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High Conflict

Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out

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High Conflict

By: Amanda Ripley
Narrated by: Amanda Ripley
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 A “compulsively readable” (Evan Osnos, National Book Award–winning author) book from the New York Times bestselling author of The Unthinkable and award-winning journalist Amanda Ripley investigating how good people get captured by high conflict—and how they break free.

When we are baffled by the insanity of the “other side”—in our politics, at work, or at home—it’s because we aren’t seeing how the conflict itself has taken over. That’s what “high conflict” does. High conflict is what happens when discord distills into a good-versus-evil kind of feud, the kind with an us and a them. In this state, the brain behaves differently. We feel increasingly certain of our own superiority, and everything we do to try to end the conflict, usually makes it worse. Eventually, we can start to mimic the behavior of our adversaries, harming what we hold most dear.

Our journey spans California, Chicago, Colombia, New York, and beyond, following people caught in political feuds, gang vendettas, and deep ideological divides as they confront the stories fueling their conflicts and seek a path forward. All these people, in dramatically different situations, were drawn into high conflict by similar forces, including conflict entrepreneurs, humiliation, and false binaries. But ultimately, all of them found ways to transform high conflict into good conflict, the kind that made them better people. They rehumanized and recatego­rized their opponents, and they revived curiosity and wonder, even as they continued to fight for what they knew was right.

People do escape high conflict. Individuals—even entire communities—can short-circuit the feedback loops of outrage and blame, if they want to. “Insightful and enthralling” (The New York Times Book Review) High Conflict provides a mind-opening new way to think about conflict that will transform how we move through the world.

Featuring audio highlights from actual interviews, town hall meetings, and podcasts. Career Success Conflict Resolution Decision-Making & Problem Solving Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Social Sciences Violence in Society Career Liberalism Social Conflict
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Hank Green recommended this book in a recent YouTube video, and I am very glad I sought it out; there may be things in here that seem intuitive on the surface level but sometimes it helps to hear someone point it out for things to click into place, which is what this book has done for me. It’s also helped me remember that most people are inherently good and trying their best to survive their own circumstances, which couldn’t have come at a better time. It’s well worth the read and will help to navigate a time where conflict can follow us anywhere our phones may follow.

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