Have you ever realized that the identity you’ve built—the one that’s kept everything running—might also be the very thing keeping you from your next becoming?

In this week’s episode of Plenty, I get to sit down with someone who has witnessed me through many of my own becomings: my longtime friend and former coach, Chela Davison. Our conversation is an intimate, funny, deeply human exploration of midlife unraveling as an initiation into deeper truth, creative recovery, and a fuller expression of self.

Chela and I trace the arc of her journey from being the hyper-capable, endlessly resilient woman who could “make anything happen,” to the moment her internal generator finally sputtered out—and how that collapse ushered her into a two-year wintering season that ultimately birthed her acclaimed one-woman show, A Little Bit Much. We talk about the illusion of the breadwinner, the stories we project onto our partnerships, and the internalized cultural narratives that quietly shape our sense of worth.

We also explore what it means to be “a little bit much” in a world that often prefers women palatable and contained—how to preserve our aliveness without overwhelming ourselves or others, and how to move from performative productivity into regenerative creativity. Chela’s story is a living example of following the energy, listening for what wants to be created, and allowing art to heal the artist first.

This episode is full of laughter, truth telling, permission, and the kind of midlife wisdom that only comes from letting something fall apart so something truer can emerge.

I can’t wait for you to listen.

In this episode you’ll discover:

✨ Over-identifying with resilience led to burnout
✨ Creative recovery came from stepping back and slowing down
✨ Challenging and redefining breadwinner narratives
✨ Embracing being “a little bit much” as strength
✨ Creative growth comes from staying with the process

“I looked around and asked myself, ‘Who am I willing to disappoint to get my life back?’ And the first person I realized I was willing to disappoint… was me.” — Chela Davidson

🎤 Let’s Dive into the Good Stuff on Plenty 🎤

00:00 – Introduction to Resilience & Identity
00:26 – Guest Background & Creative Recovery
03:00 – Turning 40, Maturity & Evolving Identity
05:12 – Childhood Messaging & Self-Perception
07:35 – Career Success, Challenges & Vulnerability
09:13 – Burnout, Loss & Identity Crisis
11:51 – Reclaiming Creative Life Force
13:07 – Resentment, Breadwinning & Gender Expectations
16:21 – Healing Through Vulnerability & Relationship Dynamics
19:17 – The Influence of Patriarchy & Processing Resentment
21:25 – Creative Recovery, New Projects & Self-Discovery
27:22 – Vulnerability in Creative Processes & Community
38:19 – Social Media, Creative Resistance & Staying With the Work
44:18 – Art, Healing & Creative Integrity
50:42 – The Journey of Art, Commerce & Creative Community
54:49 – Closing Thoughts & Resources

Links and Resources:

Free Money Breakthrough Guide

Connect with Chela Davison:

Website
Wizdotainment
A Little Bit Much
Instagram

✨ The Money Reset: Feel Good with Money—No Matter How Much You Make

Rewire your nervous system for wealth, stop the money-in/money-out cycle, and create sustainable abundance. Includes the 5-Minute Calm Cashflow Ritual.

→ Get it free at katenorthrup.com/reset

Have you ever made more money… only to find yourself overspending, shrinking back, or feeling anxious instead of abundant? If so, you’re not alone — and there’s nothing wrong with you.

In this episode, I explore one of the most important — and most misunderstood — pieces of financial growth: your money nervous system thermostat. We often think that earning more should feel good, natural, or easy. But the truth is, if a part of your body doesn’t feel safe with more, it will unconsciously pull you back to what’s familiar, even if what’s familiar is financial stress, inconsistency, or sabotage.

I share:
✨ Why lifestyle inflation, overspending, or freezing with money isn’t a lack of discipline — it’s a nervous system response.
✨ How our childhood environment (not just money memories) sets our internal “thermostat” for how much abundance feels safe.
✨ The science behind why expansion often triggers threat responses like guilt, fear, or shame — even when something good is happening.
✨ Powerful, practical tools to build your capacity to earn more and keep more, including nervous system healing practices and co-regulation in community.

I also share personal stories — including the moment Louise Hay offered me my first book deal and why my immediate response was a shame spiral rather than celebration. This is such a potent example of how expansion can overwhelm our body if we haven’t updated our internal capacity to receive more.

