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She Comes First

The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

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She Comes First

By: Ian Kerner
Narrated by: Ian Kerner
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 As women everywhere will attest, when it comes to understanding female sexuality, most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. And while it seems that men have struggled valiantly since the dawn of time to find ways to reliably elicit the female orgasm, rare is the guy who has the modesty to ask: "What do I do?" Ironically, the answer has always been right there on the tip of his tongue.

Welcome to the world of She Comes First, where the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner, clinical sexologist and evangelist of the female orgasm, oral sex has long been deemed an optional aspect of foreplay, but, in fact, it's coreplay: simply the best way for leading a woman through the entire process of sexual response.

Fun, informative, and easy to read, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and step-by-step instructions to ensure success. These simple methods represent a new era in sexual intimacy, one in which the exchange of pleasure occurs on a level playing field and fulfillment is mutual.

She Comes First exuberantly offers a fresh new sexual philosophy that inspires every man to make a mantra of Rhett Butler's infamous line to Scarlett O'Hara, "You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how."

For Adults Only: You must be 18 years or older to purchase.

Find out what else is on Ian Kerner's mind in this interview with the author.

©2004 Ian Kerner (P)2005 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc. Human Sexuality Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Sexual & Reproductive Health Sexual Health Health

Critic Reviews

"An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!" (Playgirl)
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O like the structure and guidance and the time to slowly build up the why and the how. I didn't like the voice, it would be better a more sexy or emotional voice in the 2 part. The voice is too flat for the topic

Very useful to know how to improve in the art of sex

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Another example for authors shouldn't narrate their own books. Very dry and methodical. That's not how hot sex works in my life

Very dry

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So he didn't really have any excuses!

Very helpful for the timid adventurer, the naive but dedicated and the motivated master of the bedroom.

More puns than you can shake a stick at (lolz - sorry) but insightful and illuminating for theose who find themselves pleasure illiterate.

You don't have to follow the instructions to at least broaden your horizons so worth a go even if you don't think Oral Sex is going to be the thing for you. Just the geography lesson helps!

Our therapist gave this to my husband...

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the book was great I didn't like the guys voice tho 😕, the last hour of the book is best

great information

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I learned many nuances. The tips were great, the tone playful and the puns appreciated.

Clitoral Heads Up

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The book was clear with information and concise with details very informative thanks for the great read

Loads of information

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I’m not sure how, but I purchased this book not even realising it was about mastering cunnilingus. Literally thought Its was broadly about women’s sexuality. Lol.. that’s not the authors fault. But I was super disappointed about 30 seconds in.. mostly because my partner of 5 years won’t let me go down on her. And I’ve given up, I absolutely love it and in every other relationship it’s been a dynamic part of the sex life. I’ve tried every single approach and short of driving her to a sex therapist I don’t know what else to do. She just doesn’t want me down there.. and while this might be rare, it’s not that rare from what I’ve read.. I would have preferred at least one page or two on what to do if she won’t let go down. I basically spent the whole book seething is resentment because I’ll never actually get to use these techniques again. Any way, worst review ever. You’re welcome.

In case you didn’t know, this is book solely about cunnilingus.

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this is a good book i always make my partner cum while going down on her but there's some great tips here i love to keep learning, and its good to learn the anatomy of her body.

great book recommended

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Excellent book. Well read and lots of detailed information. Must read for all , men, women and lgtbqi alike

Must read for all

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great read, he has some really in depth knowledge that I learned alot from. the last chapter is constant repetition though. really enjoyed! cheers

damn good

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