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Holding the Man

Narrated by: Stephen Phillips
Length: 9 hrs and 51 mins
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The mid-'70s: at an all-boys Catholic school in Melbourne, Timothy Conigrave falls wildly and sweetly in love with the captain of the football team. So begins a relationship that weathers disapproval, separation and ultimately death.

With honesty and insight, Holding the Man explores the highs and lows of any partnership and the strength of heart both men have to find when they test positive for HIV. This is a book as refreshing and uplifting as it is moving - a funny and sad and celebratory account of growing up gay.

©2009 Timothy Conigrave (P)2016 Audible, Ltd

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  • Roy
  • 22-02-2019

Emotional, echoing with my own life

It hurts so badly because it was so beautifully written and so melancholy of Life Love and Death.
I struggled to sit with my own emotions as I listened to it, I hope at the end Tim was able to find peace with John. May they both rest in peace. Thank you audible.

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Heartbreakingly Beautiful

A heartbreakingly beautiful story, beautifully performed by Stephen Phillips. Every time I finish this story I tell myself I can't do it again - but its joy and power as an Australian gay narrative brings me back time and again.

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really good

read it all in one day, couldn't put it down. very good representation of the young gay experience

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What an amazing book, You must read it

I was so captivated I listen to the whole 9 hours non-stop, I laughed and cried. I am heartbroken and cannot stop thinking about it. Download this book now.

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Brilliant

Really loved it. Such an honest, funny, tender and raw account of a relationship..

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Powerful and moving. Highly recommended

It was such a real story. Gripping, beautiful and strong. Half way through, I realised that it was an auto-biography - which made it even more emotional that it was at first. Well-written and worth the read. But get ready for the tears.

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Authentic

Such a powerful and heartfelt story which showed us true love and authenticity. excellent narrator.

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Holding the Man

I had watched the movie and didn't know that it was a book, whenever I find this out I always read the book because they are usually better than the movie. I really enjoyed this book, it was very sad in parts but a beautiful love story!!

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awesome listen!

Great book with excellent descriptive insight. I loved listening to it. Great actor chosen to read the book.

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Just a must read/listen book

I have seen the movie, watched the doco and finally the book it’s is a must !

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  • Lee Kelly
  • 08-09-2016

An Beautiful Love Story!

This is the only book the ever made me cry. A wonderful memoir of two people at the dawning of a new world and the harsh realities of opposition they faced. A true inspirational life long love story.

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  • Ijeoma
  • 08-02-2018

An Informative and Interesting Book

I would give this audiobook 5 stars, but Tim cheated on John so many times. In fact, it makes me question how much he loved him because it doesn’t make sense to cheat on someone you love. He didn’t always want to take care of him when he (John) was sick and he wanted to sleep on their couch instead of their bed because John coughed excessively. I don’t think this is fair. Tim judged people for having AIDS and he doesn’t see anything wrong with Nestle’s history in Africa and thinks his friend Ian is overreacting when he decides to boycott Nescafé. Aside from these things, it’s interesting, informative, honest, funny, moving, and romantic. This book showed me the importance of educating myself about AIDS and having safe sex. Tim brought boyish adolescence to life and as someone who isn’t Catholic, I enjoyed listening to how they practice their religion. This audiobook is filled with lots of passion between John and Tim, which makes it more upsetting that Tim would have as many affairs as he did. Maybe I have trouble understanding the affairs because I’m not a gay man, but saying this would mean that every gay man is promiscuous and this is not true. Last, but not least, the narrator (Stephen Phillips) is exceptionally good. He is Australian. I hope he narrates more books. He really did a wonderful job!

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  • papa825
  • 21-10-2016

The most beautiful love story

I first saw the movie and was so moved that I wanted more of the intimate story of John & Tim.

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  • Tina
  • 30-08-2016

Beautiful, heart-wrenching

Beautiful, heart-wrenching, candid, true. So glad Tim was able to finish this before he passed. The movie was wonderful, one of my lifetime favourites now, but it's better to read/hear the details of what was going on in Tim's mind. This story will linger in your mind.

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  • Spencer Porcello
  • 19-08-2016

One of the most real and honest books I've read!

Tim and John's story is beautifully crafted. I was captivated by the narrative and transported to my own experience as a boy at so many places in the story. A tragic yet magical ending. I wish I had had the opportunity to know Tim and John, but thanks, Tim, for sharing so transparently your harsh yet beautiful experience. It is one I will definitely re-read. I saw the movie first and was pleased to find the book on Audible.

