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Publisher's Summary

At some point every one of us embarks on a journey to find love. We meet people, date, get into and out of relationships, all with the hope of finding someone with whom we share a deep connection. This seems standard now, but it's wildly different from what people did even just decades ago. Single people today have more romantic options than at any point in human history. With technology, our abilities to connect with and sort through these options are staggering. So why are so many people frustrated?

Some of our problems are unique to our time."Why did this guy just text me an emoji of a pizza?" "Should I go out with this girl even though she listed Combos as one of her favorite snack foods? Combos?!" "My girlfriend just got a message from some dude named Nathan. Who's Nathan? Did he just send her a photo of his penis? Should I check just to be sure?"

But the transformation of our romantic lives can't be explained by technology alone. In a short period of time, the whole culture of finding love has changed dramatically. A few decades ago, people would find a decent person who lived in their neighbourhood. Their families would meet and, after deciding neither party seemed like a murderer, they would get married and soon have a kid, all by the time they were 24. Today people marry later than ever and spend years of their lives on a quest to find the perfect person, a soul mate.

For years Aziz Ansari has been aiming his comic insight at modern romance, but for Modern Romance the book, he decided he needed to take things to another level. He teamed up with NYU sociologist Eric Klinenberg and designed a massive research project, including hundreds of interviews and focus groups conducted everywhere from Tokyo to Buenos Aires to Wichita. They analysed behavioural data and surveys and created their own online research forum on Reddit, which drew thousands of messages. They enlisted the world's leading social scientists, including Eli Finkel, Helen Fisher, Sheena Iyengar, Barry Schwartz, Sherry Turkle, and Robb Willer. The result is unlike any social science or humour book we've seen before.

In Modern Romance, Ansari combines his irreverent humour with cutting-edge social science to give us an unforgettable tour of our new romantic world.

©2015 Aziz Ansari (P)2015 Penguin Books Limited

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Aziz as you'd expect

This book was forwarded to me by a friend as a gift. I'd seen some of Aziz on Netflix as well as listening to some on Spotify. I, being a relatively successful middle class single male really get a lot out of this dude. My friend I think feels I need to move into the dating scene a bit more seriously. Not that I can't get dates, just that I don't really try, or am quite happily occupied with what already goes on around me. After listening to this though I believe I probably avoid dating which is sad. I'm awesome and have a lot to offer. Aziz's book Modern Romance is very well researched and takes a look at modern and historical dating from a variety of cultures. The biggest thing I got out of it is not to expect to have met the perfect chick on the first or second date, but that like with anything, perfection takes time and that is the same with people. Meet them 5 or 6 or 10 times before moving on. Or not moving on. I know this sounds simple, and it's something I've known. But it was good to hear it from someone as cool as Aziz.

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Refreshing, entertaining and funny.

Having Aziz read and commentate the book gave it that extra level of authenticity. I found this book to be insightful, entertaining and fun. I'd highly recommend it to anyone born mid 80s to mid 90s. This is exactly what we need in the age of technological advancement and cultural shifts. Well done Aziz.

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Excellent story that is both informative and funny

Where does Modern Romance rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

This is the first audio book I have bought and listened to. I was so pleased with the purchase that it is going to be difficult for other books to compete. Lots of information that I believe young and mature audiences can relate to. The fact that Aziz is narrating the story makes some of the facts and stories even funnier. Highly recommend. 10/10 would do again

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Aziz is hilarious

So refreshing to read a celeb book about something other than themselves. This was interesting, relevant and hilarious. Highly recommend the audio book.

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Like listening to Aziz stand up for hours

This was an excellent book, Aziz is a talented guy - I actually read this awhile ago but always recommend it to people so I thought i’d leave a review. I’d definitely read this again. Very thought provoking and was an excellent conversation starter at parties.

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Why is he calling his listener's lazy piece of sh

why is he calling his listeners lazy piece of shit.
What an idiot, that's not a nice thing to do.
The book itself is interesting so far, I am about one hour in

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So funny & interesting

Aziz should do this full time. AMAZING 😊💕 very interesting and easy to listen to

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  • Cindy
  • Burleigh Waters, Australia
  • 16-04-2018

Don't waste your money

What would have made Modern Romance better?

Springing for a professional voice artist! The author's voice screeching in my ear set my teeth on edge. He clearly thinks he's funny, and very well my be doing live comedy, but it definitely did NOT translate to this medium.

What will your next listen be?

Not sure.

How did the narrator detract from the book?

Screeching, loud, obnoxious voice.

If you could play editor, what scene or scenes would you have cut from Modern Romance?

I would have require the author to make a point at the end. He just seemed to meander around through aspects of modern romance versus older style of romance, but failed to make a point that made it worth suffering through hours of him screaming in your ear.

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Recommend read and a MUST listen!

If you’ve seen his TV show Master of None, like some of his stand up and generally are alive in modern times wondering wtf is going on like the rest of us, then click and play.

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Aziz is hilarious and insightful

Informative and interesting but the best thing was all the random voices and thoughts Aziz drops in. So funny. Looking forward to his next book

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 23-07-2017

Incredible.

