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  • With Sprinkles on Top

  • Everything Vanilla People and Their Kinky Partners Need to Know to Communicate, Explore, and Connect
  • By: Stefani Goerlich
  • Narrated by: Stefani Goerlich
  • Length: 7 hrs and 44 mins

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With Sprinkles on Top

By: Stefani Goerlich
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Publisher's Summary

A sex therapist’s playful, affirming, and informative guide to exploring desire differences between kinky and nonkinky, or “vanilla,” partners

With Sprinkles on Top offers a positive and empowering resource for talking about and working through sexual differences—particularly between kinky and vanilla partners. With more than 80 percent of adult couples in the US reporting desire discrepancies between partners, and many people holding fantasies they don’t feel comfortable sharing, With Sprinkles on Top offers much-needed support. As Dr. Stefani Goerlich makes clear—vanilla can be delicious… and so can kink! Focusing on communication and connection, this guide helps you find the sprinkles that can enhance your relationship.

With empathy and understanding, Dr. Goerlich addresses hopes and fears on both sides of a desire divide and provides shame-free guidance for relationships of different shapes and orientations. Here you’ll find:

• Helpful information about BDSM and kink—what it is, its effects on relationships, what a partner’s interest might imply… or not!

• Worksheets and questionnaires to help each partner explore their desires, what turns them on, when they might feel open to experimentation, and how to talk about it

• Setting boundaries—tips for feeling safe and drawing the line with care

• Guidance for staying true to yourself, satisfying your partner, and finding new delights together

• Insights and guidance on what “normal” and “kinky” actually mean, bringing imagination into the bedroom, polyamorous possibilities, and much more

As Dr. Goerlich writes, “The vanilla people that I work with tell me that they want relationships built on mutual love, respect, understanding, gentleness, and trust. Funnily enough, the kinky people I work with tell me the same thing… just that they want the ‘gentleness’ aspect to be negotiable.” With Sprinkles on Top affirms that vanilla and kinky people can thrive together—and offers practical solutions for protecting, preserving, and strengthening your relationship.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2023 Stefani Goerlich (P)2023 Sounds True
  • Unabridged Audiobook
  • Categories: Erotica

Critic Reviews

With Sprinkles on Top is an essential read for partners who are having trouble connecting because they have different fantasies and desires. Stefani Goerlich weaves together research, clinical insight, and practical tips in an accessible and affirming style. Readers will walk away with the tools they need to explore their sexuality and cultivate more satisfying intimate relationships.”—Justin J. Lehmiller, PhD, host of the Sex and Psychology Podcast, author of Tell Me What You Want

“At a time where kink is becoming more mainstream, this text should be in the hands of everyone who is in kink, kink aware, or kink adjacent. Stefani Goerlich’s tactful offering is easily digestible and will help readers feel more informed, more understood, and more reflective of the person they are and who they want to become. With Sprinkles on Top is an excellent resource with compelling content that will be relevant for many years to come. Goerlich’s expertise and brilliance shines vividly as a well-respected clinician in this field.”—Marla Renee Stewart, sexologist

With Sprinkles on Top is a must-read—in fact, a positive game changer—for anyone in a couple in which one partner identifies as kinky and the other as vanilla or simply uncertain if kink is for them. This engaging and easy-to-read book, full of relatable quotes and stories, is based in both science and the clinical wisdom of one of the most experienced sex therapists in the field. Throughout the book, Dr. Goerlich’s genuine compassion shines through as she guides readers to a deeper understanding of themselves and their partners. With Sprinkles on Top is a road map that will lead kinky people and their vanilla partners to be more understanding of one another and closer than ever before.”—Laurie Mintz, PhD, author of A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex and Becoming Cliterate

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