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Everyone wants to be loved - to find someone who will stick with them through all of life's ups and downs, someone who is in it for the long haul. But in a world where dating is increasingly based on split-second decisions and geared toward casual relationships rather than marriage, it's easy for single people to feel discouraged, used, or unworthy of true love and lasting affection. Reality just never seems to match up with our (often wildly unrealistic) expectations.

Jonathan "JP" Pokluda has counseled thousands of young singles through the pain and heartbreak of dating the world's way. Now he wants to dispel the myths, misconceptions, and fairy tales you've believed about dating and replace them with the truth from the One who invented marriage, created you to crave relationship, and is the very embodiment of true love. With plenty of true stories about relationships healed and love found, this practical book explains God's purposes for singleness, dating, and marriage and covers why you should date, who you should date, and how you should date. 

If you're ready to trade the world's way of dating for the way that actually works, it's time to begin dating well.

©2021 Jonathan Pokluda (P)2021 eChristian

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  • CC
  • 10-03-2021

Well good info but man ear fatigue is real.

Listened to this book over a few days. Performance wasn’t that great. Stressed me out. I wanted to tell him take a breath, change your pitch. Content is good information though. Performance is lacking quite a bit.

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  • MDM
  • 03-05-2021

Want to know how to really date this is the book

I love he can make things simple, step by step backing up with scripture and explaining why it is best to things that way instead of what the major of dating is out there. This book was so great I brought a hard copy and will do the beak downs of the each character and study with my church group

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  • Abby Gundersen
  • 30-04-2021

In a rut in my relationship

This book helped me see my relationship rut in a new light & gave me the Godly perspective on dating I was missing to get out of that rut. 100% recommend. Easy listen

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  • Rebecca Early
  • 27-04-2021

Best Advice Ever!!!

I wish this was written 10 years earlier! Probably would have saved myself a lot of unnecessary stress and anxiety! Great advice on how to flourish while you’re single and find a Godly mate! This gets a 12/10! Thank you JP!

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  • Andrea
  • 02-04-2021

Finally A Great Christian Dating Book!

As a Christian leader in my church, this book really goes through a lot of the ins and outs about dating without sounding like commands.I will definitely share this with our church youth group for them to read. Often teens/young adults hear about dating throughout their life from their parents but they get more of a rule book versus actual guidance and teachings. I loved the relatable stories JP puts in this book and how he also used the bible. This book is easy to understand and answers pretty much every questions that Christians in the dating world could ask while also adding an explanation for the answers he gives with bible backing. THANKS JP FOR WRITING THIS BOOK!

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  • txrx
  • 30-03-2021

A MUST READ

this book is amazing and I would recommend it to anyone. it covers a lot of controversial topics but makes them easy to understand based in the teachings in the bible.

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  • A. Le
  • 23-03-2021

Great content!

I would recommend this book to anyone dating—especially if they are seriously dating. This book goes into great detail on how to date well up and including how to continually grow in relationship if one becomes married. This book has helped me a lot.

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  • Payton Christopher
  • 18-03-2021

Single ready to mingle? Read this book first!

Christian dating is always a touchy subject because God's word doesn't outline what dating is... but God's word does outline how we are to pursue one another, how we are to develop and grow our relationship with him, and how we are to conduct ourselves within marriage. That being said, JP does a great job of pointing the reader back to what God says.

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  • Kari
  • 13-03-2021

The BEST dating book...

...I’ve read so far in my life.

I loved the audible version being read by JP himself. It made it even more authentic. That aside this book is SO clear. Black and white about dating. It’s like if you read this and mess up after it’s on you because he spells it out. So biblical, humorous and straight forward. The message of dating that leads to marriage that leads to family and it being the starting point of changing everything wrong in this world is right one.

The only thing at times I wished was that it applied to divorced singles as well. Sometimes you learn to date at 18 and sometimes you learn to date at 40 after a long term marriage ends. It’s just as applicable to me as a college student or high schooler. I highly recommend it. I will have my own daughters read it when they are ready.

Thank you for this gift. It should be studied in every church in America for anyone who is dating or plans to date! It’s THAT GOOD!!!

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  • Chloe
  • 09-03-2021

Dating Essential!

I really appreciated how obvious it is that the book's conclusions come from Scripture. This has changed my perspective and attitude about dating and relationships, and I'm never looking back.

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