You’ll walk away understanding:
🌿 Why financial strategy can’t stick without nervous system safety
🌿 How to start signaling “you are safe” during both contraction and expansion
🌿 The key questions to ask your body to uncover the stories and sensations running the show
🌿 How safe community accelerates your capacity to hold more wealth with ease and consistency

This episode will help you stop the patterns that have kept you cycling between making more and losing it — and instead begin to create a nervous system that can hold, grow, and enjoy wealth. When you practice feeling safe with more, more becomes normal.

"If you've ever made more money only to find yourself shrinking back, overspending, or sabotaging it, it’s not because there’s something wrong with you — it’s because a part of you doesn’t feel safe with more." –Kate Northrup

🎤 Let’s Dive into the Good Stuff on Plenty 🎤

00:00 Welcome + Why earning more can feel unsafe
02:10 Justin Bieber example: making more ≠ keeping more
04:05 Lifestyle creep + hedonic adaptation explained
06:00 What your “money nervous system thermostat” really is
08:15 How childhood environment shapes your financial capacity
10:20 Why expansion can trigger sabotage, fear, or shame
12:45 Overspending, overgiving, or freezing: different dysregulation patterns
14:30 Tools to signal safety during financial expansion
17:05 Kate’s Hay House book-deal story + co-regulation
19:40 Questions to ask your body to expand your money capacity
21:30 Closing + The Money Reset invitation

Links and Resources:

Neurosomatic Intelligence
Relaxed Money Live

✨ The Money Reset: Feel Good with Money—No Matter How Much You Make

Making more money doesn’t guarantee financial ease… but this will. The Money Reset is a free audio experience designed to help you rewire your nervous system for wealth—so managing money feels effortless. 🎧💸

Inside, you’ll learn how to:
💡 Break the “money in, money out” cycle and create lasting stability.
🎯 Relax into a new relationship with money—where structure meets flow.
✨ Use the 5-Minute Calm Cashflow Ritual to bring instant clarity to your finances.

More money won’t solve money stress—a resourced, supple nervous system will. Ready to shift? 👉 Get The Money Reset now! 👈

Related Episode:

Debt, Shame, and the Stories We Don’t Tell (134)

What if your business was a temple?

In this week’s episode, Kate talks with Asha Ramakrishna—priestess, molecular biologist, and author—about Sacred Commerce: an emergent framework bridging capitalism and consciousness. Asha reveals the four ethos of sacred commerce—Feel Good, Be Wealthy, Give Back, and Liberate—and shares how merging the magical and the logical allows us to heal our relationship with money and purpose.

They explore Blue Lotus as a sacred symbol of rebirth, Lakshmi energy, human design as a business map, and how knowing your dharma type can guide your offerings and marketing in an energetically aligned way.

In this episode you’ll discover:

✨ The four ethos of Sacred Commerce
✨ Why pleasure is essential to prosperity
✨ How wealth, dharma, and liberation interconnect
✨ Using astrology and human design to decode your “soul map”
✨ Blue Lotus, Lakshmi, and ceremony as allies in business
✨ Why your conscious sun holds your key to expression

“Sacred commerce is about merging the magical and the logical—heaven and earth, sun and moon—so that business becomes a bridge to liberation.” — Asha Ramakrishna

🎤 Let’s Dive into the Good Stuff on Plenty 🎤

00:00 Kate opens with the magic of Asha’s arrival and the portal of Blue Lotus
03:10 What is Sacred Commerce? A bridge between capitalism and consciousness
07:42 The four ethos: Feel Good, Be Wealthy, Give Back, Liberate
14:10 Blue Lotus, Lakshmi, and the sacredness of abundance
20:30 How to redefine wealth and permission to prosper
26:15 Giving back through widening your energy sources
33:20 Bridging spirituality and capitalism with ceremony and offering
38:40 Vedic astrology and human design as business maps
46:00 The conscious sun and incarnation cross: finding your instructions
54:00 How stories and oral tradition unlock transformation
59:00 Discovering your dharma type and archetype for sacred work
1:03:00 Where to learn more and connect with Asha

Links and Resources:

The Priestess Code: Awakening the Modern Woman by Asha Ramakrishna
Your Soul Map: Liberation, Human Design, and the BIPOC Experience by Asha Ramakrishna & AC Brown
Relaxed Money
The Money Reset – Free Audio Experience

Connect with Asha Ramakrishna:

Website
Instagram

✨Want your work to feel more like truth than effort?

Join renowned breathwork leader Samantha Skelly—founder of a 7-figure healing company—for a free masterclass on growing your income, impact, and freedom by anchoring into your body.

