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Dirty Laundry

Why Adults with ADHD Are so Ashamed and What We Can Do to Help

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Dirty Laundry

By: Richard Pink, Roxanne Emery
Narrated by: Richard Pink, Roxanne Emery
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If you have ADHD - or love somebody who does - DIRTY LAUNDRY will change your life, and your relationships.

Do you feel crippling shame because you struggle with cleaning, personal hygiene, or time-keeping? Do you always feel misunderstood by the people close to you and find that they get frustrated by your behaviour?

DIRTY LAUNDRY is an unfiltered look into the chaos of real life with ADHD. It will transform your self-hatred into self-acceptance, with simple tips that actually work for your brain. It will also help to educate partners, parents and friends, to help them move from frustration to patience, understanding - and love.

Learn how to:

  • Stop believing you are fundamentally broken
  • Stop judging yourself by the standards of a neurotypical world
  • Communicate your struggles to those who love you
  • Support someone with ADHD in ways that work for them
  • Be compassionate rather than judgemental
  • ...and much more.

From the husband-and-wife team behind social media phenomenon @ADHD_Love, whose viral videos have been viewed more than 200 million times, comes a fearless, often outrageously funny, account of life, learning, and growing with ADHD. They share the strategies they have used to reduce shame, improve communication, and find happiness in their neurodivergent household.

Filled with heartbreak and humour in equal measure, DIRTY LAUNDRY is an invaluable resource both for neurodivergents and the people who love them.

©2023 Richard Pink and Roxanne Emery (P)2023 Penguin Audio Attention Deficit Disorders Mental Health Personal Development Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Self-Esteem Special Need Health Marriage Funny Inspiring Human Brain
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Oh Boy, do I relate with Rox!
I have always wondered why I have struggled with life.
Friends, school, work, relationships, money.

Having come across some funny TikTok a few months ago, I laughed as Rox explained the meaning of "Floor-drobe" & "Dopa-mining".

The definitions not only explained my life, but poked a very sore part in my soul like at a recent bruise against the counter top.

I have never been able to truly explain my situations to my GP or therapist before. Instead, I would verbalise the events (fights, arguments, issues, depression) and they would give lovely advice on what I could do "next time", never really getting to the core of WHY. This always left me feeling as though there was something wrong with me. "If this is consistently happening with so many people over my life time, It Has to be ME!"

Since then, I have watched all of their online content, which led to downloading this book on Audible.

Rox and Rich nailed it all!
I could immediately see why so many events, even in my childhood, made sense.
I have gone undiagnosed for 50 YEARS with some form of ADHD.

Now, I know what to do about it and much quicker at recognizing ADHD signs.
I'm also happy accepting those parts of me which are simply triggered by particular ADHD symptoms and make immediate changes without the horrible self talk which only perpetuated issues in the past.

Finally, the LOVE Story of Rox & Rich, Rich & Rox.
You both inspire me to understand with compassion, those who are neuro divergent (who were reflecting my "worst" traights) and those neuro typical (getting frustrated with my worst traights).

You're mutual love and understanding of each other and yourselves gives me great hope for the future.


Courageous, Enlightening, Relieving, A Love Story

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This book really helped me look at my ADHD with more self compassion, understanding and humour.
Today I came home and realised I’d confused which day my rent inspection was.
My first reaction to seeing the little card saying they’d visited without me knowing, was utter shock and horror, I wanted to cry with the mortifying shame.
But I didn’t cry, all those negative emotions came up, but I actually ended up having a laugh at the situation…
I mean, my landlord finally saw my floordrobe today, and I could just imagine their confusion and unpreparedness to see such a thing! There’s nothing I can do right now about what has happened, but I can react with self understanding and forgiveness. It will be okay, I’ll just call my landlord tomorrow to explain what happened and reschedule it.

Dirty Laundry teaches you that things like this are going to happen and sometimes when it feels like the end of the world, you don’t have to bury yourself in shame. You can be kind and compassionate to yourself instead.
I highly recommend this book to those of us that have ADHD, and also those who have people in their lives with ADHD.

Loved this book!

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I don’t just mean romantic love, although it’s incredibly apparent in this book by the authors. But also just using love and understanding and patience with those who’s brain just doesn’t work like yours. I’ve also learnt my new favourite term “time optimism” which is definitely one of the things that frustrates my husband to no end as he can never understand my inability to be on time… ever, and I also hate being late!
If you have ADHD listen and if you have a loved one with ADHD also listen. It may help.

Love in the time of ADHD

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I absolutely loved this book! Very informative, humorous and eye opening. I hope this book brings light to many people, as it did me, what struggles our adhd friends and family are going through. I also found it explained a LOT for me in my own personal struggles.
Thank for the great listen Rich and Rox!

Eye opener is an understatement!

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Finished in one sitting because it was too good. I knew I carried shame with me due to years of undiagnosed ADHD, but I never realised to what extent until reading. I feel I have a much better insight into my own struggles now, and even have some new vocabulary to help explain some of my lesser-understood behaviours. Highly recommend.

Validating and Entertaining

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Thank you so much for helping lead me to a diagnosis and now explaining and coaching me through the everyday life expectations (along with real life therapy and coaching of course).

Real Life

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Thoroughly enjoyed it. Not everything related to me, but that's to be expected. I was overwhelmed by the love, compassion, kindness and empathy and loved the attitude of curiosity. You two are an inspiration.

Thank you

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The most honest book I've read on ADHD so far, they do a great job of portraying the reality in a supportive and entertaining way. I loved the organization of this book into themed chapters with both Rox and Rich giving their perspective.
I'll be listening to your podcast now, thanks for your warmth and humility.

honest and loveable

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laughed, cried and learnt so much more about both my relationship, myself and my partner..🥰

thank you

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I’ve recently found out I have adhd!
And man what a changing experience it’s been for myself, after finding you guys on tiktok I decided to dive more into the rabbit hole of adhd!

Thankyou for this book and speaking about its whole pros and cons

We appreciate this!

Amazing!

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