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She Comes First

The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

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She Comes First

By: Ian Kerner
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"She Comes First is quite simply the best guide to oral sex out there."—AskMen.com

The essential guidebook to oral sex, She Comes First offers a radical new philosophy for pleasuring women

As women everywhere will attest, men are "ill-cliterate." But in She Comes First, the mystery of female satisfaction is solved, and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner—sex therapist and evangelist of the female orgasm—oral sex isn't just foreplay, it's coreplay, and is simply the best way to lead a woman through the entire process of arousal time and time again.

Fun and informative, She Comes First is an encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and ensuring mutual sexual fulfillment.

For Adults Only: You must be 18 years or older to purchase.

Find out what else is on Ian Kerner's mind in this interview with the author.

©2004 Ian Kerner (P)2005 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc. Personal Development Sexual & Reproductive Health Sexual Health Health

Critic Reviews

"An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!" (Playgirl)
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O like the structure and guidance and the time to slowly build up the why and the how. I didn't like the voice, it would be better a more sexy or emotional voice in the 2 part. The voice is too flat for the topic

Very useful to know how to improve in the art of sex

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Another example for authors shouldn't narrate their own books. Very dry and methodical. That's not how hot sex works in my life

Very dry

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So he didn't really have any excuses!

Very helpful for the timid adventurer, the naive but dedicated and the motivated master of the bedroom.

More puns than you can shake a stick at (lolz - sorry) but insightful and illuminating for theose who find themselves pleasure illiterate.

You don't have to follow the instructions to at least broaden your horizons so worth a go even if you don't think Oral Sex is going to be the thing for you. Just the geography lesson helps!

Our therapist gave this to my husband...

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the book was great I didn't like the guys voice tho 😕, the last hour of the book is best

great information

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I learned many nuances. The tips were great, the tone playful and the puns appreciated.

Clitoral Heads Up

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The book was clear with information and concise with details very informative thanks for the great read

Loads of information

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I’m not sure how, but I purchased this book not even realising it was about mastering cunnilingus. Literally thought Its was broadly about women’s sexuality. Lol.. that’s not the authors fault. But I was super disappointed about 30 seconds in.. mostly because my partner of 5 years won’t let me go down on her. And I’ve given up, I absolutely love it and in every other relationship it’s been a dynamic part of the sex life. I’ve tried every single approach and short of driving her to a sex therapist I don’t know what else to do. She just doesn’t want me down there.. and while this might be rare, it’s not that rare from what I’ve read.. I would have preferred at least one page or two on what to do if she won’t let go down. I basically spent the whole book seething is resentment because I’ll never actually get to use these techniques again. Any way, worst review ever. You’re welcome.

In case you didn’t know, this is book solely about cunnilingus.

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this is a good book i always make my partner cum while going down on her but there's some great tips here i love to keep learning, and its good to learn the anatomy of her body.

great book recommended

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Excellent book. Well read and lots of detailed information. Must read for all , men, women and lgtbqi alike

Must read for all

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great read, he has some really in depth knowledge that I learned alot from. the last chapter is constant repetition though. really enjoyed! cheers

damn good

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