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  • Passing Judgment

  • Praise and Blame in Everyday Life
  • By: Terri Apter
  • Narrated by: Ann Marie Lee
  • Length: 8 hrs and 17 mins

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Passing Judgment

By: Terri Apter
Narrated by: Ann Marie Lee
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Publisher's Summary

Our obsession with praise and blame begins soon after birth. Totally dependent on others, rapidly we learn to value praise and to fear the consequences of blame. Despite outgrowing an infant's dependence, we continue to monitor others' judgments of us - and develop what relational psychologist Terri Apter calls a "judgment meter", which constantly scans people and our interactions with them, registering a positive or negative opinion.

Apter reveals how interactions between parents and children, within couples, and among friends and colleagues are permeated with praise and blame that range far beyond specific compliments and accusations. Drawing on three decades of research, Apter gives us tools to learn about our personal needs, goals, and values; to manage our biases; to tolerate others' views; and to make sense of our most powerful, and often confusing, responses to ourselves and to others.

©2018 Terri Apter (P)2018 HighBridge, a division of Recorded Books

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