with some challenges my family has been having. She gave me insights and tools for those and more. I'm buying and sending this to no less than 5 friends and recommending it to many more!!!!

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  • Imia H.
  • 23-12-2018

on modeling, not telling your kids how.

real tips on parenting, but not How To. Authenticity and openness to modeling for children how to be authentic problem solvers. But taking time to play and set limits? Quite the juggling act. But Bb is a great encourager. Short but great and researched guidance.

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  • Miss A Bodo
  • 16-06-2018

Game Changing

The Profound highlight for me was the difference between Shame & Guilt.
The other “guideposts” were also highly valuable. Plus to be reassured that you cannot raise your children to be better than you are. That you Can and Must work on yourself also whilst raising them. To be as good as you want to raise them. And that that’s OK. Empowering.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 11-06-2018

great wanted more

loved it. only issue was that i wanted it to go on for longer! charming, insightful &gave some practical examples.giving life experiences made it relevent but it could have had even more suggestions outside of her life too to illustrate her points more....that's because i love her insights.thanks Brene

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  • Maria
  • 25-01-2014

Great stories, great advice.

What made the experience of listening to The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting the most enjoyable?

I admire the author's work, and find her stories touching and very helpful in every day life. This book has really made me reflect on my life as a parent.Another point is that this book doesn't sound like other audiobooks which are being read, she sounds like she's talking to you, you can hear her laugh and you can feel that she truly believes what she's talking about.Can't wait to read another book from Brene Brown.

What did you like best about this story?

Her examples of her own life are funny and real.

What about Brené Brown’s performance did you like?

Her voice is so easy to listen to.

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  • sangeeta
  • 03-12-2018

Hits the nail on the head again!

I didn't want it to end. Love BBs reading style, anecdotes, guideposts. Want to implement!

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  • 匿名
  • 23-07-2018

short and sweet

powerful points and nice stories. wish there was more stories and anecdotes. and tips. Also wish she would indicate whether or not her research accounted for cultural differences of families.

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  • 匿名
  • 06-06-2019

FABULOUS read!

loved this book.and will definitely listen to it again.
Brene stories are beautiful and kind of stick to your mind in the most wonderful way possible.I am glad I live in the time that people like Brene are living.

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  • Magical Mum
  • 14-05-2019

must read/listen for parents

Brene Brown's book is inspirational with enough debt to make you properly think (and feel). It is lovingly written and performed. Thank you

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  • Sallyanne McCrory
  • 24-04-2019

Best patenting book ever

Absolutely loved it and have taken so much from it. 6 years into my parenting journey with three children and this is just what I needed x

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  • V. A. Rodger
  • 05-11-2018

enlightened

Great little audio book, with helpful anecdotes we can all relate to. Lots of parenting tips.

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  • Helena
  • 20-10-2018

Love this

Got to say, this is one of the only books that didn't make me feel like I was trying too late to make myself a better parent for my kids. not only that, it made complete sense to me about how the things we say and in particular, the way we say it, make the difference.