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Cultivate deep connections wherever you go. Break down conflict, misunderstanding, and loneliness.

Healthy relationships involve our feelings being heard, understood, and validated. Unfortunately, this is the exception rather than the rule. Are you doing it wrong and alienating people versus comforting them? Find out how to walk this fine line. 

Uncover the biggest obstacle to the intimate, healthy relationships that we desire and deserve. 

How to Listen, Hear, and Validate is all about our top communication struggle - our tendency to react instead of respond, and forget that our goal is to build bridges rather than walls. You’ll learn what you’ve been doing wrong, and why your efforts at getting closer to people - in deep or light manners - have failed. You’ll learn actionable techniques and frameworks to have the most productive conversations of your life - ones that will walk away with people praising how empathetic you are.

Most importantly, you will gain profound insights on how to reprogram yourself into a natural communicator. 

No more unresolved issues, struggles to get close, or failures from ineffective communication.

Patrick King is an internationally best-selling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. His struggles in his early relationships has inspired him to unravel practical ways to cultivate meaningful, reciprocative interactions. 

Establish vulnerable, fulfilling and satisfying relationships. 

  • The big mistakes when we "listen" to others 
  • How to structure a style for effective validation and empathy
  • Scripts to validate others, to know exactly what to say 
  • Simple tactics to make others feel loved and seen 
  • How to use empathetic communication and active listening techniques  

Did you know? At the heart of most communication problems is a lack of validation. 

Are we truly paying attention to the messages others are conveying, or are we just waiting for our turn to speak? Are we listening to reply, or listening to hear? After applying the proven techniques from this book, you’ll be able to increase love, respect and satisfaction to your relationship. You’ll become the person everyone wants in their life.

Connect deeper and better. Raise the standard for your relationships.

©2021 Patrick King (P)2021 Patrick King

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  • 28-04-2021

Great info but wish it had more examples.

This is a must read for anyone, but especially married couples. I wish it was longer with more practical day to day examples of everyday miscommunications. The book is full of necessary info for the reader, but examples would ensure the reader actually understands how to use the info in their day to day life.

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  • laura
  • 11-08-2021

Patrick knows his stuff.

I felt as if I were in a refresher class for therapists. Delivered very friendly and precisely.
my job allows me to actively listen to my clients
and this was a great help. ( as far a listening to a few Friends of mine A Tremendous help.)

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  • Adam S.
  • 17-06-2021

Incredible

If you love someone, and want to show them you love them, don't let this book go by.

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  • Carol W
  • 07-06-2021

Very helpful book

I found this book when looking for books on this exact subject. I found it helpful and appreciate so much what is being communicated. I am going to have all my kids listen to this for school next year since we will be homeschooling. I am going to try and put into practice what is taught in this book. I highly recommend it for couples as well. LIstening, Hearing, and Validating will only bring you closer and help as you work through those issues that will arrise.

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  • Pier T
  • 12-05-2021

Truly remarkable!!

I can see myself listening to this book over and over again. It’s up to date, straight to the point, short and simple. You can easily follow along and take notes without feeling overwhelmed. Definitely work the listen/read.

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