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How to Be the Love You Seek

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How to Be the Love You Seek

By: Nicole LePera
Narrated by: Courtney Patterson
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 UK bestseller, Sunday Times, December 2023

'I love Dr Nicole LePera. She helps me a lot.' GWYNETH PALTROW

'A practical and inspiring primer on how to extend true connection and love to others and to our hurting world.' DR GABOR MATE´

'A loving, patient, and powerful guide to creating happy, fulfilling life relationships of all kinds. How to Be the Love You Seek is a masterwork of awareness and compassion.' JAY SHETTY

A radical new path to revolutionise your relationships

Why are our closest relationships so often a source of more stress than solace? Whether the relationship is with a romantic partner, a parent, child, friend or colleague, the dynamic is frequently the same - you'd like the relationship to change for the better, yet nothing you try seems to work.

Author of international bestseller How to Do the Work, Dr Nicole LePera has heard these frustrating patterns of loneliness, disconnection, and resentment described time and again, both from patients in her clinical practice and from her global online community @the.holistic.psychologist. In this groundbreaking book she offers a new path to healing our relationships by tapping into the power of the heart.

How to Be the Love You Seek harnesses the latest scientific research to teach us how to recognise our dysfunctional patterns, identify their roots in our earliest relationships, break painful cycles, build security and share compassion with ourselves and others.

Through stories, exercises, journal prompts, and other practical tools, Dr LePera empowers us first to strengthen our foundation of self-love, paving the way for deeper, more harmonious connections with those around us.

When you become the love you seek, you have the power to transform every relationship, from your most intimate partnerships to the bonds that hold our communities together. Love, Dating & Attraction Personal Development Personal Success Relationships
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I think she wrote this book for me haha, she explains why we do the things we do when we have a less than ideal upbringing and how to untangle ourselves from the mess

A must for any self growth journey

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excellent book! related to all of the content like it was my life read out to me! thank you

how to be the love you seek

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A beatiful simple book that will help you understand and take responsibility for your relationships. Life is better for reading this book.

Life changing for love and relationships

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Like her other books, the author places self responsibility at the centre of healing, and has her own original combination of ideas from psychology and alternative healing to help you get there, especially nervous system regulation and living in the heart. But it didn’t feel as empowering as her other books, and I was surprised that there is almost nothing about relating, or relationship dynamics. It seemed very individualistic for a book about love. But I still liked it, and I’ll listen again in the future

Good, but strangely individualistic

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I have been on the journey of understanding myself and others for more than 20 years. I have read SOO many books, had Soo much professional energy, psychology, movement therapy.... and this book summarises most on my learnings in an easy to understand, relatable (too surprisingly so) manner.
This book should be a curriculum in schools. Spread the word and get as many people to read this, heal themselves and the people and the world around them as possible. Nicole, you are a treasure, thank you for your phenomenal work in raising consciousness x

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