Real change doesn’t happen all at once, It’s built through quiet, repeated choices most people never notice. In this episode, Jay challenges the idea that transformation requires motivation or perfect timing, revealing instead that lasting change is created through systems, structure, and intentional design. He explains why most people stay stuck year after year, not because they lack discipline or talent, but because they rely on hope when what they need is strategy.

Jay walks us through a practical blueprint for lasting transformation, beginning with reshaping your environment so the right habits become your default. From upgrading your identity to mastering one skill that can reshape your confidence, career, and self-belief, he shows how small improvements compound over time. Drawing on psychology, neuroscience, and real human stories, Jay reframes success as consistency over perfection, choosing discipline when motivation fades and stepping into who you’re meant to become.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Change Your Life by Redesigning Your Environment

How to Make Good Habits Your Default

How to Use Fear as a Signal to Take Action

How to Break Big Goals Into Four Powerful Seasons

How to Transform Your Life by Serving Others

This year isn’t about becoming someone else, it’s about becoming more of who you already are, with better systems, healthier boundaries, and stronger habits to support you. Progress won’t be linear, and that’s okay. What matters is staying committed to the direction, not the speed. Every effort counts, even the ones no one sees.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

00:41 How to Change Your Life in One Year

03:29 #1: Start With Redesigning Your System

06:35 #2: The Four Seasons of Growth

08:57 #3: Fix the Relationships that Matter

11:50 #4: Fear Grows the Longer You Avoid It

14:48 #5: The Power of Service

17:58 Give Yourself a Year to Make a Difference

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Jay is joined on stage at Boston’s Wang Theatre by his longtime friend Mel Robbins, in front of a packed live audience. Their shared history allows them to speak openly and honestly about the pressure to be liked, the fear of being misunderstood, and how easily we lose ourselves trying to meet other people’s expectations. Mel’s superpower is her ability to choose herself in moments when giving up or staying small feels safer.

Mel shares the hard truths she’s learned about self-criticism, people-pleasing, and why waiting to feel “ready” keeps us stuck. Jay reflects on how constantly judging and fixing ourselves pulls us away from our inner life, and why real growth starts with awareness and self-respect. Mel also talks about how many of her biggest changes came from desperation, not confidence, and Jay reframes jealousy, fear, and failure as signs that something meaningful is trying to emerge.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Stop Letting Other People’s Opinions Run Your Life

How to Quiet Your Inner Critic When Stress Takes Over

How to Unlearn the Self-Criticism You Were Taught Growing Up

How to Stop Waiting to Feel “Ready” to Start Living Your Life

How to Break the Habit of People-Pleasing Without Guilt

How to Use Jealousy as a Clue Instead of a Curse

How to Keep Going When Desperation, Not Confidence, Is Driving You

Life doesn’t change all at once. It changes when you choose to speak to yourself with kindness, honor your needs, and take the next step even when you’re afraid.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

00:17 What Do We Really Worry About Most?

02:12 How to Quiet the Inner Critic

15:50 Stop Obsessing Over the Physical

18:17 How People-Pleasing Is Actually a Form of Control

25:02 Start Listening to Your Own Needs

29:54 Finding the Strength to Let Go and Move Forward

41:15 Is it a Vibe or Not a Vibe?

46:18 Creating Safety by Letting Go of Judgment

50:04 The Power of Outlasting Yourself

58:50 Making Space for Hurt While Choosing Compassion

01:05:14 Turning What You Love Into a Business

Episode Resources:

Website | https://www.melrobbins.com/

Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/

YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/c/melrobbins

TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@melrobbins

The Mel Robbins Podcast

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Matthew McConaughey didn’t build his life by trying to control every outcome. He built it by learning when to let go and when to trust.

Today, Jay sits down with Matthew for a raw, unfiltered exploration of purpose, faith, discipline, and what it really means to live well. It’s an honest conversation about the moments that shape us, and the choices that quietly define who we become. Together, they move through certainty and surrender, ambition and presence, effort and trust.

Matthew opens up about his lifelong relationship with achievement and his growing desire to create space for stillness, daydreaming, and reflection. He shares how writing became a way to strip away filters and speak more directly to his truth, and how fatherhood reshaped his understanding of responsibility, humility, and love. Jay and Matthew explore failure as a sign of growth, and how disappointment when met with self-awareness, can teach rather than define us. Together they reveal a powerful insight: growth doesn’t come from trying to perfect ourselves, but from learning how to stay present, curious, and grounded through every season of life.

Matthew reflects on the balance between taking responsibility and letting go, between striving for excellence and accepting imperfection. He shares why he believes the world is conspiring to make us happy, not through ease, but through meaning, effort, and alignment.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Trust Life Without Losing Control

How to Redefine Success Beyond Achievement

How to Learn From Failure Without Shame

How to Build Trust Before You Need It

How to Stay Present Without Chasing Perfection

How to Strengthen Love Through Daily Intention

How to Find Meaning When Answers Aren’t Clear

Life isn’t asking you to be perfect, it’s asking you to be present. To stay curious. To keep learning. To choose courage over comfort and intention over autopilot. No matter where you are right now, progress is still possible, meaning is still available, and your next step matters.

Explore Matthew McConaughey’s reflections on faith, belief, and the human experience in his book Poems & Prayers: http://poemsprayers.com/

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:16 The Drive for Purpose and Accomplishment

04:23 Living With a Beginner’s Mind

07:20 What Chapter of Life Are You In Right Now?

13:21 Why You’re Exactly Where You Need to Be

16:25 How Your View of Success Shapes Failure

20:39 Humility Means Being Honest With Yourself

23:15 The Power of Consequences

25:47 You Just Need to Take One Step at a Time

30:49 Staying Grounded in Faith Through Real Life Experiences

34:37 Ways to Strengthen Your Spiritual Practice

45:29 What is Truly Fascinating About Being Human?

50:45 Are We Expecting Too Much From Others?

58:57 Where Do You Seek Validation?

01:01:56 Learning to Trust Without Losing Control

01:08:28 When Everything Matters, Nothing Does

01:13:24 A More Realistic Way to Think About Love

01:24:14 Understanding Both Sides of Consequence

01:27:49 Matthew on Final Five

Episode Resources:

Poems & Prayers | http://poemsprayers.com/

Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/officiallymcconaughey/

YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChH3PVceKAMkFXHza0PlX_Q

X | https://x.com/McConaughey

Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/MatthewMcConaughey/

TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@officiallymcconaughey_m

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