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What if dissolving shame is the missing step between you and real financial momentum?

In this solo episode of Plenty, Kate unpacks the tight grip of debt shame and financial secrecy—and why hiding from the numbers stalls your progress far more than the numbers themselves. She reframes debt as “invoices for blessings already received” and makes the critical distinction between high-interest consumer debt and debt that makes you money (the positive “spread” when your return outpaces your interest). You’ll also hear why all-or-nothing thinking is a nervous-system red flag, and how telling someone safe is often the first step to clarity and action.

We cover: releasing shame by bringing things into the light, building capacity to “do the math,” and seeing nuanced opportunities—so you can either dissolve unhelpful debt or strategically leverage it for wealth.

Listen now to discover:
✨ Why shame halts financial progress—and how sharing it sets you free
✨ “Invoices for blessings already received” as a practical reframe for debt
✨ The difference between consumer debt and return-producing leverage (the spread)
✨ How dysregulation fuels avoidant money habits—and what to do instead
✨ A simple truth-telling step: tell someone safe and start looking at the numbers

“I call debt invoices for blessings already received.” — Kate Northrup

🎤 Let’s Dive into the Good Stuff on Plenty 🎤

00:00 Why debt shame keeps you stuck; welcoming honesty and light
00:27 Show intro: money, time, energy, and a life of plenty
01:27 Debt, secrecy, and why shame halts financial progress
02:22 Tell the truth (to someone safe); vulnerability has to be earned
03:12 Debt ≠ bad: using credit as a wealth-building tool when appropriate
04:09 Credit, solvency, and why “no credit” can limit leverage
06:03 “Invoices for blessings already received” (student loans, credit cards, mortgages)
06:40 Beware false binaries; nuance requires a regulated nervous system
07:12 The spread: borrowing at 4% to earn 100%—a positive use of debt
09:32 High-interest consumer debt vs. productive debt (don’t pay 20% APR)
11:05 Normalizing the month-to-month “float” in real businesses
13:48 From credit-card debt to 8-figure growth: dissolving shame to act
15:11 When fear blocks math: build capacity, then choose the smart move
16:22 Two actions: tell someone safe; start doing something about it
17:19 Seeing you may have been smarter than you thought (the numbers help)
18:19 Learn the lesson, integrate it, and change the pattern
19:36 Any past decision can become wealth once shame’s story is dropped

Links and Resources:

Brené Brown
Relaxed Money

✨ The Money Reset: Feel Good with Money—No Matter How Much You Make

Making more money doesn’t guarantee financial ease… but this will. The Money Reset is a free audio experience designed to help you rewire your nervous system for wealth—so managing money feels effortless.

Inside, you’ll learn how to:
💡 Break the “money in, money out” cycle and create lasting stability
🎯 Relax into a new relationship with money—where structure meets flow
✨ Use the 5-Minute Calm Cashflow Ritual to bring instant clarity to your finances

More money won’t solve money stress—a resourced, supple nervous system will. Ready to shift? 👉 Get The Money Reset now! 👈

What if healing the masculine is the key to deeper love, better health, and a more peaceful world?

In this powerful episode of Plenty, I sit down with Dr. Brad Jacobs, an integrative precision medicine doctor and thought leader who bridges Western science, Eastern wisdom, and emotional intelligence. Together, we explore what it really looks like to heal father wounds, move beyond toxic masculinity, and find balance between strength and softness—both within men and in our relationships with them.

We talk about Brad’s personal journey from reactivity and anger to grounded emotional presence—a transformation that reshaped how he parents, partners, and practices medicine. You’ll hear how he learned to hold boundaries without shutting down, create safety without control, and embody a new model of masculine leadership rooted in awareness, humility, and heart.

We also dive into how our emotional patterns influence our health, the importance of processing anger and stress through the body (not just the mind), and what happens when we offer ourselves—and our partners—compassion instead of judgment. Brad shares how practices like Hakomi therapy, mindfulness, and even simple breath awareness can help us release inherited emotional “sludge” and build resilience from the inside out.

Whether you’re navigating your own relationship dynamics, raising emotionally intelligent kids, or simply curious about how to create more presence and connection in your life, this conversation offers both science and soul.