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  • Ag
  • 06-08-2016

I love this story, the way it was told.

There's a type of rawness to it and very heartfelt. The ending was powerful and let me wondering about Tim.

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  • Precociousarchitect
  • 18-05-2020

Revelent to this day

At an all-boys Catholic school in Melbourne, Timothy Conigrave fell wildly and sweetly in love with the captain of the football team. So began a relationship that was to last for 15 years, a love affair that weathered disapproval, separation and, ultimately death. This is an honest, uplifting, devastatingly brave book that I would highly recommend. The narrator did a phenomenal job given authenticity to the narrative.

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  • Jon
  • 14-05-2019

A moving story about love that will bring you to tears

The writing of Tim about his life and his love of John even in its dark times is the true story of what love actually is.

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  • Whitney Knight
  • 23-01-2019

Breathtaking

This story is devastatingly honest. Listening to this book felt like sitting next to someone as they told you a painful story. So raw and real, you wish you could reach out and give comfort.
Now that Tim and John have obliterated my heart, I am going to go bury my broken feels in chocolate. Rest easy boys, together.

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  • Mandajanex
  • 13-12-2018

just excellent.

I loved the Australian narrator - his voice is melodical. I loved all the Melbourne details.

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  • Andy Sargeant
  • 28-06-2016

Powerful and Stunning

I watched the film first (Which I never normally do) and wanted to know more. This book is one of the most amazing, poignant emotional rollercoaster of a book. What an amazing author who was taken far to soon. This book is a MUST read, just remember the tissues.

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  • Andy Hall
  • 04-11-2019

Have the tissues at the ready

Like others, I had seen the film first - which I also found very moving - and wanted to know more.

The story is obviously written from Tim's point of view, but manages to convey so much about all the characters involved and their emotions that you really feel you are living the events along with them. The narrator's choice of tone and pitch for the various people in the story, including indicating where Tim is thinking, certainly makes the book easy to understand in the audio version.

The relationship between Tim and John, and the people they encounter, takes you from joyful to cross to sad and back again, and finally to peace. This is not the sort of book to listen to while driving, or with other people around - even with a stash of tissues at the ready!

A real story of unconditional love with its highs and lows. Such a shame that these two beautiful people were taken from the world too early.

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  • Kris
  • 30-10-2019

A seminal account

A truly touching story, highlighting the struggles of the LGBT community in the time of the AIDS crisis. A truly touching story and one that should never be allowed to fade. RIP, boys.

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  • Maksim
  • 04-04-2019

John

First I watched the film, I cried so much. Then I just had to read the book, there was so much detail so many aspects that were missing from the film, I cried even more. I’m completely in love with this story. If you’re an open minded person, then this book is for you.

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  • James
  • 10-03-2019

Wonderful love story

I am so grateful the author Tim shared the story of his life and love for John. Sharing their story makes me feel that I actually know you both. Although heartbreaking and haunting, I also admire how lucky you both were to have each other. This story was real, touching and beautiful in spite of the sadness. Thank you.

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  • Ashley
  • 09-01-2019

Beautiful, Raw and Heartbreaking

I’ve seen the movie 3 times and wanted more so I listened to the book and it didn’t disappoint. Such a heartbreaking real story of true love and sexual discovery.

The more people who read and listen to books like this, the more compassionate, understanding and thankful people we will have in the world.

Thank you Tim and John for sharing every bit of your truth and inspiring me. Your love will never die. ❤️❤️❤️

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  • Alan
  • 15-10-2018

Holding back the tears

Having seen the film a few times before I wanted to experience the source material that it was based off of. There are bits from the movie within it of course but its such a lovely and touching memoir of a true love story between two friends through the good and the bad and a touching farewell, where like in the movie adaption the tears aren't held back and like Tim himself they flowed freely

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  • ania
  • 17-07-2018

Very emotional

Very good, emotional and involving book. A beautiful story of the long term relatioship between two boys.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 13-01-2018

Raw and relevant.

Loved it. Brutally reflecting what might have happened to me. and what did not. Re awakened my fears and encouraged my celebration of life as is now unfolds.

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  • Belfast, Ireland
  • 10-01-2018

Must read

Heartbreaking and devastating, I feel like I was a fly on the wall for their entire lives together. A must read ❤️