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Fail, Fail Again, Fail Better

Wise Advice for Leaning into the Unknown
Narrated by: Pema Chödrön
Length: 1 hr and 46 mins
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When her granddaughter was accepted to Naropa University, the celebrated author Pema Chödrön promised that she'd speak at the commencement ceremony. Fail, Fail Again, Fail Better contains the wisdom shared on that day. "What do we do when life doesn't go the way we hoped?" begins Pema. "We say 'I'm a failure.'" But what if failing wasn't just "okay"... but the most direct way to becoming a more complete, loving, and fulfilled human being?

Here, Pema Chödrön offers us her heartfelt advice on facing the unknown - in ourselves and in the world - and how our missteps can open our eyes to see new possibilities and purpose. For listeners of all faiths who are at a life crossroads, this brilliant gem of kindness and clarity is sure to earn its place in our kitchens, offices, and backpacks, ready to help us get back on our feet and into our hearts. Includes an in-depth interview with Pema Chödrön and Tami Simon.

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Just what I needed to hear.

Loved it's directness & emphasis on gentleness . I'll definitely read/listen to this again...Thank you to everyone involved in the creation of this great book!!😊

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A great listen.

Beautiful wisdom words as always. Many thanks. We are taught to live life completely even though it may be difficult.

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A lifelong “failure” companion.

What I like most about this talk is Pema’s sense of humor! and relate-ableness!
Very short and straight to the point. Love it.

Part 1 (Ch1-5) is her commencement ceremony speech in 2015 for her granddaughters graduation.

Part 2 (Ch6-17) is an interview with Tami Simon from sounds True.
The discuss Pema’s life before being a nun. How being unconscious to what happened around her hurt people. Coming back to Failure, The message is that failure is a perspective. The best thing to do is to become present. To be courageous and be present with your feelings, really feeling them. It’s not about judgment or blame or denial which leading to hurting yourself and people around you.

To get the most out of this book you need to be willing to s-l-o-w down and really reflect on what she is saying. The answers are not in a fast or aggressive step by step, read once: done! format.They are found in curiosity, gentleness and connecting with your heart.

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  • BARBARA J NELSON
  • 22-01-2016

The perfect listen at the perfect time!

As I listened to this piece I was driving to & from physical therapy for a high ankle sprain I suffered just before Christmas. This was my second Christmas without my dearly beloved husband of 45 years, who died of lung cancer on April 23rd, 2014. On January 7th, my employer of 15 years phoned to say that my position was being eliminated effective next Monday. I am now a 70 year old soon to be unemployed exercise specialist and Pilates teacher. Listening to Pema Chdron's excellent commencement address buoyed me up and prepared me to catch the next wave. Thank you so much for this humorous and inspiring listen.

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  • Michelle Y Talbert
  • 03-09-2015

Amazing content unfortunate sound

Pens has an amazing way of sharing lessons. This was a great listen...however at times the lack of pop filter for the interviewer made the whistling S's actually painful to my ears.

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  • Shirley
  • 02-09-2015

Excellent.

Inspiring and valuable. I'm so glad Pema's books are on Audible! She delivers life lessons with joy and humor. I highly recommend it.

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  • Leonard
  • 25-09-2015

Surprisingly good (for me)

15 min in I feared this was going to be some hippy-duppy new-age yatt, but there were a lot of points here with potential to reinforce ideas I've fostered, or forgotten about, which are positive for my own personal development

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  • David Wetmore
  • 22-09-2015

Exceptional!

This is a must read for anyone stuck in the not knowing. That's the place where miracles form.

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  • drika shak
  • 09-05-2016

A Fresh Breeze to the mind

Very very inspiring and comforting teachings for those difficult times in life.
Like a fresh breeze to clear the mind.

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  • SamL
  • 06-09-2015

perfect message for today

I was not overly familiar with Pema's work before this, but I found her engaging and wise at the same time. an enjoyable and helpful listen.

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  • Jim
  • 19-05-2018

life changing wisdom.

perfect read for those dealing with addiction and numbing out. great insight to deal with our
failings in life and work.

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  • john r kratzer
  • 06-12-2015

Helpful honest conversation.

Pema Chodron offers a unique ability to provide wisdom and honesty in a way that is both supportive and challenging. If you have struggled with feeling like you were a failure she inspires you to go deeper into your own limited sense of yourself.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 31-12-2019

The undeniable key to succeeding in your Life

This was amazing and I'm thankful to Brooke Castillo for recomending and introducing Pema to me. The ability to view failure as the lessons learned, as your fundamental necessity to evolve in reaching your highest potential have been in my thoughts throughout my life. The more anti-fragile we become and allow fear and failure as a natural pat of our lives and learn and grow from them, we will ultimately become successful in all parts of our lives as humans!

I loved listening to Pema and will continue reading and learning from her.
Thank you, Pema, for helping strengthen something that has been deep in my heart.

Pratiti Pathak

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  • brendan mc cann
  • 18-05-2017

Down to earth brilliance.

Instead of the usual bulls..t about having to brainwash ourselves into methods to be successful all the time, this book points to our reality and says how to live with daily failure and become better at dealing with it, while showing kindness and respect for ourselves and others. It doesn't tell us to replace experiences with more "successful" approaches, it instead asks us to be brave and lean into the negative feelings and make friends with them, thereby making friends with ourselves, and consequently others.

The narrator, Pema the author, is so down to earth that her humility, and her descriptions of her own experiences can only make you empathize, and a lot of the time you'll find yourself laughing out loud as you listen.

It's a real treasure. Enjoy.

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  • kjzee
  • 29-10-2015

More heartfelt words from Pema

This is composed of two parts. Part One is a speech that Pema gave to a graduation ceremony at a University in the US. Part Two is an interview with Tami Simon. Both are interesting, discussing the theme of failing, and failing better.

Of the two parts I found the interview much more insightful. The first part is enjoyable to listen to, Pema is always insightful, compassionate and funny. But the second part gave a real insight in to her own life experiences, the path she has taken, and her life in relation to the theme. I thought the questions were kindly and carefully presented and presented real opportunity for teaching.

Short but recommended.

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  • Giyah
  • 02-09-2015

Not what I thought it would be

Would you try another book written by Pema Chödrön or narrated by Pema Chödrön?

No

What could Pema Chödrön have done to make this a more enjoyable book for you?

It was not very profound or core shaking, just a conversation. I didn't feel it was meaningful for me. May be it could be the right one for someone else. Just not for me!

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