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Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services

By: Luke Gordon with Choose Recovery Services
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  • Beyond the Facade is a podcast about authenticity and the struggle to be real with ourselves and with others. Each week host Luke Gordon (cofounder of Choose Recovery Services and certified addiction recovery and betrayal trauma coach) and his guests will explore the concepts of integrity and authenticity and how each is essential in building meaningful relationships. Listen in as we explore our own vulnerabilities in order to seek genuine connection to ourselves and to those around us. Join us as we go Beyond the Facade.
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  • 9: Embracing Failure As a Learning Experience

    9: Embracing Failure As a Learning Experience
    Jun 13 2024
    What can the Seattle Seahawks’ dramatic 2015 Super Bowl loss teach us about our relationship with failure? In this week’s episode, Luke illustrates how professional athletes learn from their mistakes by watching game tape. He extends this concept to our own personal development, emphasizing the need to analyze our actions, understand our failures, and grow from them. Takeaways Lack of willpower is not the real problem - it’s having a messed up relationship with failure. Watch “game tape” and analyze failures objectively. Reviewing mistakes allows you to understand what led to them and how to improve. Process failures with coaches and mentors who can provide perspective. Reframe failures as opportunities to learn and evolve. Chapters 00:00 Introduction: The Willpower Myth 01:10 Seattle Seahawks: A Lesson in Failure 04:45 The Importance of Watching Game Tape 06:02 Learning from Failure: Personal Reflections 07:35 Empowerment Through Self-Awareness Don’t Miss This! In-person Intensive: ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on July 17-19, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠. Connect With Us: Learn more about Luke here. Schedule a complimentary consultation here. Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here. Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men: Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community. Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services: Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma. Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery. Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community. Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal. Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
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    10 mins
  • 8: The Art of Empathy - How to Truly Connect

    8: The Art of Empathy - How to Truly Connect
    Jun 6 2024
    Do you ever feel like your efforts at empathy fall short? Listen in as Luke defines what empathy actually is. Instead of trying to fix someone’s painful emotions, you’ll learn how to be truly present, curious, and connected. This episode will challenge you to reevaluate how you show up for others and help you create real emotional intimacy. Takeaways Empathy is about being present with someone’s emotions. The goal of empathy is connection - making the person feel seen, heard, and validated in their emotion. Sharing painful emotions is an attempt to connect - not an attack. Enmeshment and the belief that we are responsible for fixing others’ emotions can hinder genuine empathy. The CAVR tool can help in practicing empathy. Chapters 01:45 Defining Empathy 04:23 Barriers to Empathy 07:12 Practical Steps to Show Empathy 08:59 Empathy in Difficult Situations Don’t Miss This! In-person Intensive: ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on July 17-19, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠. Connect With Us: Learn more about Luke here. Schedule a complimentary consultation here. Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here. Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men: Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie. Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community. Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services: Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma. Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery. Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community. Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal. Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
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    13 mins
  • 7: Rebuilding Trust With Children After Betrayal - With Morgan Ellsworth

    7: Rebuilding Trust With Children After Betrayal - With Morgan Ellsworth
    May 30 2024
    Betrayal affects your partnership in countless ways, but have you thought about the profound impact on your kids? This powerful episode brings that often overlooked perspective to light through guest Morgan Ellsworth’s personal experience and professional expertise. Morgan is a coach at Choose Recovery Services and is passionate about helping individuals process and heal from betrayal trauma. Morgan provides invaluable insights into creating secure attachments and holding space for children’s emotions amidst the chaos of betrayal trauma. This is a must-listen for any parent struggling with how to show up and support their kids through this immense challenge. Takeaways Children experience similar betrayal trauma emotions as the betrayed spouse. Consistency and making repairs are crucial for rebuilding trust. Meet kids where they’re at through empathy and curiosity. Allow space for kids’ anger and grief. Chapters 02:08 Morgan’s Background 03:29 Challenges Fathers Face in Supporting Their Children 07:53 Strategies for Engaging Children 17:04 Navigating Early Recovery and Parenting 28:59 Information About Morgan’s Class Geared Toward Teens 29:52 Information About Morgan’s Class For Adult Children Learn more about Morgan and book a complimentary consultation Don’t Miss This! In-person Intensive: ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on July 17-19, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠. Connect With Us: Learn more about Luke here. Schedule a complimentary consultation here. Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here. Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men: Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community. Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services: Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma. Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery. Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free! Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community. Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal. Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
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    31 mins
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