Together, we explore what it means to integrate—to honor the full spectrum of who we are—so that healing the masculine becomes part of healing all of us. 💛

Listen now to discover:
✨ What “healing the masculine” really means and how it impacts your relationships
✨ The link between emotional regulation, nervous system health, and longevity
✨ Simple practices to help you pause reactivity and return to grounded presence
✨ How to support the men you love in reconnecting to their emotional selves

“I realized I don’t have to match someone else’s emotional storm. I can hold the line with love and let them move through it —that’s real strength.” –Dr. Brad Jacobs

🎤 Let’s Dive into the Good Stuff on Plenty 🎤

00:30 Introduction to Emotional Responses
02:16 Introduction to Precision Medicine
04:49 Martial Arts and Health Perspectives
08:34 Managing Emotions and Agency
11:15 Personal Stories of Anger and Control
13:44 Transitioning from Reactivity to Stability
17:40 Inviting Honest Feedback
22:29 Understanding Emotional Regulation
26:53 The Role of Past Experiences in Healing
28:19 Hokomi Psychotherapy Explained
30:48 Transformation Through Peak Experiences
44:10 Supporting Partners in Personal Growth

Links and Resources:

Blue Wave Medicine
Institute for the Future
The Hakomi Institute
Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, Gottman

Connect with Dr. Brad Jacobs:

Website
Instagram
Facebook

✨ The Money Reset: Feel Good with Money—No Matter How Much You Make

Making more money doesn’t guarantee financial ease… but this will. The Money Reset is a free audio experience designed to help you rewire your nervous system for wealth—so managing money feels effortless. 🎧💸

Inside, you’ll learn how to:
💡 Break the ‘money in, money out’ cycle and create lasting stability.
🎯 Relax into a new relationship with money—where structure meets flow.
✨ Use the 5-Minute Calm Cashflow Ritual to bring instant clarity to your finances.

More money won’t solve money stress—a resourced, supple nervous system will. Ready to shift? 👉 Get The Money Reset Now! 👈

Have you ever noticed how setting a goal with a deadline can sometimes make you feel more anxious than inspired?

In this episode, I share a personal story about how I realized that my attachment to time-bound goals was actually creating stress, scarcity, and disconnection from the very abundance I teach and strive to live by.

During one of our biggest program enrollments, I experienced a powerful shift: instead of tracking numbers and pushing for results, I decided to remove the “T” from my SMART goals—the “time-bound” part. The moment I released the false urgency and pressure of having to meet a goal by a specific date, something extraordinary happened. I felt lighter, more creative, and deeply connected to Source again.

I talk about:
✨ How time-bound goals can trigger scarcity and stress rather than motivation.
✨ The difference between “relevant” goals and what I now call resonant goals—those that feel aligned with your heart and purpose.
✨ The practice that helped me detach from outcomes and stay rooted in service, joy, and flow.
✨ Why focusing on the journey, rather than the destination, is where true fulfillment—and sustainable success—lives.

By removing the timeline, I opened myself to infinite possibilities—and ironically, it turned out to be our most successful launch ever. But the real win wasn’t in the numbers—it was in how it felt: spacious, peaceful, and abundant.

So if your goals have been feeling heavy or pressured, this episode will invite you to loosen your grip, release the clock, and reconnect to what truly matters. When you stop forcing outcomes on a schedule, you make space for magic.

Listen in, and let’s explore what happens when you take off the “T.”

“When I have an idea that a goal has to be achieved in a certain amount of time, it creates stress and scarcity in my body. When I remove the timeline, I return to abundance.”–Kate Northrup

🎤 Let’s Dive into the Good Stuff on Plenty 🎤

00:00 Introduction to Abundance
00:35 The Concept of Goal Setting
03:37 Challenges with Time-Bound Goals
09:11 Removing False Urgency
11:16 The Journey vs. the Destination
13:10 Conclusion and Invitation to Change

✨ The Money Reset: Feel Good with Money—No Matter How Much You Make

Making more money doesn’t guarantee financial ease… but this will. The Money Reset is a free audio experience designed to help you rewire your nervous system for wealth—so managing money feels effortless. 🎧💸

Inside, you’ll learn how to:
💡 Break the ‘money in, money out’ cycle and create lasting stability.
🎯 Relax into a new relationship with money—where structure meets flow.
✨ Use the 5-Minute Calm Cashflow Ritual to bring instant clarity to your finances.

More money won’t solve money stress—a resourced, supple nervous system will. Ready to shift? 👉 Get The Money Reset Now! 👈

Related Episode:

How I Structure My Days, Weeks & Months to Stay Aligned with My Goals (126)