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And Baby Makes Three

The Six-Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives
Narrated by: Randye Kaye
Length: 7 hrs and 39 mins
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Having a baby is a joyous experience, but even the best relationships are strained during the transition from duo to trio. Lack of sleep, never-ending housework, and new fiscal concerns often lead to conflict, disappointment, and hurt feelings. In And Baby Makes Three, Love Lab™ experts John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman teach couples the skills from their successful workshops, so partners can avoid the pitfalls of parenthood by:

  • Maintaining intimacy and romance
  • Replacing a culture of criticism and irritability with one of appreciation
  • Preventing postpartum depression
  • Creating a home environment that nurtures physical, emotional, and mental health as well as cognitive and behavioral development for your baby

Complete with exercises that separate the "master" from the "disaster" couples, And Baby Makes Three helps new parents positively manage the strain that comes along with their bundle of joy.

©2007 John M. Gottman, PhD, and Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD (P)2017 Tantor

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terrible

Highly unrealistic conversations. 50% of the book is lists of various feelings. If you have a highly volatile relationship this may help. But if you are looking to stay connected to your partner youd be better off spending actual time with them rather that wasting 7+ hours on this book.

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  • Bridget
  • 19-08-2017

More couple's therapy than adapting with new baby.

I expected this book to be about how to adjust to a new family member and the stresses that come with new babies. While the book did give insight as to a new mom's feelings of not being cared for and new dad's feelings of being left out, this book was mostly about how to fight better, listen and respond to your partners needs and concerns, and resolve conflict in a healthy way. Anyone could use these techniques. The book did discuss the impact healthy conflict resolution has on unborn babies and infants and how a couples relationship affects a babies understanding of his world. Very helpful and I look forward to listening with my partner and actually completing the questionnaires together to help us grow and become more unified.

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  • Charles Vachapittack
  • 12-08-2017

Helps explain a lot of what has happened.

Explains a lot of whay has happened in my marriage. Particularly as being a father and the divide that grew between my wife and I. Also provide excellent exercises to build a stronger than before relationship.

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  • Kyle
  • 21-09-2017

Not as helpful as I expected

The examples of couples were good. The writers unfortunately talk down to the readers as if we are children ourselves when we are actually adults with capable brains. The authors also include an overwhelming number of surveys. In the written version i may have just glossed over these, however in the audiobook that impossible because who knows when they will end. There multiple surveys with hundreds of questions for the listener (Ie very boring). On a side note, if you need a good night's sleep buy this book and put it on).

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  • rebecca
  • 01-10-2019

Excludes non-heterosexual relationships

Needs updating to include all types of families, partnerships, and upbringings. If updates were made it was at the beginning of the book and not throughout.

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  • Danielle
  • 21-07-2019

Remarkable

I enjoyed listening to this book and learning more about what it takes to have a healthy partnership after having a baby, but it's hard to follow as an audiobook. I definitely recommend buying the paper copy to any couple who is having a baby!

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  • 13-06-2019

Not what I was expecting

It focused a lot more on the relationship (and how to effectively argue) than it did about baby. The book is set up as a series of “exercises” to do with your partner with tons of questions. Audiobook isn’t the best format for following along a series of questions that are supposed to lead to conversations. I found it boring.

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  • Debbie Quackenbush
  • 14-07-2018

Dated and redundant information

I like the Gottman's work, overall, but found this book has quite a bit of similar information to some of their other works. Also, some of the gender discussions are dated and only applicable to heterosexuals.

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  • wiggi
  • 20-05-2018

Informative and useful

Great book to help work through or think about issues between couples when they have a baby. Probably a good idea to read earlier on in pregnancy than just as you are bringing a new one home.

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  • Nagaraj Tanguturu
  • 29-03-2018

Good book for new couples & in fact for any couple

Lots of exercises to build a relationship between the partners. Explain lots of things which people take it as granted and explain how to avoid those pitfalls.

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  • WanderLaw
  • 19-01-2019

Fine advice, but seriously outdated.

This book is so white; all the stories are about Sally and Jim and the advice is so gendered. The men are the providers and women are docile. The exercises are good and the advice is perfectly fine, it's just meant for a different generation and population.

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