This should be mandatory reading / listening for anyone struggling with today's climate for romance. This reading, in particular, feels like it's the right way to appreciate the subject matter, Aziz being as hilarious as he is.

10/10 would swipe right.

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  • Abhishek Anand
  • 29-06-2017

Aziz Ansari

This was a great pick as a first audio book. Aziz's ensures that he keeps u entertained throughout with his funny voices. Doubt if the paperback wud be worth the read though.

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  • MasterReader
  • 18-05-2016

Interesting ideas and research.

Would you consider the audio edition of Modern Romance to be better than the print version?

The author narrates the book which makes it a whole lot funnier. Considering he's a stand up comedian. He also adds a few jokes here and there as an extra.

What did you like best about this story?

The ideas and research presented in this book are quite interesting. Like, he talks about relationships and marriage in specific periods, like the 30s, 60s, 80s, 90s. Gives a lot of contrasts compared to modern life. He also talks about dating culture indifferent countries, like Japan and Argentina and the different attitudes of people there. Makes you think about different perspectives and points of view.

Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

I laughed a lot by the author's jokes, and the facts presented here did give me some serious forethought.

Any additional comments?

I'd highly recommend this as something funny and interesting. If the topic is something that you want to know more about, then definitely give this Audiobook a listen. It really makes you think about modern dating.

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  • SAMER G.
  • 26-01-2016

Great reading by Aziz, but expected deeper content

Would you consider the audio edition of Modern Romance to be better than the print version?

Yes, love Aziz reading, so much fun.

What was the most interesting aspect of this story? The least interesting?

They did a research to write the book, great job, so much interesting facts, especially the first chapter.

The least interesting is too much time describing how romance are built today, as we didn't know the dynamics. So it gets a bit boring in this way. Expected more of the first chapter rich content.

What about Aziz Ansari’s performance did you like?

Great job!

Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

No.

Any additional comments?

No.

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  • Ru
  • 23-12-2015

Loved it!

Loved it. I caught myself laughing out loud many times. Buy it! Interesting topic with hilarious stories and examples.

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  • Howard
  • 17-02-2017

Funny performance of a rather unenlightening book

Not sure what I was expecting from this book but I didn't really learn much apart from a whole bunch of obvious stuff that you would have known already if you're watching how people of different ages behave around this topic. Younger generations treat each other with less respect, technology devalues individual interactions, online dating increasing choice but also at the expense of quality, etc. It's all pretty predictable stuff. Probably the most interesting chapter was about non-monogamous relationship types, but this didn't go into a whole lot of depth. In fact in a six hour long book, there wasn't really much time to go into depth on any of these topic. It feels like a quick surface survey rather than a full investigation.

It's amusing in places and well performed, but afterwards I didn't really feel I'd got my money's worth.

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  • Mr Kipling
  • 19-12-2016

A lighthearted take on the romantic modern scene

An overall good book, although not as enlightening for the younger reader. As a 22 year old I found a significant portion of it to be stuff I already knew.
The humour, although occasionally hit and miss is generally good, especially if you're an existing fan of Aziz Ansari.
The reading of the book is fairly good, although he has a habit of reading quickly, and can sound a little monotonous at times. I didn't notice this often enough to disrupt my enjoyment of the book however.

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  • Des0
  • 27-05-2018

Well throughout and presented hypothesis

I thought the issues raised in this book are interesting in terms of relationships. It is still quite comforting to know that very ordinary issues within the dating world are just as relevant with the inclusion of technology, in some cases more so. The ending I thought was good as it didn't give a bleak outlook for the future of the dating world but instead asked the reader to be less cavalier about them and take the time respect each of their relationships

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  • Ms B. Fonay
  • 25-04-2018

fun, informative

I have been fascinated over the years with relationships - how they work, how they don't, and how they have developed. This book has research to hold it up, yet still very light for easy reading. I will continue my own research, but i certainly had great fun listening to Aziz.
Ps if you read it instead of listening, oh boy you are missing out! Aziz is totally nuts in all the good ways

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  • Kamal
  • 13-09-2017

Great subject matter expertly delivered.

I bought this book as a recommendation and really enjoyed it.
The subject matter is super relevant and the deliver by Aziz Ansari is absolutely brilliant.

If you want to understand Morden day communication in general, then this is a book I cannot recommend enough.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 10-07-2017

Surprisingly humorous and insightful

Quite simply this won't tell you how to be amazing in the current dating, but it will show you where you are going wrong by putting you in the outside perspective and amusing you along the way.
10/10 would recommend.

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  • Kayleigh Wheatley
  • 10-05-2017

Good for a modern, young, book club

Interesting concept but unsure if it works well as a book. I think a podcast would have been better?

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 03-05-2017

Audiobook is the only way to read this !

Read like a thesis on modern dating ! His commentary really made it better, although you do miss out on pictures !

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  • Monte
  • 26-04-2017

very enjoyable

I really liked listening to this and would recommend this informative lighthearted funny audio book.

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  • Lisa
  • 27-02-2017

If you're a lazy f***, get this audio book!

Funny and informative book on modern romance and how to be a decent dater. AZIZ's reading of it just make sure even better.