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Polysecure
- Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
- Narrated by: Jessica Fern, Eve Rickert, Nora Samaran
- Length: 7 hrs and 52 mins
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Publisher's Summary
Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if, like many people, you’re striving for secure, happy attachments with more than one partner?
Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of consensual nonmonogamy. Using her nested model of attachment and trauma, she expands our understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships. Then, she sets out six specific strategies to help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships.
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- Anonymous User
- 06-02-2023
Definitely worth it! Will be a repeat listen!
Great book with a lot of useful attachment information - even if you are not exploring polyamory, worth listening to! Book provides good relationship advice and things to ponder!
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- angie
- 18-10-2022
Absolutely wonderful!
A thoroughly researched, thoughtful, compassionate and inspiring book. I've learned so much and have now ordered her HEARTS workbook to dive even deeper! Thank you Jessica 😊
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- Philip Bateman - Bravo Charlie
- 04-08-2021
A book on how to have amazing communication with a partner, whether that be one or more
I’ve been slowly winding through Polysecure / Jessica Fern over the past months, the first part on her extension to attachment theory was great, though it wasn’t till I’ve got near the end and heard her speak on Secure Attachment figures, that it’s really blown my mind open.
It includes having a conversation with someone about whether they want to be one, the ways to assess if someone is available for that irrespective of what they say, and how important clarity in this area is.
As a relatively serial monogamist it’s been hugely insightful to me to realise all the ways I took for granted, and was implicitly and unconsciously checking if I could be securely attached to another, the ways this would manifest in my relationships, and that I wasn't checking with people if they were up for this from day 1.
Amazing stuff, I’d highly recommend the listen, it’s more generally a book on how to have amazing communication with a partner, whether that be one or more.
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- Tempest
- 17-08-2021
life-changing experience
I'm a 32-year-old man with diagnosed PTSD from their abusive parents as a child. I also suffer from ADHD.
My ADHD brain has always prevented me from being an ideal partner in a monogamous relationship. Polyamory has always been a practice that I have always to try but with no success due to insecurity and jealousy
the work of art that is Polysecure has shifted my entire perspective on my partner, our relationship, monogamy and myself. it has encouraged me to think of myself more and stop trying to find happiness in others.
Previously I tried to find security in the type of relationship I had with someone rather than seeking security in the love that we share.
Polysecure has opened my eyes to the possibility of sustainable and consentual non-monogamy.
Thank you so much for this experience. I will recommend this book.to as many people as I can.
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- Anonymous User
- 31-01-2022
Useful analysis of attachment theory,
I enjoyed this audiobook because the attachment theory detail was well laid out. Even though the narrative was linked to Polyamory, the attachment theory material is still useful for monogamous people and the wider story is informative.
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- Jasmination7
- 13-07-2022
Wow.
I picked this book up as my long term partner and I opened our relationship and right now we’re going through the most difficult time we’ve faced, individually and collectively. To have the foundation of attachment theory, intersecting with trauma and how that relates to cnm has expanded my heart and mind. Whatever happens I know the work is about coming home to myself — and loving myself and my partner through it all. Jessica, thank you so much. Love 💛💛💛
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- Anonymous User
- 02-06-2022
Just amazing! Absolute must if you are considering or find yourself in polyamory.
So insightful and has met me in a place where I really needed to hear what was said! I saw myself in these pages many times and this has given me a language to define what’s happening or happened and why things are sometimes they way they are. I also love how inclusive this is to all relationship styles.
Well done Jessica!! 🤗
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- Anonymous User
- 12-12-2022
Very good introduction to attachment theory and polyamory
The book was very easy to digest and laid out in a way that was easy to understand and take in all of the points made. I only wish I had a hard copy of the book to see the visuals included.
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- Amazon Customer
- 26-06-2021
Fantastic Ressource
I learnt so much about relating in general in this book that it will be a constant Ressource for me from now on to navigate my journey from monogamy to polyamory. It truely changed my life by helping me to get more awareness about myself and how to navigate what I was yearning for my whole life.
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- Forté Worthy
- 19-12-2023
Inspired toward security
Super clear roadmap to secure attachment for mono or poly relationships. I will listen again and take detailed notes.
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